I read the most amazing book that practically changed my life. It's called "Codependent No More" by Melody Beattie. She's an amazing author and has like 5 books about codependency. My friend gave it to me and I didn't realize how so many things can make a person codependent. But anyhow, she shows you how to work through the lies you always told yourself growing up and how to finally enjoy life. If anyone is going through any kind of issues of the sort such as being too controlling, worrying too much, getting too emotionally involved with friends/boyfriends/family, etc... please read this! It WILL change your life. Especially if you grew up in an alcoholic/drug abusing family or are an alcoholic/ drug user. Good luck!