OK, I really need to vent (long)

As some of you from LIW may know (because this has been an ongoing issue) DH hates his job in the restaurant business and wants to sell cars (which he did briefly, and did fairly well with it)
There are many issues for me, such as he makes good $$ now and nothing is guaranteed in the car business, we can't be without insurance for any amount of time, etc...but what is really starting to affect me is the fact that we have been together for 4 years, and he is at his 4th job, which he now wants to leave. As bad as it sounds, I am losing respect, and it's affecting the whole "intimacy" thing on my end.

I guess I just am very different from him. I was at a job for 10 years (and only left because there were huge layoffs) I had a HORRIBLE boss, but I dealt with it because it served it's purpose, which was putting food on the table for my son and I. I don't like to jump around from place to place, and this makes me soooo nervous...any advice?

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Stacy, I know EXACTLY what you're going thru...only it was ME who didn't have a stead job...it truly did affect our relationship...

maybe your DH feels like he hasn't found his niche...the fact that he did well when he was selling cars, may be just whats motivating him to switch careers again. I KNOW it must be frustrating, but you have to hang in there...support him...DEFINITELY let him know exactly how your feeling, but also let him know that you're there for him with whatever decision he makes. i'm sure things will turn out just fine!!!

Re: OK, I really need to vent (long)

Re: OK, I really need to vent (long)

I dont have any good advice for you, but wanted to give you some friendly

Re: OK, I really need to vent (long)

Well, the good news, Stacy, is that Jim is a hard-working man. He loves his family, and he wants the best for the rest of you, but I can't blame him for wanting to be happy with his job. I have seen what years of working at a job you hate can do to a person, and it's not pretty. But I think you know all that, and I KNOW you want him to be happy. Because a happier Jim, means a happier you, which means a happier family. I think he needs to really, honestly consider what his REAL job possibilities are. He sold cars for a while and did well with it, but is he sure the two of you can handle those not-so-good times? That's what you need him to look at. Why doesn't he go for career counseling or something? I know it's ridiculously hard to get guys to do things like that, but I know Jim, and he seems like a pretty receptive guy. Also, as much as he may want to switch jobs, maybe explaining to him that with a new baby, it may not be the best time to be changing careers. Hang in there sista.