New Here

Hi everyone
I have been lurking on here for a while and finally decided I should join you wonderful ladies.

I was 12 weeks pregnant when I found out my baby was not developing properly and had stopped growing. I had to get a D&C.

As horrible as it was, I thought I was okay. I got through it and wanted to move on.

Recently, I have been feeling very down about it. I keep asking why did this have to happen to me. I just want answers. I feel like everyone around me is pregnant and it gets me so mad. I'm so happy for them but all I could think about is I was due months before them and now I'm no longer pg.

I'm so scared of this happening again. All I want is a healthy baby.

Sorry for rambling... just wanted to get this out. Thanks for listening.

Nicole

Message edited 9/12/2010 4:34:17 PM.

Re: New Here

Welcome Nicole! First off, Im sorry for what you recently experienced. Unfortunately, I dont think anyone of us have answers as to why it happens to us.... There are many scientific reasons but none seem to satisfy the "why me"... My best advice is to visit the boards as it is very helpful to share the experience with those who know what you're going through. Many times friends and family just don't understand. Best wishes to you!!

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I know how you feel, unfortunately

I lost my son at 17.5 weeks. In that time, I felt him .. I started looking pregnant.. EVERYONE knew ........ We had so many hopes and expectations and no sign before 16wks that anything was wrong.

I can't help but count what week of pregnancy I SHOULD be right now (approaching 22wks ).... and what stinks is seeing people who were around where I was. I saw someone recently who is due a few weeks before me and just got so seeing her with her belly..... It's just not fair. I followed all the rules and did EVERYTHING right.

Anyway, one thing I learned is nothing in the world will make me feel better until I am pregnant again- and even then I won't be able to truly enjoy it until I am back where I was at my last pregnancy where I got bad news- and actually get GOOD news this time

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Thank you... I'm so sorry to hear about your loss. It's just so hard... I'm glad we have this site to talk to each other... we're the only ones that know what its like... people that think they do have no clue...
Wishing everyone a healthy pregnancy soon

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I am so sorry for what you are going through. I am new to this group as well and unfortunately I like you would love the answer to why this happens to us, when we do everything right. I find this board helpful because unless you've been through it you have no idea. I have found comfort here. It will help give you support. It will get easier everyday, you wont forget but will be able to manage. I could not get out of bed and now I trying to get back into my life and very eager to try again. You will get there.

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I'm really sorry to hear about your loss. I think one of the worst parts is that there are no real answers...and that is what most of us are looking for. Everyone experiences something different and most of the time there is no rhyme or reason. :( I hope you can find some peace with it soon.

Its been over a year since mine..and I am now almost 7 months pregnant but I still feel saddened by what happened sometimes..but now I am happy that this baby in my belly is supposed to be mine...

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Hi Nicole,
I am also new here. Just registered.
I know how you feel. Last May I gave birth at 25 wks. My daughter was born at 14 ounces. She fought to stay alive for 6 days. And I had 6 days to tell her how much her Mom and Dad loved her. Loosing her was the worst experience of my life
We found out we were pregnant again about 7 weeks ago. I have been going to endless doctors appointments. They did not see a heart beat and then they suddenly did. But, just when we thought it was all good, the doctor called yesterday to tell me that my hormone levels were not rising and I have to terminate the pregnancy. So, now I'm on lost baby number two and I just want to crawl into a hole and die. At my job 3 women are pregnant and beginning to show and I would never wish the pain I went through on them, but I also am jealous and it hurts to look at them. I was excited to finally be pregnant again and I had so many hopes that are now shattered. But, I guess the only thing that keeps me going is knowing that I am not alone. Reading some of the posts has helped me to realize that some people have suffered way more than I have and although it sucks for all us women, at least you feel a little better knowing that not EVERYONE has the perfect pregnancy and you're just the odd one out. Best of luck to you.
Jeanine

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Jeanine I'm so sorry that you are going through this. It really sucks that we have to deal with such a loss and become so saddened. Something that should be the happiest moment of our lives becomes the saddest. It's so stressful because anything could go wrong at any time.
We just have to be hopeful and believe that we will have healthy babies because we deserve to.
I know what you mean about seeing other pregnant people... I feel like that is all I have been hearing about... all I could think is how I would have been sharing the news with them not them sharing with me.
Again, I'm so sorry you are going through this.. I hope you heal soon and are able to move on.
I'm here to talk if you need anything!
xoxo

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As sad as it is to be on this thread, I have found it to be so supportive. We may not always have the answers that one is looking for, but there is so much support. It is great to just come on here and vent and know that you are not alone or to hlep someone else and let them know they are not alone.