if you are childless and dont want to be..but

you think you may have to come to terms with it due to infertility and not having enough money to adopt etc...

how did you get "there"..??? with being not just okay , but happy to be cf?


the reality is i may realllllllllllly not be able to have kids...

and i know that vacations and sleeping are beautiful things....but if you did have your heart set on a baby in the family and now cant....

please tell me your road to happiness cf....xoxo fm if you want oxoxoxo

Re: if you are childless and dont want to be..but

We wanted to have a child. We spent 4 years of fertility treatments and had 3 miscarriages. I did 4 IVF cycles, all were a bust, (I got PG from IUI's).
For DH, it was different, he was ready to call it quits after the first m/c, but continued and would've continued as long as I wanted to.

Acceptance was the first and hardest part. I don't know to explain to you how I got to where I was accepting that I would never be someone's mother. I knew I was just tired of the treatments, the drugs, the running around. I was missing huge parts of my life devoting myself to the IVF process.

After I acceptance and over time, I became happy with my life with DH. We have a wonderful 16 year old Goddaughter, and I am very blessed that her Mother, my BFF, shares her with me and has since she was born. Kristen is the child DH and I didn't get to have.
We have filled our lives with other happinesses.

I knew I had to accept because I couldn't spend the rest of my life being miserable and not enjoying my life because I didn't have a child.

If that is what is meant to be, you will find your way too.

Re: if you are childless and dont want to be..but

I'm 44, DH is 48, and I have to face that it's just not meant to be.

Most of the time I'm ok that DH and I are a family of two, but there are moments when I feel like there is a part of me that is missing. I grieve for something that is not there.

But, I still have a life with my DH. We have a life together, we travel a lot. There are two special children in my life, my sister's children, and DH loves them as well.

It takes time. I'm just not quite there yet.

Re: if you are childless and dont want to be..but

It's a grieving process.
Not that it's the same, but do you and your DH have kids you can spend time with like above poster?
I have my two SDs and it helps sometimes.