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I agree with the above (Halisa) .

I guess I took Melijanes comments to heart because you seemed to imply we shoudl all be OK with dealing with infertility, but if its your OWN feelings then fine, I get it and I misunderstood ...

And what I meant in my own comments was that as soon as a TTC experience needs more input or someone loses a baby, they run here as if those here should assist them every step of the way.

It has happened, continues to happen and its a shame.

How about coming on here ALL THE TIME and offering support to this AWFUL thing called infertility and not just when you need help with research or dont feel like calling your Dr .... That was my point.

I dont think I made my point well, so I apologize if I came across rude.

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I have not yet become an "active" poster here on IF... I guess I'm still in a somewhat denial stage. I wish there were no active IF posters.

I understand the OP's point and although I know it's not ME she is talking about, I do hope nobody feels I am using this board for my own research to get questions answered I don't want to ask my dr. I'm truly intimidated by this board, (or rather IF in general) and at the same time, totally in awe and have such respect and admiration for you ladies that have already been through so much (as I start this journey). I hold all of you going through your treatments in my thoughts and prayers and hope that we all graduate from this board SOON!

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Posted by Gertyrae

Leslie, I don't think this post was directed at you either. Again, it's about people who aren't really dealing with IF or are posting here along with other boards.
As far as your situation is concerned, even though your Dr. said it's a timing issue has he performed any other tests on you. You may have blocked tubes and an HSG would show that right away or your CM may kill DH's sperm and a post-coital test would show that. It seems to me that timing would no longer be an issue after almost a year.

Message edited 2/5/2007 8:51:10 PM.

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Posted by boosh1002

Posted by rose825

There are definately some IFers I would like to hear more from. Those who can't conceive, are considering going to an RE, those doing IUI, those considering IVF etc.

Before I tell my story, I have to say that everyone here has been so helpful with all my dumb questions and such



Well for me I guess you can say that I have just scratched the surface because it took us ten months to finally find a medication that worked for us and yes we were fortunate to get pg on our first IUI, however we werent fortunate to keep the pregnancy.

After a 2nd failed IUI I developed some cysts and had to take a month off, we just started our third cycle of injectables and Im praying that it will be our last.

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I'm sorry if I offended anyone by posting over here. I feel like I don't belong on any of the boards. I am done posting on TTC but don't feel 'ready' to post here daily. I am just beginning infertility testing. Lurking and posting the occasional question here is really helping me to educate myself and prepare for the future, although I still don't know where I am headed.

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I, too, apologize if I have offended anyone on this board (I posted a question a couple of weeks ago about SA and got some very helpful feedback). I am sorry I didn't formally introduce myself, and feel bad if anyone felt hurt by my being on this board. I frequent this board often to read your stories because I pray for you all, and because I fear I may have my own issues that I'm not quite ready to deal with. I've been on the TTC board for a long time now, and have seen many women join the board and graduate before I can get to know them. But I am always THRILLED to see someone graduate. Like unidentified, I'm not quite sure what board I belong on at this point but would never want any of you to feel disrespected.

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On the issue of skipping showers and how we treat friends who are preggo, I just want to point out that you can't judge how a person dealing with IF handles a situation unless you know the relationship. I have not been dealing with this for very long but I skipped a shower b/c it was the shower of someone who made very insensitive remarks to me. I sent a gift. I call to see how she is doing, but if I could somehow erase her remarks, I know that I would be a better friend through the pregnancy. I don't even know if she would want to erase her remarks anyway.

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WOW! What an awesome thread. The lines of communication and friendship are certainly open on this board.
You ladies are simply wonderful and I think about you often.

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Posted by DebG

WOW! What an awesome thread. The lines of communication and friendship are certainly open on this board.
You ladies are simply wonderful and I think about you often.

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Since I'm not here in the evening, I just wanted to throw my 2 cents in.

I think everyone has their own journeys. Some may have "worse" journies than others.

I never thought I'd have to be on an infertility board, just like the rest of you. I also never thought I'd lose my son when I was 8 months pregnant and have to give birth to him and hold him in my arms, not breathing.

Some people aren't sure if they do need to be on the infertility board. When I first came onto this board, I was so intimidated. You all had these long journies with infertility problems and I was just starting out, asking questions about seeing REs and having no idea what an IUI was or what the difference was between IUI and IVF. You guys have taught me a lot and I am grateful. But I'm certainly not going to say that everyone on this board has been as helpful or as welcoming as others. This board is just like everywhere else in the world, some people click and some people don't, and that's just fine and totally understandable and acceptable.

My knowledge about infertility is not even a drop in the bucket compared to some other people on the board's knowledge. And sometimes knowing too much can really mess you up into diagnosing yourself, which is always a bad idea. But if I can help just one person, whether they think they belong here or not, I'm going to. I'd like to think I had a hand in lulugrrl's BFP...lol, and I'd like to think that I've helped everyone even in some small way, just to repay back those on this board who have helped me.

I have been posting on infertility since August, and many of my posts go unanswered or answered by 1 or 2 people, when there are some "board favorites" who can post something and everyone will respond. I try to respond to every post equally and w/o bias, if I know something about what the poster is asking or even if I don't, I'll usually send some anyway.

Anyway, that was my 2 cents. I hope I don't get flamed and I hope I haven't offended anyone, I just needed a little vent time, too. and to all.

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I think everyone's journey is hard, no matter what it is, for the person living it it sucks!!!!!

As for your feeling about people not responding to your posts enough, I understand how that must make you feel. BUt you have to realize that not everyone has the same problem, so if you ask a specific question you will only get answers from a specific few. Also some of the girls have been on this board for years, and yes made real friendships from it. So will they reply quicker to a psot from someone who is a friend IRL, of course, and I dont think you can make fault with that. But finally for me, I know it is easier to comment when I know someones story. When I know where they are on their IF journey, what they are going through. It just makes it more real for me, and I feel more invested in their success. NOt that I dont wish baby dust on everyone, and wish that infertililty didnt exist. I truly do.

BUt if you ask me what makes me drawn to one post over another, my honest answer is how much that poster has drawn me in to their story.

I wish you the best of luck Lauren, no one should have to go through what you did. And no one should have to go through infertility!!!

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Posted by rose825

Posted by DebG

WOW! What an awesome thread. The lines of communication and friendship are certainly open on this board.
You ladies are simply wonderful and I think about you often.

see Don!! NO drama!!!

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Posted by rose825

I think everyone's journey is hard, no matter what it is, for the person living it it sucks!!!!!

As for your feeling about people not responding to your posts enough, I understand how that must make you feel. BUt you have to realize that not everyone has the same problem, so if you ask a specific question you will only get answers from a specific few. Also some of the girls have been on this board for years, and yes made real friendships from it. So will they reply quicker to a psot from someone who is a friend IRL, of course, and I dont think you can make fault with that. But finally for me, I know it is easier to comment when I know someones story. When I know where they are on their IF journey, what they are going through. It just makes it more real for me, and I feel more invested in their success. NOt that I dont wish baby dust on everyone, and wish that infertililty didnt exist. I truly do.

BUt if you ask me what makes me drawn to one post over another, my honest answer is how much that poster has drawn me in to their story.

I wish you the best of luck Lauren, no one should have to go through what you did. And no one should have to go through infertility!!!

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Posted by LaurenExp

Posted by rose825

I think everyone's journey is hard, no matter what it is, for the person living it it sucks!!!!!

As for your feeling about people not responding to your posts enough, I understand how that must make you feel. BUt you have to realize that not everyone has the same problem, so if you ask a specific question you will only get answers from a specific few. Also some of the girls have been on this board for years, and yes made real friendships from it. So will they reply quicker to a psot from someone who is a friend IRL, of course, and I dont think you can make fault with that. But finally for me, I know it is easier to comment when I know someones story. When I know where they are on their IF journey, what they are going through. It just makes it more real for me, and I feel more invested in their success. NOt that I dont wish baby dust on everyone, and wish that infertililty didnt exist. I truly do.

BUt if you ask me what makes me drawn to one post over another, my honest answer is how much that poster has drawn me in to their story.

I wish you the best of luck Lauren, no one should have to go through what you did. And no one should have to go through infertility!!!

Thanks, Pauline. I wish only the best for you and everyone here. I just wanted to get a point across. I think you guys are smart, brave and really great. I just want to be a part of the cool kids club sometimes...

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I really think it boils down to the fact that when people ask real questions and/or are at all confused, the women on this board will help when they can. Sometimes I wish I could answer everyone's questions on here, but I really only know about what I've dealt with personally so I won't answer if I don't know what to say.

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I posted on here a few months ago and got very helpful information and was also directed to a very wonderful woman on here who has been more than a tremendous help. I have very large fibroids and Judy (juju) has been so helpful and her knowledge on this matter has pushed me to seek treatment and her support helped with the anxieties that come along with it. Like her and because of her encouragement, I will be going for surgery in a few weeks.

I have not been diagnosed with IF but I am truly grateful for the information on here and the friend I have made through this board. You ladies are truly an inspiration and your stories, bravery, successes and losses truly touch my heart. I wish you all well in your various journey and henceforth will make more of an effort to be an active participant albeit one without any knowledge BUT I know even if it’s only a hug, it does make a difference.

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I was gone for a while but heres my (final) 2 cents.
Donna,

Thanks for understanding-I was speaking about MY particular way of dealing. Maybe its f-ed up too--there is no manual on how to deal with these feelings

I do consider myself "infertile" I also feel like Lauren in that I am not a part of the "club" It doesn't bother me too much or rarely. I think a lot of it is that it seems that I and some newer people are the only ones dealing with RPL. RPL is so hard because even when you get a BFP-there is no happiness, only a 90%(not a statistic just the way I feel sometimes) chance that you will never meet your baby. You never want to tell anyone you got that BFP.

IF and RPL are both so hard and I would never wish it on anyone. I do feel that these boards are out there to help people get proactive and also let them realize that one DR is not the be-all end-all of knowledge. My purpose for being here is to get information, help others if I can and hopefully be able to have my own baby, from my own womb. If that is not possible-I am open to other options. Gl and to EVERYONE whatever your issue. Pauline-thanks for the civilized discussion!

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To all of you on your journey, it is a difficullt road filled with alot of frustration and alot of tears. I was on it for three years and had 6 miscarriages

I wish you all the best

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