Today would of been my sons' 14th birthday..(Set of twins born prematurely-they lived for about an hour a piece)...My girls are all talking about how old would they be and if I miss them and what did they look like...we go through this every year...its just so hard...My eldest daughter (she's 13 and has Mosaic Down Syndrome) insisted on baking a cake for tonight...UGH...Here I am 14 years later and still struggling with questions like "how many kids do you have" do I include them? do I burden the stranger with the truth? do I just leave them out? and here my girls are making this big fuss and I just want them to stop...
They have an always will be your children. I can understand though not wanting to explain to everyone what happened to them and have to relive that experience. Sorry don't really have any advice just
That's a hard one. I think the cake idea might be there sweet way of honoring their brothers. And as much as it hurts I say let them do it. They might not realize that it's upsetting you. Maybe if you tell them to bake the cake but, leave it a plain cake (no candles) and just have it as dessert. That way they are still doing what they want and, it will lesson the blow on you.
