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PrincessP
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Has anyone MASTERED taking care of your family first?
I am just wondering how you figured it out and maybe if you can give insight as to why or what was the "revelation" that determined "I am a mommy/wife now, my family comes first".
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want2beamom
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Re: Has anyone MASTERED taking care of your family first?
I think it is different for everyone. My family always comes first, no matter what. But I have always been like this, even before I got married or had my son. So I can't really explain it
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| Posted 7/2/08 1:55 PM |
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clwp
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Re: Has anyone MASTERED taking care of your family first?
Posted by want2beamom
I think it is different for everyone. My family always comes first, no matter what. But I have always been like this, even before I got married or had my son. So I can't really explain it
Ditto, but now that I'm a mom I can honestly say NOTHING comes before my family. Everything else I do (work is a great example) is for my family, but it is not the first priority - better managers get that too.
I felt family first when mom had a stroke in 2000 and I moved back to LI from Chicago... that may have been my personal pivotting point.
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| Posted 7/2/08 2:02 PM |
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Tah-wee-ZAH
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Re: Has anyone MASTERED taking care of your family first?
Posted by want2beamom
I think it is different for everyone. My family always comes first, no matter what. But I have always been like this, even before I got married or had my son. So I can't really explain it
Same here.
Ten years ago, when I was 27 and he was 57 my father has a massive stroke. It required me to move back home, assume a lot of legal and financial responsibility as well as being his main provider of care once he was discharged from a rehab center.
Having one parent die suddenly when I was 8 and the other pretty severely disabled when I was 27, shifted my priorities in life.
I've always been a hard worker/high achiever but now most of my energy is focused towards my family.
My main source of personal fufillment is not my job, hasn't been for a long time.
No one on their death bed wishes they worked more but many regret not spending more time with their family.
I try to live every day with that thought in mind.
The greatest gift I can give my family is putting us first.
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| Posted 7/2/08 2:10 PM |
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Luv2bAmom
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Re: Has anyone MASTERED taking care of your family first?
When my son ws born I felt that nothing in life was as important as my family, not my job or my friends.
Both have suffer a little because of it, but at the end of the day I know that my son and family are the better for it.
when my son is older he will I hope look back on his childhood and rememebr how Mommy & Daddy were always there for him. Havign had my son at a little older age, I have had alot of me time in this life and now its all about him, and I love it.
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| Posted 7/2/08 2:16 PM |
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Bxgell2
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Re: Has anyone MASTERED taking care of your family first?
This was a hard lesson to learn for me, because as most everyone has seen from my posts, I grew up in a family where family comes last. It caused some serious clashes between Dh and I in the beginning because he grew up in the opposite.
I think the pinnacle moment when it all changed was when my old firm asked that I attend a retreat in Jamaica for 5 days. They said I could bring DH, but not my daughter, so I told Dh he would have to stay home with her. We had a huge fight, and after that I started to understand what he had been trying to hammer into my head for YEARS about how family always always always comes first.
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| Posted 7/2/08 2:20 PM |
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Tah-wee-ZAH
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Re: Has anyone MASTERED taking care of your family first?
Posted by Bxgell2
I think the pinnacle moment when it all changed was when my old firm asked that I attend a retreat in Jamaica for 5 days. They said I could bring DH, but not my daughter, so I told Dh he would have to stay home with her. We had a huge fight, and after that I started to understand what he had been trying to hammer into my head for YEARS about how family always always always comes first.
I remember that post. What a position that firm put you in So glad you are where you are now
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| Posted 7/2/08 2:23 PM |
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Bxgell2
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Re: Has anyone MASTERED taking care of your family first?
Posted by Tah-wee-ZAH
Posted by Bxgell2
I think the pinnacle moment when it all changed was when my old firm asked that I attend a retreat in Jamaica for 5 days. They said I could bring DH, but not my daughter, so I told Dh he would have to stay home with her. We had a huge fight, and after that I started to understand what he had been trying to hammer into my head for YEARS about how family always always always comes first.
I remember that post. What a position that firm put you in So glad you are where you are now
ME TOO! Things always have a way of working out when you have your priorities straight 
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| Posted 7/2/08 2:25 PM |
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PrincessP
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Re: Has anyone MASTERED taking care of your family first?
See but I mean even the more precise family meaning your dh, you and children (not extended family). Like how do you say "No dad I cant come to Thanksgiving bc my child has a fever" ...(very small example) Point being I kinda feel guilty about everything that I need to do for my family and end up giving in due to feeling guilty...KWIM
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| Posted 7/2/08 3:55 PM |
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vegalady
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Re: Has anyone MASTERED taking care of your family first?
My family especially my son comes first. I will leave work in a minute if I have to tend to my son. And i really dont care what they have to say about it. However, I do believe that you have to find that balance with taking care of YOU and taking care of your family.
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| Posted 7/2/08 4:20 PM |
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HillW9608
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Re: Has anyone MASTERED taking care of your family first?
Posted by PrincessP
See but I mean even the more precise family meaning your dh, you and children (not extended family). Like how do you say "No dad I cant come to Thanksgiving bc my child has a fever" ...(very small example) Point being I kinda feel guilty about everything that I need to do for my family and end up giving in due to feeling guilty...KWIM
I see what youre saying.. for me I dont think it was a specific moment.. I just got tired of everyone telling us where we should go and what we should do.
Being 23 I think sometimes I dont get taken as seriously as I would like.
Now the interests and well being of me, fh and dd are most important. If shes sick.. we're home and if you dont understand, oh well!
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| Posted 7/2/08 4:30 PM |
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