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Irishlass
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Lisa
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So for the 1st time ever...
I felt inferior for being CF. No one made me feel this way it was just a feeling that kinda crept up on me. We where at a NYE party just sitting around & of course as it usually is I am the only one CF. I was very surprised at myself. Has anyone had this happen to them?
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Posted 1/2/11 4:25 PM  |
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Christine
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Re: So for the 1st time ever...
I never really felt that way.
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| Posted 1/2/11 4:48 PM |
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Jackie24
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Re: So for the 1st time ever...
ILS make me feel this way all the time. I know how ya feel!
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| Posted 1/2/11 9:14 PM |
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islandersgirl74
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Re: So for the 1st time ever...
Only once I felt that way around my friends. But I am so close to my nieces and my friends kids, I actually like being around them and my friends never make me feel weird.
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| Posted 1/2/11 10:01 PM |
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MrsPJB2007
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Re: So for the 1st time ever...
This year, at a friend's NYE party, I realized there were a LOT of kids at there. I remember when we first started going there a few years ago, and not 1 kid in sight. This year it seemed as if with each person that came in, there was another baby or toddler with them!
We were talking to another couple who is 100% against having kids, and they were saying how it's so crazy for them, because they are seeing more and more everyone is having kids. They recognized it's just the age everyone is, but we joked that each time friends have a kid, they have to distance themselves a little more. I said by next year there would be even MORE babies at the NYE party and they would have to find a new place to go. They were laughing and saying they thought the same thing.
They said that kids just aren't for them, but sometimes they do feel a bit like the odd ones out among groups of friends....and sometimes that inadequate feeling can creep up. It's natural -- but don't let it make you feel bad at all!
Think of all the great things you can have/do being CF vs others that have kids.
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| Posted 1/2/11 10:06 PM |
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Cheeks24
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Re: So for the 1st time ever...
We were at a bday party for DH's friend's DD and many of our friends were there with their kids. At that point we both were like wow, we're the only CF here!  It didn't bother us at all though because we didn't have to go peak in rooms to make sure they were all playing together nicely.
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| Posted 1/2/11 10:49 PM |
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DirtyBlonde
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Re: So for the 1st time ever...
I do. It's especially hard on me because I feel like the only one without a house, husband and kids.
No one SAYS anything and I DO NOT want to trade lives with them, but I feel like I got left behind or something.
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| Posted 1/2/11 10:55 PM |
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PrincessVonTrockel
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Re: So for the 1st time ever...
Oh no! 
I've never felt that but I am sooo happy to be childfree. I love being able to do what I want to all the time without compromise or interruption.
I see my family members and friends and how their lives are so totally different from the life that DH & I have set up for ourselves. Having kids is not a requirement and don't let anyone make you feel inadequate or "different" for not making the same life choices as they did.
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| Posted 1/2/11 11:41 PM |
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LI12345
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Re: So for the 1st time ever...
Posted by DirtyBlonde
I do. It's especially hard on me because I feel like the only one without a house, husband and kids.
No one SAYS anything and I DO NOT want to trade lives with them, but I feel like I got left behind or something.
i feel the same way too!
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| Posted 1/3/11 9:33 AM |
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PrettyPeonies
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Re: So for the 1st time ever...
Posted by DirtyBlonde
I do. It's especially hard on me because I feel like the only one without a house, husband and kids.
No one SAYS anything and I DO NOT want to trade lives with them, but I feel like I got left behind or something.
See I felt like this for the majority of my 20's, then I met DH and that all changed for me. Now that we are there...ready to start a family in a few months, I'm starting to wish I had more time. I would love to live another 3-4 yrs just DH and I but I do want a family.....its very confusing.
FYI, I'd normally just say, "what the heck" and take that time for just us BUT I am almost 34 and time unfortunately, is not on our side 
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| Posted 1/3/11 9:53 AM |
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tourist
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Re: So for the 1st time ever...
Posted by DirtyBlonde
No one SAYS anything and I DO NOT want to trade lives with them, but I feel like I got left behind or something.
I often feel like that. Except, soemtimes, I do want to trade lives.
But I agree, they don't really do anything to make me fell left out, but the situation makes me feel that was sometimes.
Message edited 1/3/2011 10:00:41 AM.
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| Posted 1/3/11 9:59 AM |
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IrishLasss334
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Re: So for the 1st time ever...
I am sorry you felt this way.
I have never felt inferior because I didn't have children, but I have been sad, very very sad because I didn't. Not the same thing.
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| Posted 1/3/11 10:19 AM |
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blondiebabyZ
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Re: So for the 1st time ever...
I agree....Its a bit difficult and annoying to deal with. I have a group of friends and its like they all hit the babymaking stage at once and everytime I turn around someone else is popping a baby out or getting preggo. Which fine Im happy for them...but they make it a little hard bc when I hang out with them all they talk about is preggo or baby stuff (they might as well be speaking a different language). So I totally am the odd one out especially since I have no interest in joining them. Hopefully after their kids are 6 months old the baby preggo talk will stop and I can hang out with them like normal and not have to discuss all that preggo newborn nonsense.
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| Posted 1/3/11 11:31 AM |
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KittyGags
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Re: So for the 1st time ever...
I feel like everyone I know is pregnant! And I also kinda feel like I'm getting left behind.
I know I want one or two, I just don't know when!
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| Posted 1/3/11 12:17 PM |
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JessInCA
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Re: So for the 1st time ever...
ITA with the "being left behind" sentiment. I don't feel inferior, and no one has said anything to me, but we heard several more pregnancy announcements among our friends over the past few weeks, and it feels kinda like everyone else is moving on to the next phase in their lives except us.
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| Posted 1/3/11 12:57 PM |
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christinec2010
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Re: So for the 1st time ever...
DH & I just found out another friend is expecting & although we are both very happy for her & her FH (engaged to be married in June, baby due in August), we where also kind of upset at the same time. It also didn't help that when I told my sister she said that we are getting old. I am going to be 27 & DH was just 28. We also have two friend due with their seconds in February. We are literally surrounded by little ones.
I am starting feel like everyone we know is on the edge on their seat waiting for us to announce that we are prego & every time we don't they seem upset.
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| Posted 1/3/11 3:22 PM |
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JDubs
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Re: So for the 1st time ever...
No but i guess because many of the people i know don't have kids either
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| Posted 1/4/11 10:07 AM |
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debsabourin13
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Re: So for the 1st time ever...
I actually felt this exact way the other day. I was at a friends party and she was talking about how she thinks I am the most energetic person that she knows, and that I don't have kids yet and when I do it will change. I told her that I hope not but she was probably right. Someone who had been listening and knows that I just got married a year and a half ago was like...oh...you don't have kids? How old are you? When I told her I was 31 she was like " wow!! I had my last kid at 31!"
Everyone I know is having kids now and my Sister-in-law just got married New Year's Eve and they seem like the type who will have kids right away. DH always wanted their kids to grow up with ours. I want them...I just can't kick the feeling that I am not ready for them. Especially now that DH just dropped the bomb on me the other day that he is thinking about joining the Air Force Reserves. I DEFINITELY don't want to be a single mom.
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| Posted 1/4/11 1:24 PM |
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Mushesgirl
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Re: So for the 1st time ever...
Posted by PrincessVonTrockel
Oh no!
I've never felt that but I am sooo happy to be childfree. I love being able to do what I want to all the time without compromise or interruption.
I see my family members and friends and how their lives are so totally different from the life that DH & I have set up for ourselves. Having kids is not a requirement and don't let anyone make you feel inadequate or "different" for not making the same life choices as they did.
ditto. I usually feel superior actually. But i'm a real b!tch.
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| Posted 1/6/11 10:31 PM |
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MrsList
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Re: So for the 1st time ever...
There's a hibachi/sushi place near the grocery store I go to and on a Saturday night after DD has gone to bed when I have to run to the store with my crazy hair and puked on jeans, I longingly stare at the women in makeup and nice shoes who are walking into the restaurant hand-in-hand with their bfs or husbands and think "I used to be able to go to restaurants with makeup on".
And 2 months ago when I was driving through the city around 9pm on my way home from Philly, with DD sleeping in her car seat, I saw 3 girls in their late 20s walking across the street, laughing and probably on their way to a bar to drink something fruity in an offensive color and I was SO jealous that they just get to do that - walk across the street at 9pm! Imagine being out that late and enjoying it!
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| Posted 1/16/11 9:00 PM |
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MrsList
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Re: So for the 1st time ever...
Posted by christinec2010
DH & I just found out another friend is expecting & although we are both very happy for her & her FH (engaged to be married in June, baby due in August), we where also kind of upset at the same time. It also didn't help that when I told my sister she said that we are getting old. I am going to be 27 & DH was just 28. We also have two friend due with their seconds in February. We are literally surrounded by little ones.
I am starting feel like everyone we know is on the edge on their seat waiting for us to announce that we are prego & every time we don't they seem upset.
I just had my first at 31. My old boss had her first in her 40s, so did a coworker, a woman my aunt nannies for, and a woman I work with now had hers at 38. If you choose to have kids, you have PLENTY of time.
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| Posted 1/16/11 9:02 PM |
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PrincessVonTrockel
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Re: So for the 1st time ever...
Posted by MrsList
There's a hibachi/sushi place near the grocery store I go to and on a Saturday night after DD has gone to bed when I have to run to the store with my crazy hair and puked on jeans, I longingly stare at the women in makeup and nice shoes who are walking into the restaurant hand-in-hand with their bfs or husbands and think "I used to be able to go to restaurants with makeup on".
And 2 months ago when I was driving through the city around 9pm on my way home from Philly, with DD sleeping in her car seat, I saw 3 girls in their late 20s walking across the street, laughing and probably on their way to a bar to drink something fruity in an offensive color and I was SO jealous that they just get to do that - walk across the street at 9pm! Imagine being out that late and enjoying it!
This almost made me cry.
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| Posted 1/17/11 11:35 AM |
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MrsList
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Re: So for the 1st time ever...
LOL! I adore my DD and don't regret having her at all. My post was meant to be humorous but I really do occasionally get jealous of women who still have their freedom because they don't have children. Imagine shopping all day and not having to worry about getting home in time for the afternoon nap!
The grass is always greener though, right?
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| Posted 1/17/11 2:20 PM |
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