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kimbalina
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SusiBee
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Re: Bummed.. lost a friend? - vent
It's difficult, but sometimes friendships just die for no reason at all.
Seems like your friend is shutting herself in, especially since you mentioned that she hasn't seen her own sister for a while.
Go one with your other friendships, but keep this girl in your heart. She may reach out to you in the future, or she may not. The ball is in her court now.
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| Posted 3/30/09 9:50 AM |
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GioiaMia
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Re: Bummed.. lost a friend? - vent
I agree that sometimes we just lose friends ( lol i lost all of mine ) but in this case it really may just be the pregnancy. i know that i am EXHAUSTED after work and I am not even pregnant! I cant even imagine what it must be like and on the weekends i sometimes feel like all i want to do is catch up on my sleep!
i would keep the communication open, but dont go crazy about it - i bet once she gets settled into motherhood your friendship will be renewed!
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| Posted 3/30/09 9:51 AM |
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baghag
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Re: Bummed.. lost a friend? - vent
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I agree that sometimes we just lose friends ( lol i lost all of mine ) but in this case it really may just be the pregnancy. i know that i am EXHAUSTED after work and I am not even pregnant! I cant even imagine what it must be like and on the weekends i sometimes feel like all i want to do is catch up on my sleep!
i would keep the communication open, but dont go crazy about it - i bet once she gets settled into motherhood your friendship will be renewed!
I agree, especially since it doesn't seem to be you specifically that she isn't seeing. 
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| Posted 3/30/09 9:59 AM |
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kimbalina
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EsquireFish
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Re: Bummed.. lost a friend? - vent
Can you go visit her at her place, bring movies and stuff? Is she having a very difficult pregnancy? I don't want to tell you to let a friendship die if there is a real reason she isn't going out, what if it is something medical?
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| Posted 3/30/09 10:30 AM |
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kimbalina
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Re: Bummed.. lost a friend? - vent
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MrsPJB2007
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Re: Bummed.. lost a friend? - vent
that sux that you are trying and getting nothing back.
don't try so much anymore -- and just let it pan out and see what happens. attend her shower and all that, but you shouldn't have to chase after her to be your friend.
yes she is pregnant and that can change you emotionally & hormonally so i give her a little more slack for her behavior, but it doesn't excuse her for just completely dodging your friendship like this.
maybe when the baby comes and she has days when she wants to rip her hair out she might appreciate your friendship again.  but for now, i don't think there is anything wrong with pulling back and seeing what happens
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Lizzie217
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Re: Bummed.. lost a friend? - vent
Kim Im sorry This would really bother me also. The only thing I can think of is that maybe something is bothering her and she is avoiding you bc she doesn't want to share and she knows if you two hang out she will spill the beans? I don't know just a random thought 
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KittyKatCopper
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Re: Bummed.. lost a friend? - vent
Maybe things will turn around once she has the baby...i'd just give her space & see what happens...sorry you are being the giver all the time 
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| Posted 3/30/09 1:55 PM |
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kimbalina
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Re: Bummed.. lost a friend? - vent
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MrsFab
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Re: Bummed.. lost a friend? - vent
This happened when my friend was pregnant- so a couple of us actually just descended on her- we called her in the afternoon, told her we were going grocery shopping and we were gonna make her dinner. And she was thrilled, didnt even try and tell us not to come- we talked during dinner and told her how excited we were for our new neice but that we felt left out of this special time since we had not seen her in such a while
I dont know if that would work in every case- but in my group, we're all a little rude and used to each other but I would definately talk if I were you
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| Posted 3/31/09 1:44 PM |
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kimbalina
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Re: Bummed.. lost a friend? - vent
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stayandjohn
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Re: Bummed.. lost a friend? - vent
Sorry to crash the board, but I have to tell you that pregnancy can literally wipe you out. My DH would get home at 7 I'd be in bed and fast asleep by 7:05.
I bet once she hits her 3rd tri-mester she will have an energy burst and she'll be hounding you to go out and do things before her baby comes.
Good luck 
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thewinterone
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Re: Bummed.. lost a friend? - vent
People complain about pregnancy hormones a lot.
Maybe she knows she's better off not having anyone around?
I would try again after she gives birth.
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| Posted 3/31/09 5:36 PM |
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kimbalina
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Re: Bummed.. lost a friend? - vent
Posted by stayandjohn
Sorry to crash the board, but I have to tell you that pregnancy can literally wipe you out. My DH would get home at 7 I'd be in bed and fast asleep by 7:05.
I bet once she hits her 3rd tri-mester she will have an energy burst and she'll be hounding you to go out and do things before her baby comes.
Good luck
Thanks for your comment. I hope that you are right about the 3rd trimester!! I would love to get her out!
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LSP2005
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Re: Bummed.. lost a friend? - vent
Sorry to intrude on this board, but when I was PG with DS I could barely keep my eyes open. I was in bed at 8 pm every night. I used to be a complete night owl. With this pg it is a little different. While I am tired, it is not as bad - the first one I felt like I was hit by a Mac truck every day. With the other PG I literally shuttered myself in because it was the only way I could deal with the PG. I had friends do what you are describing and I felt so badly. It took a while to convince them that I really wanted to continue the friendship, so for your friend's sake, I hope that you are able to go to her even though friendship is a 2 way street.
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Cheeks24
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Re: Bummed.. lost a friend? - vent
Posted by kimbalina
Posted by EsquireFish
Can you go visit her at her place, bring movies and stuff? Is she having a very difficult pregnancy? I don't want to tell you to let a friendship die if there is a real reason she isn't going out, what if it is something medical?
From what she has told me and i have heard from her cousin,.,, everything is fine! Which is great.
I have offered to bring a movie over, or pizza or come to her... (by the way we live 6 miles apart and we both drive). But she 'will let you know later this week'.. when I don't hear back I try again, and get either no reponce or that she is busy
It could be that the pregnancy is taking a toll on her and she's just not in the mood. I'm sure she doesn't mean to do it.
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| Posted 4/1/09 9:48 AM |
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kimbalina
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Re: Bummed.. lost a friend? - vent
Posted by LSP2005
Sorry to intrude on this board, but when I was PG with DS I could barely keep my eyes open. I was in bed at 8 pm every night. I used to be a complete night owl. With this pg it is a little different. While I am tired, it is not as bad - the first one I felt like I was hit by a Mac truck every day. With the other PG I literally shuttered myself in because it was the only way I could deal with the PG. I had friends do what you are describing and I felt so badly. It took a while to convince them that I really wanted to continue the friendship, so for your friend's sake, I hope that you are able to go to her even though friendship is a 2 way street.
Thanks for posting. I understand that she may not want to go out and such, but a phone call or text would be suffient at this point. LOL
Which I did receive two nights ago, but just checking my address for a shower invite. 
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ThePinkGoose
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Re: Bummed.. lost a friend? - vent
I just want to say that it may just be her pregnancy. I LOOOOVE my SIL but when she is pregnant, we can't stand each other. I don't know what it is but her whole personality changes and she's so touchy. I wouldn't technically walk away from her, just give her some space and understanding.
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Jonsgirl04
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Re: Bummed.. lost a friend? - vent
Kim, I totally understand! My friend was like this when she was preggo. SHe totally avoided anyone her entire pregnancy. I saw her at her shower and i did go to the hospital after the baby was born. She is alot better now. She told me she was just depressed and felt disgusting at the time. She isnt around much still but she has gotten alot better calling me email and texting. We hang out too on occasion. We are back on board again. I hope she is just going through the same thing. But I agree if you can get your other freinds on board crash her house!! LOL
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| Posted 4/3/09 12:04 PM |
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kimbalina
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Re: Bummed.. lost a friend? - vent
Posted by Jonsgirl04
Kim, I totally understand! My friend was like this when she was preggo. SHe totally avoided anyone her entire pregnancy. I saw her at her shower and i did go to the hospital after the baby was born. She is alot better now. She told me she was just depressed and felt disgusting at the time. She isnt around much still but she has gotten alot better calling me email and texting. We hang out too on occasion. We are back on board again. I hope she is just going through the same thing. But I agree if you can get your other freinds on board crash her house!! LOL
I am glad that you two are doing better now. That makes me hopeful.
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I'm on Long Island and I have a bunch of friends in the city. I could not go to see them at all while I was pregnant. Before the pregnancy I was always the one going to them because I wanted to be in the city. It had to change and I could not help that.
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heathergirl
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Re: Bummed.. lost a friend? - vent
One of my best friends got pregnant and had a baby and we rarely see each other. It makes me sad, yes, but she will always be a friend and I will always be there for her regardless of the time thats passed. I know her life is different and I can't really relate, but she can't relate either when I'm going out dancing and she's got the baby to be with. I don't get mad; no matter what, her having a baby isn't something for me to stop being friends over, and also, I don't think of it as keeping her away from me.
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