DH at RE?

So if I'm going to the RE for the first time to discuss TTC, and it's mostly under the pretense that I'm very irregular and more a less a mess ( ), should I bring DH with me?

I don't want to go saying..."gee, it's been 5 mths and I'm not pregnant" because the doctor will laugh and me and tell me to come back in 3mths.......
I want to go and tell him "gee, it's been 5mths and I haven't seen AF .... and, by the way, I 'm not pregnant yet".

So, does DH need to be there?

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For the first meeting with my RE I brought DH. He also came with me to 90% of my appts.

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edit. I didn't realize you hadn't gotten AF in 5 months, I thought you were just saying you hadn't. My apologies.

Message edited 3/19/2007 10:16:05 PM.

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Have you not had AF in 5 months, or you are just going to say that? You must be completely up-front and honest with your Dr., otherwise s/he cannot know how to help you.

Have you been charting? 5 months is not a long time TTCing, do you have reason to think you have IF issues, or are you just in a rush?

Just some things to consider....not everyone who doesn't get pg as quickly as they would like has IF issues...

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not in a rush. i know i should wait a year before i would be concerned.
Since stopping BCP, I haven't gotten AF since November. At all. And it doesn't even feel like it's coming. I guess why I'm nervous is because I was very irregular with extremely painful cramps (whenever AF did finally roll around) when I was a teen....the doc put me on BCP without question and I was on it for 11+ years.

I went to my OBGYN recently and told him this - his reaction was at first like all of yours. But when he sarcastically asked "so, let me guess? you had normal cycles before the pill....?" and I said "no" he then seemed concerned. Said I should see an RE.

Hence the reason I started posting here. I don't mean to make you all frustrated with me. I'm not trying to said naive. I had no idea what an RE WAS before a month ago....you ladies have been so great in helping me get it.

I can wait to conceive...but i'm a little worried about AF not coming for this long. The TTC is something I'd like to happen, but the absense of AF is my priority. Does that make more sense? I hope?

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Ok...so first off I am assuming you aren't 30 yet?
What you probably should do is talk to your OB-GYN first. I know you said you mentioned it after going off the pill, but you should go back and demand a blood workup from your Dr. to check your hormone levels, glucose, etc. If your Dr. doesn't do this then ask him/her to refer you to an RE.
As Kara said, be totally upfront and honest with the RE, they are there to help you.
As far as bringing DH, you probably should...just so he knows what is going on.
Good luck.

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If your OB is sending you to an RE, then good luck. As for your original question I think you should bring DH. Sorry the post got off track it seems like you were misunderstood.

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Right, I understand better now.

If your GYN thinks you should see an RE, then yes, go and bring DH if possible - although it isn't mandatory.

But I am surprised your GYN would pass you off so quickly. My PCP sent me for a water sono when I told him I wanted to TTC, because of my facial hair (he thought I might have PCOS). Your GYN might have suggested an HSG or blood work before passing you off so quickly to at least determine if you have something managable...

I might think about changing GYNs too..good luck!

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I brought DH with me. In case I missed something the Dr said DH was there to hear it too.

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I brought Fh with me because when I hear bad news my brain goes in so many diff dirrections. And then I am so busy thinking of the worse case senario that miss what the doctor is saying. So good luck and definitly bring your DH.

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I would bring him for the 1st meeting. If you haven't had AF for all this time then they will probably run all the tests to see where your levels are at. Good Luck and keep us posted.

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I have my initial RE consultation this week. I was told to bring DH to the first meeting.

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I say bring DH. There may be some questions he needs to answer and the RE will probably want to send him for a semen analysis. Its better that he's there to hear what's happening rather than you having to explain it all. They usually sit with you for an hour and go over your history, so you're better off with him there.

Good luck to you!