How do i????

sorry for crashing this board. but i have to tell my best friend that i am prego. and her and i would have been due around the same time she had a misscarriage about a month ago. i want to do this the right way. i know there isnt going to be a way i can tell her that wont hurt her. if any of you have any advice please let me know.

thank you

Re: How do i????

Congrats to you! Best wishes for a H&H 9 months!

About your friend, honestly I don't know what to tell you. I've had this happen to me twice. I wouldn't call her up jumping up and down excited, even though I know you are! Tell her, but be gentle, tell her you understand that she may be upset and happy for your at the same time, b/c she will be. I had a hard time listening to my 2 friends as they progressed through their pregnancy...sometimes I didn't ask alot of questions. If she doesn't don't be offended.

I think you are an awesome friend for asking others who are in the same boat as your friend!!

Good luck!!

Re: How do i????

I agree with the above poster. I would not offer any details, unless asked. You do not have to act unhappy, but hearing too many details might be hard for your friend. At the same time I would try to keep up other aspects of your relationship and conversation.

MY cousin got pregnant at the same time as I did with one of my miscarriages. I am not that close to her and did not hear too many details, but I was interested and happy for her too. I already had a child at home so that made it a little easier. I do remember the hurt I felt when my good friend announced her pregnancy at the dinner table with friends just weeks after my second miscarriage. I nearly cried and would have definately wanted to hear that in a more private situation. I was happpy for her, but a little annoyed that she blew off my miscarriages as if they happen all the time and no big deal. Yet when her sister later had hers, it was a big deal.

You never know how your friend will react (and neither does she) so I suggest just cutting her some slack if she doesn't react the way you want.

Congrats! Enjoy your pregnancy and entry into motherhood.