Does your DH sabatoge your diet?

I may be crazy - but I think he sub- consciously wants to sabotage me. Its so hard for me to stay fit - especially since I started a new job. I work alot later than I used to, and there is always food in the break room.

But DH constantly buys food that is terrible (cookies, ice cream, fast food). He has a slight weight issue, and he is reluctant to do anything about it. I feel like he sub consciously wants me to gain weight too.

So he will always make me a plate if I ask him not to - he will buy snacks "just in case I want them," or he will make extra "just in case."

Today - for example - he fried chicken and soaked it with a cream sauce... then made me a plate and shoved it under my nose after I asked him not to. Needless to say I ate it - it was great - but he is driving me crazy.

Re: Does your DH sabatoge your diet?

I can't imagine that he's purposely trying to sabotage your efforts...but you're right, he should be supporting you instead of throwing temptations your way. I can totally understand his perspective...whenever I start to feel weak and I'm feeling like something that I really shouldn't have, I find myself convincing DH to have it, too (we're both on WW for almost a year now).

I guess it's partially about thinking that, if both of you are "being bad", it's more justified to continue that behavior...if that makes any sense.

I would definitely talk to him about how you're feeling, though...

Re: Does your DH sabatoge your diet?

I don't think my DH sabatoges me, but he is very lean and never has had to think twice about his weight (lucky!) and even though I've gained almost 20lbs since we've been together, he constantly tells me how great I look. So because of that he tells me I don't need to lose weight and since I'd rather eat the junkfood rather than carrot sticks, I'll eat whatever he eats. That is not his fault one bit and to blaim him would make me look like I'm looking for a scapgoat instead of realizing that I am the only one in control of what I put in my mouth.
In the examples you posted, it does appear that subconsciously your DH is sabatoging you. He's probably thinking what the above poster wrote - if you're both doing it, it isn't so bad. However, you can't blaim him for what you put in your mouth.
I have a very thin gorgeous friend. She said every day her DH questions why she diets and tries to get her to eat junk really late at night. She just holds her ground because she knows what is important to her and how she wants to look. So it can be done.
Just keep saying no and either eventually your DH will get the hint or you will grow so strong at your own stance, his offers won't matter in the least. Good luck.

Re: Does your DH sabatoge your diet?

No, not on purpose but he does eat 5 scoops of ice cream every single night which sometimes makes me want it when I otherwise wouldn't. So I have a stash of fat free Breyers for those weak moments. I try to have alternate snacks so if he is munching on something I can pick something a little healthier. Or if I want what he's having I will but limit myself to say, 2-3 cookies. A lot of times late at night if I just brushed my teeth it makes me not want to eat anything no matter what he's doing!!