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CrankyPants
I'm cranky
Member since 7/06 18178 total posts
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Mama Cranky
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Not telling anyone
Is anyone TTC but not telling people so that you don't have added pressure if it doesn't happen right away?
DH and I are going to start TTC in Jan, but are telling people that we aren't starting until next summer because I don't want the pressure of everyone's questions on a regular basis.
I know they wouldn't really mean any harm by it but if it didn't happen right away I think it would make be feel rotten to have to keep answering "not yet".
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Posted 8/14/06 1:19 PM  |
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MrsRbk
<3 <3 <3 <3
Member since 1/06 19197 total posts
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Michelle
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Re: Not telling anyone
nope, not telling anyone until we have an announcement to make.
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| Posted 8/14/06 1:23 PM |
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Smileyd17
kids
Member since 5/05 20997 total posts
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Mommy
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Re: Not telling anyone
yea...I tell you guys I am TTC
but when family ask...We keep it to our selves and just let them when it happens it happens.
I dont need the added pressure that i am already having by trying.
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| Posted 8/14/06 1:24 PM |
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anonttcer
BOOOO for fall!
Member since 7/06 10082 total posts
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Meaning a NON ttcer!
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Re: Not telling anyone
In my opinion it is none of anyone's business but you and your husband.
I don't know what has happened lately in this world, but all of a sudden a woman's fertility and her plans to have or not have children have become a topic of public discussion amongst family, friends, co-workers and strangers. I find it truly disgusting.
I can't tell you how many people have asked me when I plan to have children.
What if I didn't plan to? Do I need to explain myself? What if I couldnt? Do I need to dredge up painful and very personal health issues to satisfy people's nosyness?
I would never ask someone such a personal question and I expect the same respect from others.
So to answer your question- no we aren't going to tell anyone what our plans are.
When I am safely pregnant they will know!
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| Posted 8/14/06 1:26 PM |
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lulugrrl
My 3 Blessings
Member since 3/06 6551 total posts
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L
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Re: Not telling anyone
Nope not telling anyone..which is good, cuz it looks like we are having problems!!!
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| Posted 8/14/06 1:33 PM |
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CellarDweller
LIF Adult
Member since 11/05 1562 total posts
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Jennifer
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Re: Not telling anyone
Posted by lulugrrl
Nope not telling anyone..which is good, cuz it looks like we are having problems!!!
We haven't told anyone either. Sometimes I wish we had because we're having problems as well and I'd like to think that people wouldn't say such personal and kind of hurtful things (like, "what are you guys waiting for?") if they knew we're doing our best.
Ultimately though, I think it's easier not to say a word until there's news.
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| Posted 8/14/06 1:37 PM |
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CaseyGirl
Mommy to 3 Boys :)
Member since 5/05 19978 total posts
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Jen - counting my blessings...
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Re: Not telling anyone
On one hand I am glad we didn't tell anyone, since now we have been trying for 2 years. I would never hear the end of it. But on the other hand, I really wish I could confide in my mom for her support. Only reason I can't is bc of my DH - since he is the issue that has been giving us problems, he is embarrassed..
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| Posted 8/14/06 1:53 PM |
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Sweetpea130000
My Love!
Member since 5/05 2375 total posts
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Shandra
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Re: Not telling anyone
we aren't telling anyone until there is a baby on the way
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| Posted 8/14/06 2:14 PM |
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CollP612
LIF Adolescent
Member since 4/06 542 total posts
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Colleen
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Re: Not telling anyone
we aren't telling anyone ( Well my mom knows ) DH and I Found out we were PG June 25th.. By june 26th The whole family knew... 2 Days leter we had a MC.. It was hard telling ppl..let alone everyone asking me ( still to this day ) If im ok.. So we just began trying again this month and We Vowed to keep it a secret.. i will be telling people around 10 weeks...
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| Posted 8/14/06 2:27 PM |
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Goldi0218
My miracles!
Member since 12/05 23902 total posts
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Leslie
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Re: Not telling anyone
Certain people in my life know. I told my mother so she has something to look forward to and actually, she does not nag or prod at all. Other people in my life just assume that because we married late, that we will start immediately. I know they mean well, I just wish they'd stop asking.
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| Posted 8/14/06 3:01 PM |
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Re: Not telling anyone
I am telling people because I feel like I want to talk about the "plan" with people who will support me no matter what.
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| Posted 8/14/06 3:05 PM |
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Red
spring is in the air
Member since 11/05 2688 total posts
Name:
helen
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Re: Not telling anyone
Posted by anonttcer
In my opinion it is none of anyone's business but you and your husband.
I don't know what has happened lately in this world, but all of a sudden a woman's fertility and her plans to have or not have children have become a topic of public discussion amongst family, friends, co-workers and strangers. I find it truly disgusting.
I can't tell you how many people have asked me when I plan to have children.
What if I didn't plan to? Do I need to explain myself? What if I couldnt? Do I need to dredge up painful and very personal health issues to satisfy people's nosyness?
couldn't agree more
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| Posted 8/14/06 3:20 PM |
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MABLE03
I <3 SATC
Member since 6/06 4563 total posts
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Fabulous
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Re: Not telling anyone
Haven't told anyone besides the ladies on here and my sister ( and my sister is on this site also so there was no hiding it from her) no one else knows.
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| Posted 8/14/06 3:28 PM |
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Eva Luna
Be kind...life's hard!
Member since 8/05 4750 total posts
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God, bless & heal my DH, JenG's DH Rob & DebG
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Re: Not telling anyone
Posted by Smileyd17
yea...I tell you guys I am TTC
but when family ask...We keep it to our selves and just let them when it happens it happens.
I dont need the added pressure that i am already having by trying.
Us too.
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| Posted 8/14/06 4:15 PM |
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MrsBlueSash
Love my sailor
Member since 6/05 5793 total posts
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Christian
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Re: Not telling anyone
When we start (not for awhile) we won't tell until we have the good news. It will be the first grandchild on both sides--I can only imagine the insanity *ahem* i mean 'daily interest' if our family knew we were trying.
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| Posted 8/14/06 6:27 PM |
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saraH
happy birthday sweet kate!
Member since 5/05 16555 total posts
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I know that God exsists, I held her in my arms...
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Re: Not telling anyone
we are not currently TTC, but once we start, there will be no announcement. we won't discuss it with anyone. my il's are in my business enough, i don't need them jacking up my groove
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| Posted 8/14/06 8:32 PM |
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MissJones
I need a nap!
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Re: Not telling anyone
Not telling a soul...want it to come out of the blue. We're one of the few couples who are still childless by the second wedding anniversary, so we're keeping it a secret until we have something to share. I'm sure in some way people expect an announcement since we've been married for a few years. When that happens, our parents will be the first to know and we'll make them wait to tell until several weeks along.
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| Posted 8/14/06 10:05 PM |
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Phyl
R.I.P. Sweet Mia ♥
Member since 5/06 28918 total posts
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The Mystical Azzhorse! ™
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Re: Not telling anyone
to all you ttc'ers
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| Posted 8/14/06 10:33 PM |
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MrsPornStar
Partners in crime
Member since 10/05 14656 total posts
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Mama
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Re: Not telling anyone
I don't think we're going to tell anyone in our families. DH is not close to his family at all. It's going to be hard keeping it from my sisters but I think that it's best. They'll find out when we get our BFP.
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| Posted 8/14/06 10:40 PM |
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Tine73
Member since 3/06 22093 total posts
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Re: Not telling anyone
Only one of my friends knows. She is TTC too.
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| Posted 8/14/06 11:08 PM |
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2PreciousBlessings
The Perfect Pair
Member since 5/06 19861 total posts
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Best Wife & Mommy
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Re: Not telling anyone
At this moment only our parents knows.
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