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Boobobunny
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when you know something you shouldn't
I work closely with my mngmnt team, so I am privy (sp) to information that I shouldn't always be aware of.
Anyway today I was in on a meeting for a seminar that we are putting together; in which I will be one of the presenters. The topic at one point switch to a particular person. I guess the mngrs in room forgot that I was there...I was the only non mngr in the room)
Anyway things were not positive for this person; who I am very friendly with. I think that this person was just spoken to, and the person looks so upset.
I'm torn a little because I would like to be available as a friend to this person, but his situaton minght end up benefiting me...i'm afraid that this person might know that.
If I don't talk to this person, who is clearly upset...am i being a bad friend?
If I do talk to this person and they feel that I am to blame for this scenerio...am I a snake in the grass?
I didn't ask for anything from management...its just that I developed this persons talk tracks and presentations...(its my job to help new ee's develop their skills)...so mngmnt is thinking that since I am the only person familiar with this particular solutions...that I should step back in and possibly financially benefit from taking over some of the sales oppurtunities.
I'm not really sure what I am asking from all of you....I'm just not sure how to handle this. Please note that not doing the job mngmnt has asked of me...is not an option...if I plan moving vertically. Any advice is appreciated
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Posted 9/19/08 3:26 PM  |
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Re: when you know something you shouldn't
It may seem sneaky, but I would approach this friend as if you didn't know what was going on.
Maybe just shoot them a quick email asking if they're alright...put the ball in his court. If he wants to talk to you about it, he will.
I think it's a prickly position to be in but if you approach it as if you don't know what's going on and just as a friendly ear you will be ok.
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| Posted 9/19/08 3:34 PM |
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Ambersmom
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Re: when you know something you shouldn't
Being that the balance over here seems very delicate right now, I would offer support carefully (and discreetly ) but keep your eye on the ball. You can't help if someone is falling behind at work, it's their place to stay on track. No one is going to fault you for A.) Doing your job B.) Keeping your career a priority. And if they do, that's their tough nuggets
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| Posted 9/19/08 3:37 PM |
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Melbernai
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Re: when you know something you shouldn't
Posted by Jennie0898
It may seem sneaky, but I would approach this friend as if you didn't know what was going on.
Maybe just shoot them a quick email asking if they're alright...put the ball in his court. If he wants to talk to you about it, he will.
I think it's a prickly position to be in but if you approach it as if you don't know what's going on and just as a friendly ear you will be ok.
If you do this don't use EITHER of your work emails! My DH's boss reads ALL of his emails. I'd do it from home to her home email.
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| Posted 9/19/08 3:40 PM |
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MissRadiant
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Re: when you know something you shouldn't
I might sound very harsh but remember that business is business. If you want to be there for the person on a personal basis that is fine-- but dont disclose anything you heard in the meeting. Once things come out in the open then you can say that you didn't have a choice in the matter and just had to do what your superiors requested of you.
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| Posted 9/19/08 3:43 PM |
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Christine
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Re: when you know something you shouldn't
Posted by MissRadiant
I might sound very harsh but remember that business is business. If you want to be there for the person on a personal basis that is fine-- but dont disclose anything you heard in the meeting. Once things come out in the open then you can say that you didn't have a choice in the matter and just had to do what your superiors requested of you.
I was thinking the same thing. Be there as a friend if she calls on you, but don't let on that you know a thing.
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| Posted 9/19/08 3:46 PM |
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JessInCA
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Re: when you know something you shouldn't
Posted by Christine
Posted by MissRadiant
I might sound very harsh but remember that business is business. If you want to be there for the person on a personal basis that is fine-- but dont disclose anything you heard in the meeting. Once things come out in the open then you can say that you didn't have a choice in the matter and just had to do what your superiors requested of you.
I was thinking the same thing. Be there as a friend if she calls on you, but don't let on that you know a thing.
ITA.
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| Posted 9/19/08 4:08 PM |
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Boobobunny
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Re: when you know something you shouldn't
Posted by MissRadiant
I might sound very harsh but remember that business is business. If you want to be there for the person on a personal basis that is fine-- but dont disclose anything you heard in the meeting. Once things come out in the open then you can say that you didn't have a choice in the matter and just had to do what your superiors requested of you.
This is where I am leaning. I did just speak with him...i acted like I knew nothing about his situation. It seems that no one mentioned to him the solutions that they are thinking of...if they did no one mentioned that I have been informed
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| Posted 9/19/08 4:15 PM |
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