Isn't this a nice way for my DH to find out...- Update 11/19

that my SD is having a brain cat-scan !....I get a call today from our insurance company with an authorization # for my SD to have a brain CT done- We have no idea what this is about AT all !....Apparently she was supposed to have had it done on 11/17 and needed to have a
pre- authorization # for the appoinment and the woman was asking me if she had gone yet ....WTH is wrong with my SD mother ???...My DH hasnt spoken on the phone w/ BM is nearly 2 years, since all of this crap happened , only mail- but he is calling there tonight to see what is going on- We are in utter shock- hopefully whatever this is, is not anything serious - I just can't believe her !...This is not the 1st time this has happened...The 1st time my SD got attacked by a dog and had to have plastic surgery on her face and my DH didnt get the call until the day AFTER she got out of the hospital( and this is when we were seeing her ALL the time!), then again when she hit her head and needed stitches ( conflicting stories on how she hit her head- whole 'nother story)- again, didnt find out until the next day...This is all PAS and HAP ( Hostile Aggressive Parenting !!!) Straight out of the books - I'm so disgusted -




" Not inform the other parent in a timely manner when the child has been injured
HAP parents will often not inform the other parent if the child has injured themselves, even if the injuries are serious enough that the child had to be taken to the doctor’s office or hospital. The HAP parent will tell the other parent days later and sometimes not until the other parent’s regular parenting time. Sometimes the HAP parent may use the situation to tell the child that the other parent could not be bothered to see them when they were injured"

I am that my SD is alright, I guess we wil hopefully know more later, if the BM even answers my DH's call Why why why !!!


http://www.hostile-aggressive-parenting.com/symptoms_of_HAP.asp

Update- Well 4 messages later, BM finally called my DH back (from work) ....DH told her that he got a call from the ins. company about a pre-auth and asked her what happened...to which she replied, she hit her head, she's fine...My DH asked where it happened...She said "at home" - "you could always just call her and ask her, shes home now" Never offered any explanation other than that- said she was getting nasueus and headaches afterwards, but she was still allowed to do her cheerleading and horse-back lessons ( as usual thats all this woman is concerned with )

So DH called the house and spoke to my SD who was so much better on the phone than when her mother is there DH said....He asked my SD what happened and she said " I fell down the stairs, I must have been sleep walking " Something does not sound right- my DH didnt press it with her...SD said she was going back to the Dr. today at 4pm to see if she was allowed back at recess at school ( ok, not allowed to do recess, but can do cheerleading and horse lessons, something is not right here ??) And that she was getting her test results, because they said she has a concussion..My DH told her he would call her again on Saturday morning- SD sounded happy to speak to him he said she told him to tell everyone that she loves and misses us ....he also asked her a few questions (without being too obvious) to see what if anything she has gotten in the mail from us- It appears some things she got, some she was like huh'???...We knew it ...Well, maybe this is another baby step- I'm happy that she';s hopefully ok, and also that she knows my DH is concerened about her...I'll update more when we knoiw more...Hopefully it really did happen the way she is saying it did, but we will never know for sure I guess ...thanks for everyones !

Message edited 11/19/2008 4:42:37 PM.

Re: Isn't this a nice way for my DH to find out...

Oh, I your SD is OK! What a Fing Beyotch not to tell you guys what is going on. She really has some BALLS! I hope you document these things for the courts. I am so PIZZED for you right now Again, I hope your SD is ok, please keep us updated

Re: Isn't this a nice way for my DH to find out...

That is absolutely insane!! If I were DH I would drive to her house and demand an explanation if she doesn't return his call in a timely manner. And definately document all of this for the court. How dare she??

Please keep us all posted. I hope she is okay.

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How terrible of bm! She's really doing a number on your SD!

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Well so far DH has left one message..Lets see if he gets a call back, although tonight is not looking promising , since its 9pm....If she does call back, I bet she'll make sure she does it when SD is in school or something , so that DH can't speak to her - This is so frusturating and wrong !!!

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This is so frustrating and sadly, we know exactly how you feel. Unfortunately, this is very common and frightful that these things are allowed to happen in this day and age. She is a completely DISGUSTING human being and I am so sorry for your family and your SD that you are going through this. Many that your SD is ok and that you have a better relationship with her soon.

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Any update on you SD? I hope everything is okay.

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Wow that's crazy. I can't believe she doesn't even tell your DH when your SD needs medical treatment. She's nuts. Did she ever call your DH back?

Re: Isn't this a nice way for my DH to find out...- Update 11/19

Updated at top !

Re: Isn't this a nice way for my DH to find out...- Update 11/19

Your DH must be so relieved to have gotten to actually talk to SD and hear from her. It does sound weird but I'm glad she's okay.

Re: Isn't this a nice way for my DH to find out...- Update 11/19