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Christine2
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hard to wait
Why is it that doctors recommend waiting at least one cycle after a chemical pregnancy? I find it so hard to hold off trying and I am not sure I am being careful enough to avoid another potential BFP. I was so bummed after the first loss. I keep thinking that maybe I have something wrong with me that prevented the first from sticking, and if it is a recurring problem, I rather find out sooner. DH thinks I am overreacting, of course.
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Posted 9/16/09 9:37 PM  |
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jennarose023
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Re: hard to wait
I would wait...my original doc told me that i didn't have to wait even one cycle and i got PG right away without even seeing AF after my D&C but it seems that my body or something wasn't ready and I lost that one too. You need to follow your body and do what you feel is right. I know it will be hard to wait a cycle but if the doc recommends I would follow suit. Feel free to FM me if you need to talk!  For you..
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| Posted 9/17/09 7:22 AM |
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Lisa982006
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Re: hard to wait
I know its tough Did you ask your doctor why you have to wait the 1 cycle? My doctor said I should wait 2 cycles after my d&c. I didnt want to wait that long so I asked if I would be at any more risk if I got PG before 2 cycles. She said I woudlnt be at anymore risk and that they only ask to wait so its not so difficult to date the pregnancy.
As soon as I stopped bleeding from my d&c we were trying. I got AF the beginning of this month (so thats 1 cycle) and we are actively trying right now.
Thats just me though. I would ask. Good luck!!
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| Posted 9/17/09 7:26 AM |
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secretlyttc
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Re: hard to wait
My dr. told me to wait 2 cycles after my chemical. I initally felt the same way that you did, and wanted to start right away, but for me the time to heal emotionally and for my body to regulate itself (well, not that my cycles are ever regular), turned out to be good. It was good to take a break and focus on other things.
Best of luck with whatever you decide to do. 
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| Posted 9/17/09 9:08 AM |
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zoe282
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Re: hard to wait
I don't think they have you wait for any other reason than so they can date the pregnancy. Without AF it's very difficult. But I know a woman who had a very successful pregnancy before she got AF after her m/c. Personally I think it's in god's hands. But I would wait at least one cycle if you can...at least before you activily try...but yes it is extremly hard to wait!
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| Posted 9/17/09 9:19 AM |
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Ever-After
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Re: hard to wait
YES - waiting is sooo hard. When this first happened my initial thought was to immediately try again as soon as I next ovulated. But we decided that it would be better to give a little time in between. Ugh. I hate waiting - it feels like FOREVER away!!!!
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| Posted 9/17/09 9:48 AM |
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MetsGirl07
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Re: hard to wait
i do think its important to wait at least 1 cycle to get your body back.. to make sure AF shows up when it is supposed to.
but when doctors say to wait more than 1 cycle.. i personally feel its for emotional reasons..
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| Posted 9/17/09 10:12 AM |
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Lisa982006
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Re: hard to wait
Posted by MetsGirl07
but when doctors say to wait more than 1 cycle.. i personally feel its for emotional reasons..
I agree Deanna. I think a lot of women think they are ready when they arent. Even though we are actively trying now, sometimes I have these moments where I think to myself "I might be pregnant" and I kind of freak out.
I think the first trimester will be hard for most of us. I know for me personally its going to be but I feel like whether I wait 1 cycle or 10, that little bit of fear will always be there.
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| Posted 9/17/09 11:38 AM |
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MetsGirl07
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Re: hard to wait
Posted by Lisa982006
Posted by MetsGirl07
but when doctors say to wait more than 1 cycle.. i personally feel its for emotional reasons..
I agree Deanna. I think a lot of women think they are ready when they arent. Even though we are actively trying now, sometimes I have these moments where I think to myself "I might be pregnant" and I kind of freak out.
I think the first trimester will be hard for most of us. I know for me personally its going to be but I feel like whether I wait 1 cycle or 10, that little bit of fear will always be there.
yea i remember when i started trying again both times, i knew i wasn't emotionally ready.. but did anyway just because i thought i was "wasting time"
but i do get why they doctors add on a few more months for emotional purposes.
and as far as being PG again .. it is always a worry probably for all of us that had a loss... its definitely so scary! and you are honestly never in a "safe" zone.. i know for myself i will never think that way again.. its sad.. and i know i have to just try to enjoy it.. but its hard.. i really do HATE the 1st trimester though.. 
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| Posted 9/17/09 12:38 PM |
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Re: hard to wait
The dr. who did my D & C told me to wait 2 cycles & my original OBGYN said he doesn't think there is any reason to wait more than one. I waiting for emotional & personal reasons & am so happy I did. I am not as nervous, frantic or emotional...I feel ready  Best of luck to you & welcome to the board
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| Posted 9/17/09 12:56 PM |
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bride07
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Re: hard to wait
I'm sorry to hear.
I know my doctor said just wait one cycle...just so you know your body is back to normal.
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| Posted 9/17/09 4:50 PM |
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Ever-After
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Re: hard to wait
Posted by Lisa982006
I think the first trimester will be hard for most of us. I know for me personally its going to be but I feel like whether I wait 1 cycle or 10, that little bit of fear will always be there.
ITA. No matter how long i wait before TTC again, I still know that that first trimester is going to be a bit unnerving for me. I feel like I'm going to wake up every morning in fear of finding blood like I did this time. 
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| Posted 9/17/09 8:20 PM |
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Lisa982006
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Re: hard to wait
Posted by Ever-After
Posted by Lisa982006
I think the first trimester will be hard for most of us. I know for me personally its going to be but I feel like whether I wait 1 cycle or 10, that little bit of fear will always be there.
ITA. No matter how long i wait before TTC again, I still know that that first trimester is going to be a bit unnerving for me. I feel like I'm going to wake up every morning in fear of finding blood like I did this time.
I know for sure Im going to be like this  It really just amazes me how different having a baby turned out to be from what I always imagined. I know its been said before but its really just is so ironic that for all these years we take precautions NOT to get pregnant thinking that even the tiniest drop of sperm might potentially get us pregnant with octuplets and then when we actually TRY and WANT to, it takes longer then we thought or it just doesnt turn out healthy. I NEVER considered any of these things before we started trying. M/C sucks but it relly puts a lot in prospective.
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