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CrankyPants
I'm cranky
Member since 7/06 18178 total posts
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Mama Cranky
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Telling people about the MC
I hate this! We had only told a couple people that I was pregnant. A few days after we started to tell people, I miscarried. These people are so kind in asking how the pregnancy is going, but it's tough to tell them that it isn't going well and that in fact I MC. I don't really mind talking about it, it's not that. It's just such an awkward switch in the conversation when they are all happy and then I come in with this terrible news. Ugh.
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Posted 12/19/08 8:20 AM  |
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Novem05
LIF Adolescent
Member since 3/06 677 total posts
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Re: Telling people about the MC
Ugh, I know how you feel. I felt so bad telling people because you can tell how uncomfortable they are.
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| Posted 12/19/08 9:41 AM |
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LnR6604
I'm Gonna be a Big Brother
Member since 5/05 1647 total posts
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Licia
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Re: Telling people about the MC
I totally understand, it is a very uncomfortable situation to be in on both the giving and receiving end.
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| Posted 12/19/08 1:30 PM |
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QuackQuack
LIF Adolescent
Member since 12/06 572 total posts
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Chrissy
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Re: Telling people about the MC
Posted by LnR6604
I totally understand, it is a very uncomfortable situation to be in on both the giving and receiving end.
I completely agree. I found that when I would tell people, I would almost be consoling them, that we are really ok with what happened, it was early, and there's a reason for this. My DH at one point said to me, it's ok to let them feel bad for us. It was a sad thing that happened. THey don't expect you to be perfect happy and cheery.
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| Posted 12/19/08 1:51 PM |
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Lizzy
Carson's Mama
Member since 2/08 2430 total posts
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Elisabeth
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Re: Telling people about the MC
I hated telling people. It was like re-living the story over and over again. Fortunately we are pregnant again but it's still awkward because people are like "aren't you due in March?" and I have to tell them "no, now we are due in July..." and then go into the whole story. It's just depressing.
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| Posted 12/19/08 4:56 PM |
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sleepie76
enjoying every minute
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Re: Telling people about the MC
ughh... those phone calls were the worst!
I was sooo thankful we only told close friends & immediate family about the pregnancy. Only a few calls to make.
Those phone calls were brutal. Their shock, the silence, then you feel them feeling bad.
I agree, I began consoling them. Telling them it's ok.
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| Posted 12/19/08 5:56 PM |
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smdl
I love Gary too..on a plate!
Member since 5/06 32461 total posts
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me
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Re: Telling people about the MC
DH told our family and friends. I only personally told my mom.
I was at a party recently with a few LIFers who already knew. I realized I had never talked about it "live" though. It was all done through DH or via emails/FMs/posts. I actually lost it. It was not pretty. I thought I was over it. I guess it was just telling someone about what had happened, how I knew I was losing the baby. The emotions, disappointment resurfaced in a matter of seconds. I am glad I sent DH to tell most people. I don't think I would have been able to handle it.
Message edited 12/19/2008 6:04:31 PM.
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| Posted 12/19/08 6:03 PM |
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LemonHead
Sour Girl
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Re: Telling people about the MC
We had only told our closest friends and family, so it wasn't bad b/c they were actually a big help to us when we needed them. It still is an awkward thing for others, but not something I'm embarrassed of, KWIM? It's hard to explain.
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| Posted 12/20/08 6:53 AM |
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Sneezy
Thankful for my miracle!
Member since 5/05 1939 total posts
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Jen
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Re: Telling people about the MC
Been there. The "congratulations" comments were the hardest to respond to.
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| Posted 12/21/08 8:33 AM |
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luvsbob4603
To a healthy 2013
Member since 5/05 21840 total posts
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To a brand new year to a healthier me
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