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What to do when...
DH wants to take a break from TTC and I don't?  I'm going to be ovulating in a few days and I feel like it's such a waste to let this month go, or any month for that matter. September would have been my first due date and I don't want to waste any more time not TTC.
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Posted 7/26/11 9:24 AM  |
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AngnShaun
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Re: What to do when...
why does he want to take a break?
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| Posted 7/26/11 9:50 AM |
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LemonHead
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MY DH was the same way at one point, I think it's out of nervousness that there is going to be another mc, you know? It's really hard when you're on board and your DH is not
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| Posted 7/26/11 1:58 PM |
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why does he want to take a break?
I've had 2 miscarriages this year and he used up most of his sick/vacation time to come with me to the doctor. He's nervous that if I miscarry again he won't be able to come the doctor's appointments with me. He's also nervous of me miscarrying again in general.
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| Posted 7/26/11 2:03 PM |
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Does he go with you to the re appts? That may make him feel better knowing you are under the care of a physician who says it is ok to try again. My dh does this once in a while too. He is always scared something will go wrong, but he tends to really listen to the doctor,
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| Posted 7/27/11 7:26 AM |
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Posted by Herestohoping
Does he go with you to the re appts? That may make him feel better knowing you are under the care of a physician who says it is ok to try again. My dh does this once in a while too. He is always scared something will go wrong, but he tends to really listen to the doctor,
I have my first RE appt next week but my regular OBGYN already gave me the green light to try again. He *might* change his mind after we meet with the RE but I think it'll be too late to TTC for this month.
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| Posted 7/27/11 8:58 AM |
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Diana1215
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Re: What to do when...
I would talk to him about it. Tell him that you feel strongly about trying this month, that you don't want a month to pass you by for no reason. You want kids, he wants kids. You have to do this to get there. It sucks, and is so hard, and the disappointment is the worst - but you have to think positive and know in your heart that it will happen! He needs to keep positive also! 
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| Posted 7/27/11 3:48 PM |
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Posted by Diana1215
I would talk to him about it. Tell him that you feel strongly about trying this month, that you don't want a month to pass you by for no reason. You want kids, he wants kids. You have to do this to get there. It sucks, and is so hard, and the disappointment is the worst - but you have to think positive and know in your heart that it will happen! He needs to keep positive also!
I ended up taking the mature route and flooded his work e-mail inbox with letters from adoption agencies thanking him for signing up with them.
Message edited 7/27/2011 4:13:52 PM.
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| Posted 7/27/11 4:13 PM |
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Diana1215
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Re: What to do when...
Posted by InTheTTCcloset
Posted by Diana1215
I would talk to him about it. Tell him that you feel strongly about trying this month, that you don't want a month to pass you by for no reason. You want kids, he wants kids. You have to do this to get there. It sucks, and is so hard, and the disappointment is the worst - but you have to think positive and know in your heart that it will happen! He needs to keep positive also!
I ended up taking the mature route and flooded his work e-mail inbox with letters from adoption agencies thanking him for signing up with them.
 That could work too!
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| Posted 7/30/11 6:39 AM |
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Re: What to do when...
Posted by Diana1215
Posted by InTheTTCcloset
Posted by Diana1215
I would talk to him about it. Tell him that you feel strongly about trying this month, that you don't want a month to pass you by for no reason. You want kids, he wants kids. You have to do this to get there. It sucks, and is so hard, and the disappointment is the worst - but you have to think positive and know in your heart that it will happen! He needs to keep positive also!
I ended up taking the mature route and flooded his work e-mail inbox with letters from adoption agencies thanking him for signing up with them.
That could work too!
It did! Victory is mine
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| Posted 7/30/11 8:13 AM |
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