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LIBOUND
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An anonymous email to a stinky coworker?
We have a really bad situation over hear with Miss Stinky Mildew Smelly Clothes and no one, not ever her boss ,wants to address this. It's a small, company, so there's no HR to handle this kind of situation.
I know there was a website a while ago that would send these kinds of emails, but I forgot what it was.
Does anyone have any suggestions?
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Re: An anonymous email to a stinky coworker?
I don't know about a website that does that but you or someone in your company can create a new email address to send her something but I think that's really inappropriate. How do you think she would feel getting an email from an anonymous source saying she smells? How would you feel to get something like that?
Is there someone in the office she is really close to that could talk to her - as a friend, maybe outside the office? If not, then I think the boss or owner should just step up and have the awkward conversation.
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| Posted 2/10/09 1:03 PM |
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PrincessP
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Re: An anonymous email to a stinky coworker?
I think what you want to do sounds horrible. If you wanted to be this persons "hero" you should speak to them directly not send a "not so nice" email. TBH...I am not sure I even would put this in your court. Can you speak to your supervisor?
If this doesnt change I would only change what YOU can change which means if its smelling up your area then spray something or keep something fresh smelling on your desk. Do you need to interact with this person?
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| Posted 2/10/09 1:04 PM |
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JennyPenny
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Re: An anonymous email to a stinky coworker?
Posted by Christine
I don't know about a website that does that but you or someone in your company can create a new email address to send her something but I think that's really inappropriate. How do you think she would feel getting an email from an anonymous source saying she smells? How would you feel to get something like that?
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| Posted 2/10/09 1:04 PM |
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sweetie101
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Re: An anonymous email to a stinky coworker?
i rather someone tell me. bc getting a email is more hurtful but i never been in that situation
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| Posted 2/10/09 1:10 PM |
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MrsPorkChop
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Re: An anonymous email to a stinky coworker?
http://www.nooffenseoranything.com/bodyodor.html
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| Posted 2/10/09 1:10 PM |
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dpli
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Re: An anonymous email to a stinky coworker?
Talk to her yourself if you can't stand it.
We have a similar situation at work and my philosophy on this is if you don't have the cajones to say something to the person directly, you suffer in silence. I haven't talked to our person either, but I have told other co-workers to stop complaining to me about him. JMO, but I think it is more degrading to send this email than to have a conversation with the person about it.
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| Posted 2/10/09 1:16 PM |
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1stimemom
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Re: An anonymous email to a stinky coworker?
I agree. Either have the nerve to say something or suffer. I think an e-mail would be rude. I wouldn't want it done to me, but I would want to know.
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Re: An anonymous email to a stinky coworker?
Posted by dpli
Talk to her yourself if you can't stand it.
We have a similar situation at work and my philosophy on this is if you don't have the cajones to say something to the person directly, you suffer in silence. I haven't talked to our person either, but I have told other co-workers to stop complaining to me about him. JMO, but I think it is more degrading to send this email than to have a conversation with the person about it.
I completely agree.
We have a severe smell situation at work too. The only reason why I am letting it go is he's a temp that's here for 2 more weeks. On some level, I think it's a disservice to him to not tell him because he's going to be in the market for a new job & no one will hire him smelling like that.
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| Posted 2/10/09 1:42 PM |
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LIBOUND
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Re: An anonymous email to a stinky coworker?
Didn't know the fans would be flamed so high!!
I honestly didn't think this was a bad thing to post.
You go up to someone and tell them they smell. I dare ya!!
And yes, I have big cojones, but have some tact and that's why it should be anonymous so as to not hurt her feelings outright.
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| Posted 2/10/09 2:00 PM |
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LIBOUND
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Re: An anonymous email to a stinky coworker?
Thank you!!
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| Posted 2/10/09 2:01 PM |
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Re: An anonymous email to a stinky coworker?
Posted by LIBOUND
And yes, I have big cojones, but have some tact and that's why it should be anonymous so as to not hurt her feelings outright.
Do you really think that implying that everyone talks about her smell behind her back is nicer or more tactful than someone discreetly telling her to her face?
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| Posted 2/10/09 2:34 PM |
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LIBOUND
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Re: An anonymous email to a stinky coworker?
I'm not responding any more, I'm moving on..
I got the website and that's all I wanted.
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| Posted 2/10/09 2:40 PM |
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LIBOUND
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Re: An anonymous email to a stinky coworker?
Posted by nov04libride
Posted by LIBOUND
And yes, I have big cojones, but have some tact and that's why it should be anonymous so as to not hurt her feelings outright.
Do you really think that implying that everyone talks about her smell behind her back is nicer or more tactful than someone discreetly telling her to her face?
but to answer you, yes everyone talks behind her back. Even her boss. Yes, it's sad, but it's true. I'm just trying to put an end to this.
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| Posted 2/10/09 2:42 PM |
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PrincessP
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Re: An anonymous email to a stinky coworker?
"You go up to someone and tell them they smell. I dare ya!!"
No, lets play scavenger hunt of who wrote a nasty email...LOL
Didnt you ask for advice???
I mean if you wanted a website and that was it then I guess we didnt need to hear the story, right?
I know...you are done.
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| Posted 2/10/09 2:46 PM |
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1stimemom
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Re: An anonymous email to a stinky coworker?
Posted by LIBOUND
Didn't know the fans would be flamed so high!!
I honestly didn't think this was a bad thing to post.
You go up to someone and tell them they smell. I dare ya!!
And yes, I have big cojones, but have some tact and that's why it should be anonymous so as to not hurt her feelings outright.
No one flamed you, we were offering a different perspective.
And yes, I would and HAVE told people about body odor -= stangers in a not so delicate way, and co workers in an appropriate fashion. I have also had to reprimand peope about their skany attire, but that is a different story....
Her feelings will be hurt regardless, so why not give her a little more dignity, KWIM?
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Re: An anonymous email to a stinky coworker?
It's not a comfortable conversation at all to have, however, it is definitely something that can be addressed appropriately.
I've had to do this more times than I can count with clients.
While I haven't had this exact situation with a colleague, I have had to have other "uncomfortable" conversations with them. The dress conversation is one I have had several times actually.......
I also wonder if by sending an email like that from the company, from that kind of website, could come back and screw everyone in the end !!!?????
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Re: An anonymous email to a stinky coworker?
Posted by LIBOUND
Didn't know the fans would be flamed so high!!
I honestly didn't think this was a bad thing to post.
You go up to someone and tell them they smell. I dare ya!!
And yes, I have big cojones, but have some tact and that's why it should be anonymous so as to not hurt her feelings outright.
You think sending an anonymous email to someone telling them they smell is TACTFUL?
If your cajones are so big, then speak to her personally, privately, in a non-confrontational way. An anonymous email is a cowardly, insensitive, and inappropriate way to handle the situation.
And if her boss does not think this is an issue that needs to be addressed, then perhaps the problem isn't as bad as you think it is?
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Re: An anonymous email to a stinky coworker?
Posted by LIBOUND
Posted by nov04libride
Posted by LIBOUND
And yes, I have big cojones, but have some tact and that's why it should be anonymous so as to not hurt her feelings outright.
Do you really think that implying that everyone talks about her smell behind her back is nicer or more tactful than someone discreetly telling her to her face?
but to answer you, yes everyone talks behind her back. Even her boss. Yes, it's sad, but it's true. I'm just trying to put an end to this.
I would be hestitatnt to paint yourself as the hero in this situation...
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ave1024
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Re: An anonymous email to a stinky coworker?
Posted by LIBOUND
We have a really bad situation over hear with Miss Stinky Mildew Smelly Clothes and no one, not ever her boss ,wants to address this. It's a small, company, so there's no HR to handle this kind of situation.
I know there was a website a while ago that would send these kinds of emails, but I forgot what it was.
Does anyone have any suggestions?
That is just *so* passive-aggressive. I can't stand passive aggressive people in general, so if I was that person this would really set me off.
Either tell the person in person, or just ignore the situation.
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Re: An anonymous email to a stinky coworker?
How does having tact translate into sendingit anonymously? That protects YOU, not her.
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| Posted 2/17/09 7:45 PM |
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Re: An anonymous email to a stinky coworker?
I have to say, I think that is the meanest thing you could possibly do. It is just so cruel- an anonymous email. 
Please step outside of yourself for a moment and think about how you feel if someone sent you such an email. Don't think what would be easier for YOU to do, and think what would be easier for HER to hear. Don't you think it would be better having a mature dialogue about it?
IMO, its the boss' responsiblity to deal with this.
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