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anjerandunder
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Cemetary visiting
Will it ever get any easier to go visit? I went to see mom yesterday and its been over a year and I still cry as soon as I pull in. 
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Posted 7/6/06 4:06 PM  |
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nylisa
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Re: Cemetary visiting
I am the same way and my mom is gone only 4 months. I am ok when we pull into the cemetery and while I am there but as soon as we start to leave is when I lose it. We went about 2 weeks ago and it was the first time I was seeing my mom's stone and I cried the whole time I was there.
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| Posted 7/6/06 4:12 PM |
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anjerandunder
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Re: Cemetary visiting
Posted by nylisa
I am the same way and my mom is gone only 4 months. I am ok when we pull into the cemetery and while I am there but as soon as we start to leave is when I lose it. We went about 2 weeks ago and it was the first time I was seeing my mom's stone and I cried the whole time I was there.
4 months..wow i'm sorry for your loss. 
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| Posted 7/6/06 4:35 PM |
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nylisa
My Children
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Re: Cemetary visiting
Thanks. Right now it is harder for me to come to terms with her death because I am due with my first child in 4 weeks.
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| Posted 7/6/06 4:37 PM |
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anjerandunder
Positive thoughts worked!!!
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Re: Cemetary visiting
she'll be there for you. you'll see in some way shape or form that she'll be there.
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| Posted 7/6/06 4:42 PM |
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nylisa
My Children
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Re: Cemetary visiting
Posted by anjerandunder
she'll be there for you. you'll see in some way shape or form that she'll be there.
I know but I just wish she was here since she has already missed a lot this year and will be missing more.
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| Posted 7/6/06 4:43 PM |
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MegZee
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Re: Cemetary visiting
it hasnt gotten any easier for me...but  s to you!
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| Posted 7/8/06 7:38 AM |
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Beth
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Re: Cemetary visiting
I have only been once- my mom didn't really believe in it- I didn't really like it- it was weirder for me seeing my grandma name there- since it's a family plot- and she is still alive
but we also couldn't find it the first time we went so that kind of broke the ice and I was walking around fixing everyone flowers and plants that had fallen over
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| Posted 7/9/06 7:21 PM |
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mishy
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Re: Cemetary visiting
I stopped going to both, it is too difficult.. my dad does have a tree in the park because he was in Viet-Nam, I visit that when I am there...
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| Posted 7/9/06 7:35 PM |
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kathleeng
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Re: Cemetary visiting
I haven't gone in awhile. I feel pretty bad about this actually.
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| Posted 7/10/06 5:10 PM |
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Maeve
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Re: Cemetary visiting
I go all the time. Actually makes me feel better.
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| Posted 7/11/06 3:38 PM |
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anjerandunder
Positive thoughts worked!!!
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Re: Cemetary visiting
Posted by mishy
I stopped going to both, it is too difficult.. my dad does have a tree in the park because he was in Viet-Nam, I visit that when I am there...
I think a tree would be much nicer to visit. I think it's seeing her name that gets me so upset.
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| Posted 7/11/06 3:43 PM |
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Emily
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Re: Cemetary visiting
I am a bad kid, I have not gone since my father's funeral in 2003. He is right next to my mom and that is a bit too much for me. Also, I live 600 miles away so that presents a problem....thats a poor excuse, i believe i am just avoiding the cemetary. 
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| Posted 7/13/06 10:40 AM |
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twobabies
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Re: Cemetary visiting
my mom passed away 10 years ago, and i still cry as soon as i pull in. i know how you feel.
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| Posted 7/19/06 3:47 PM |
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CheeChee
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Re: Cemetary visiting
my mom passed 22 yrs ago and i have stopped going. Mainly b/c it is a far drive and i was finding myself making the long trip out there and then getting to her plot, getting all choked up, and then leaving. It was totally worthless, i am able to talk to her more easily while just laying in bed at night. Hugs to you..
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| Posted 7/19/06 10:29 PM |
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TheInfamousOTG
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Re: Cemetary visiting
My mom will be deceased for 15 years on August 31st. I still have a hard time going to see her.
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| Posted 7/20/06 7:32 PM |
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ravensbride
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Re: Cemetary visiting
I have only visited once and its been over a year. Part of it is I feel especially guilty cause I haven't been able to get her a stone yet. But also in the 12 years my fathers been gone, I was never able to visit his. 3000 miles was too far to travel. So I have never had a 'habit' of doing it.
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| Posted 7/20/06 7:57 PM |
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dpli
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Re: Cemetary visiting
I don't really go. I don't feel a strong connection to my parents at the cemetary. I think it is great for people who find comfort in it though, and in general, it can be a peaceful place to be with your thoughts and your wonderful memories of thise you love.
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| Posted 7/20/06 10:00 PM |
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Kelly9904
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Re: Cemetary visiting
Message edited 1/30/2009 10:38:12 AM.
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| Posted 7/21/06 9:54 AM |
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bikramaddict
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Re: Cemetary visiting
my mom died 5 years ago and i still can't go.
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| Posted 9/29/06 1:50 PM |
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stardiva80
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Re: Cemetary visiting
i just went 2 weeks ago for the first time since the funeral. It was for her unveiling- i was dreading it and i couldnt stop sobbing I dont think i can go again. my mom lost her parents when she was a child and she never went- much too upsetting for her. so i figure she understands why i just cant do it. I hate thinking of her there- does anyone else agree?
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| Posted 9/29/06 6:04 PM |
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MegZee
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Re: Cemetary visiting
I went once in 6 years. I can't do it. Its enough my dad's on my mind every day. he wouldnt want us to visit him anyway - he wanted his ashes spread, but crazy grandma insisted we bury them. 
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| Posted 10/2/06 8:58 PM |
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skip123
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Re: Cemetary visiting
My dad is gone over 20 years and i still break down when I get to the site, but i do not cry on the regular anymore so when I go there I guess its a bit cathartic... for you hon..
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| Posted 10/8/06 8:14 PM |
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