Tough day tomorrow

So it's been two weeks since I miscarried and any little thing sets me off and I just burst into tears.

Tomorrow is my cousins baby shower. Not that I'm not happy for her because I am but also going to be there is one of my cousins who just got pregnant and my other cousin who just had her baby.

I know my family is now going to approach me with the question of when I'm gonna have a baby because it's already happened several times. Now only DH and I know what happened because we decided not to tell anyone in our family.

I'm so worried how I'm going to handle seeing all the baby stuff and trying to keep a happy face and all my family coming up to me. I know tomorrow isn't about me but I hope I can make it through the day Thanks for letting me vent.

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That is going to be hard, especially since they don't know about the loss.

My family was extremely supportive when I was going through the miscarriage. It really helps to have people to talk to about this.

Would you consider talking to them about it?

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Ok, I dont know how this is going to come out to some people but....why dont you make an excuse to not go? I would be totally heart broken and I dont know if I could deal with all of that after recently losing a baby

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I understand what you mean. My sis in law where 6 weeks apart and talking about our kids growing up together and then I had a mc. I love seeing her belly grow and how everything about the baby but in another way it's a reminder of what could of been.
I hope tomorrow is better than you think. I guess be as strong as you can but if you feel you can't do it, I would say I got sick.

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I wish I could be sick and not go but I promised her I would go a month ago when I was actually still pregnant and also because since I hardly ever get to see her and I'm truly excited and happy for my cousin.

I guess I'm going to have to be strong and if I start feeling uncomfortable I'll just have to make up some excuse and just leave.

Thanks for the advice girls and wish me luck!!

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I'm really sorry. I don't think I'd be able to go. You are very strong and brave and selfless for even considering going.

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I think you are very brave for going. I know it is going to be really hard to put a smile on tomorrow. Hang in there

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I also think you are extremely brave to be going, I know I would not have been able to. To be honest I dont think I could handle it now and I had my miscarriage in May.

BUT if you get up in the morning and you feel strong enough to go then I hope you enjoy yourself and are able to get through the day. Please dont feel bad if you have to back out at the last minute or decide to leave early, you are still very emotional and its bound to be very hard on you.

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UGH ditto on the fact that you are brave for going...not sure I'd be able to. That is going to be really hard....sending you lots of & hope it goes ok for you.

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Just wanted to let you girls know I did go and the big guy upstairs must have heard my prayers because not one person came to ask me about when I'm planning on having children.

He also gave me the strength to be there to share in my cousins happiness. I will say it was a little uncomfortable to be there and to see all the baby things but seeing my cousin so happy to be a first time mom helped me put my feelings aside for one day.

Thank you girls for listening and offering your advice and kind words.

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Just wanted to let you girls know I did go and the big guy upstairs must have heard my prayers because not one person came to ask me about when I'm planning on having children.

He also gave me the strength to be there to share in my cousins happiness. I will say it was a little uncomfortable to be there and to see all the baby things but seeing my cousin so happy to be a first time mom helped me put my feelings aside for one day.

Thank you girls for listening and offering your advice and kind words.

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So glad it went well for you. I am sure your cousin loved having you there.