Need help w/7.5 yr old son! Accidents in underwear and his nasty mouth!

We don't know the best way to handle this?

We're having 2 issues with him right now and we don't know how to handle either one so we can use some suggestions?

Starting a couple of months ago he has a lot of #2 accidents in his underwear to the point that he smells and is ruining his underwear. We don't know where this is coming from, but he seems to wait until the VERY last minute to go and then he has an accident. He's too busy to stop what he's doing I guess? He's going to become the "stinky" kid in class and we all know what that means?

And the second issue is his nasty mouth. He just constantly talks back and has a wise-a@@ mouth. It's horrible and out of control.

What is the best way to handle both of these? We're at a lost.

TIA!

Re: Need help w/7.5 yr old son! Accidents in underwear and his nasty mouth!

I can't really help with the accidents, except maybe make him go to the bathroom every night or in the morning? I can appreciate not wanting him to be the stinky kid... My DS constantly forgets to put on his deoderant and it is I have to remind him every morning!

As far as the mouth.... I think it's the age. My DS had a lot of "backtalk" when he was that age, and my nephew who is 8 is going through it as well. Here's what we did. Certain words were totally off limits. In my house, "stupid," "moron," "idiot," "retarded," etc, in addtion to the bad words are off limits. If they say it, they are in their room, lights off. So that eliminates the specific words. As far as the back talk, when he did it, I immediately said, "That's not the way you talk to your mother." If it continued, or if there was a snide remark after that, it was in the room, lights off. Game over, KWIM? I was not going to tolerate disrespect like that.

My SIL gives her kids allowance, and her kids "pay" for disrespectful talk. If they talk back, they owe her a quarter. They get $2 a week for allowance. She's very successful with that.

Hope that helped!!

Re: Need help w/7.5 yr old son! Accidents in underwear and his nasty mouth!

I sounds to me he got constipated really bad once and now it scared to go. Change his diet where he is eating more high fiber stuff. My DS wasn't going in his pants but was holding it in. I give him oatmeal every morning and he is so much better.
If he is stressed or has anxiety that could also be causing that.

I do know someone who did this up until he was 13 or 14 years old. He would hold it and just couldn't anymore. He went to the hospital numerous times because he was so backed up. I would bring him to the ped. and see what they think. Maybe also put him on miralax to help him go.

As far as the back talking. DS is 5.5 and I am going through it too. Now, if I hear anything out of his mouth that I do not like I make him sit on the step. Time outs never really worked for us, ever, but this seems to be working. I don't tell him what he did before hand. I tell him to think about why he thinks he is there. When I take him out he knows exactly what he said. It also doesn't have be directed to me, but directed to anybody. If he does it in the car I pull over and he knows he has to apologize right away.
I have also put soap in his mouth (ped. actually suggested that one) and vinegar. With the vinegar I just put it on my finger and then put it on his lips or tongue. He hates it and I don't feel bad because it isn't going to hurt him like pepper or hot sauce.

Re: Need help w/7.5 yr old son! Accidents in underwear and his nasty mouth!

I just wanted to say that I went through the accident thing with my son (he's 7 too) earlier this summer. I just couldn't believe it. He had no explaination why he was having accidents, and most of the time, he would just continue on, and then my DD would come running to me telling me she smelled poopy

That same week, we just happened to have his annual appt at the pediatrician for his school physical. I brought it up to the pedi in private, so as to not embarrass him. She suggested constipation as well, and said that I should try a capful of Miralax in his morning beverage for 2 weeks.

We didn't tell my son the real reason, we just told him the doctor would like him to take "vitamin" powder (it's completely tasteless, so it's possible to give without them even knowing once it dissolves)... Within a week, no more accidents, he was going #2 much easier and we are fine again.

I would bring it up to your pedi and see what they say.

As far as the freshness, it comes with age. We're dealing with it here too.

Re: Need help w/7.5 yr old son! Accidents in underwear and his nasty mouth!

The bathroom issue is so common. More than you'd believe but BTDT and know lots of BTDT parents. Give him times he has to sit on the toilet 3x a day (before school, after school, after dinner) 5-10 minutes each. Try to train his body to go by doing that. You could try fiber gummies too but not too much. I'd give 1 gummy. If he dirties his pants, he should clean them. Not in a way where he feels shamed but in a "this is your responsibility" way. Don't try to go nuts figuring out the logic of it, there is none (barring an illness which it most likely is not). Don't yell at him or try to get him to understand that he will be the stinky kid, he most likely wont get the impact of that unless it actually happened. It's a weird phenomenon, esp when you have a kid that is toilet trained for years. If it goes on too long, I'd consult a pediatric gastroenterologist but most likely they will but him on the 3x a day/fiber regime and monitor it month to month. HTH

Re: Need help w/7.5 yr old son! Accidents in underwear and his nasty mouth!

This is my son EXACTLY! He will be 7 next month and has 'accidents' - sometimes its often. I make him clean his underwear out himself - rinse it & then clean the sink out with Lysol when he's done - HE HATES IT and gag. I thought it was cruel at first, but now he just knows. I think I may talk to the pedi at his next appt about it.
My DS can also be fresh too. This week he wanted to go out and play after school. I told him yes, after hw - and he freaked out. Sad thing is, he only seems to do this with me; he wouldnt dare do it with my SO I have no advice, just

Re: Need help w/7.5 yr old son! Accidents in underwear and his nasty mouth!

Posted by nancy6485

This is my son EXACTLY! He will be 7 next month and has 'accidents' - sometimes its often. I make him clean his underwear out himself - rinse it & then clean the sink out with Lysol when he's done - HE HATES IT and gag. I thought it was cruel at first, but now he just knows. I think I may talk to the pedi at his next appt about it.
My DS can also be fresh too. This week he wanted to go out and play after school. I told him yes, after hw - and he freaked out. Sad thing is, he only seems to do this with me; he wouldnt dare do it with my SO I have no advice, just

Re: Need help w/7.5 yr old son! Accidents in underwear and his nasty mouth!

The fresh mouth is def the age. My DS is going to be 8 on Monday and some of the stuff he says to me I am like this --->


He has to go to his room when he talks like that.