So, I'm back to "normal," but at a crossroads...

My doctor told me I could skip the weekly bloodtest last week and go back this week. Since I had gotten what seemed like a period (even with remaining hormones in my body), I decided to begin OPKs on Monday to see what was what. Sooo...

Yesterday (and this morning too) I got the ovulation surge and finally the pregnancy test was negative!! HOOORAY!!!! But here's the problem...

My very conservative and anxiety-inducing doctor told me to wait two periods to try again. She told me it would be a "catastrophe" if I got pregnant now since we wouldn't know what hormones were what, etc. I feel like I got one period, I know when I'm ovulating now...what's the big deal?? We had sex last night...TMI alert...but exercised caution if you know what I mean.

Would you go for it tonight or wait one more month?

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Well, you know me - I conceived Alex even BEFORE I got my first AF after my miscarriage. Now, I won't lie, it made things very difficult - I don't know if I was emotionally ready, and it was insanely difficult to date the pregnancy - but she's as healthy as an Ox, has always been, and I had absolutely NO complications with my pregnancy.

My doc also told me to wait 2 months, but by the time he told me that, it was too late - so, of course, I was terrified, but he reassured me that there is absolutely NO stastistical evidence that getting pregnant after an m/c will compromise the next pregnancy

Re: So, I'm back to "normal," but at a crossroads...

At my one week appointment, my doc said that we could start right away and well, you know the rest He said that there was no reason to wait and I felt very comfortable with that.

Re: So, I'm back to "normal," but at a crossroads...

When I had my m/c my doc asked me to wait only for my mental well being. He said physically I could start trying again when I was ready, but emotionally he wanted me to heal before I started trying again. We never really quit trying because I felt that would be worse for me in the end, but we did not bd as much as we could have either. My ob also said that research used to say getting pg again right after a m/c increased the risk for another m/c but that that was proven false. HTH and good luck!

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I know how much you want to try right now I was in that position myself and after my first m/c all I wanted was to be pg again so that I could move on from everything. My dr. told us to wait 2 months and we did but I still had a 2nd m/c. I'm convinced that my body had not fully recovered from the stress of the first m/c & I found out my hormones were low etc. I would recommend doing some more investigation as to why the first m/c happened, unless you know already, just as a precautionary measure. Whatever you decide will be the right decision for you and goodluck.

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I think the Dr. saying catastrophe is kinda silly.

You got your period, your pregnancy test is negative & you know when you are Oing... I would go for it if that is what you want.

I was told to wait one cycle.
I got pregnant 1 cycle after m/c (wasn't even trying). I lost it, but my doctor said it had nothing to do with not waiting longer.

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It is such a hard decision. For me, my mental state was so fragile after different types of losses so I'd actually feel differently each time. Sometimes it became like a battle to me and no one would tell me when I was ready after my loss.

I wish you lots of

Re: So, I'm back to "normal," but at a crossroads...

I went through the same struggle. My dr told us to wait one cycle before starting up again. We didn't do anything to prevent pregnancy before my first cycle but because we didn't know what my cycle was I wouldn't say we were actively TTC. After 1 AF, we started actively TTC again. I would think you should be fine at this point as long as you are prepared emotionally.