Trouble on bus

My DS (in K) has been taking the bus to and from school. Not too many problems- the bus driver keeps all kindergartners in the first 2 rows to keep an eye on them. Well DS has always sat next to a little boy whom I have met casually in stores and around the way. Nice kid, I thought. Well today, I decided to ask DS how this child was doing. He tells me that this kid doesn't let him sit next to him on the bus anymore. I asked why? He said, "I don't know mommy but I don't think he's joking. He says I can't sit next to him".. I am so heartbroken! He seemed sad about it and confused. So of course I told him that he should never let another kid tell him what to do and that he should sit where ever he wants but at the same time I don't want him sitting with a child like this who is obv not very nice. And it's kindergarten so kids have weird reasons for doing things anyway. Should I bring this up to the bus driver? DS begged me not to say anything but part of me wants to mention it. As innocent as it sounds, this kid can eventually turn into a bully.

Re: Trouble on bus

Unfortunately, not everyone is going to like your child growing up. As long as he isn't bullying him, I would just ignore it, and tell your son to sit somewhere else.

Re: Trouble on bus

At this moment, your DS might be better off sitting somewhere else. If you speak to the bus driver, then what will happen is the bus driver will have him sit next to that boy, maybe. Do you really want him sitting next to someone that doesn't want him there?

Re: Trouble on bus

Re: Trouble on bus

Posted by Lucky

At this moment, your DS might be better off sitting somewhere else. If you speak to the bus driver, then what will happen is the bus driver will have him sit next to that boy, maybe. Do you really want him sitting next to someone that doesn't want him there?

Re: Trouble on bus

I would tell my kids there are plenty of other kids to be friends with & make an effort to arrange getting together with classmates on the bus so he has some friends.

Re: Trouble on bus

I would use it as a teaching moment. Throughout life, there will be people who don't like you, sometimes for no fault of your own. Teach him that this happens, but it's not his fault, and he should find someone else to sit with. As long as it's passive statements about not wanting to sit with your DS, I would leave it alone. Of course, if things escalate, then adults need to get involved.

Re: Trouble on bus

Thank you ladies, I feel so much better about it. I will take him out for ice cream later and talk ab it. Def a life lesson for the little guy!

Re: Trouble on bus

Re: Trouble on bus

Our school assigns seats to the children the first week of school so they are always in the same seat.

If a kid is mean to another or misbehaves, they get a phone call home. If it happens a 2nd time, they have a meeting with the parents, principal, and bus driver, 3rd time, the child gets taken off the bus.

As long as the kid is not being "mean", just doesn't want to sit with your child, there's not much you can do.

Re: Trouble on bus

I agree a teaching moment. From what I hear, the kids do this all the time. Sometimes, it lasts for a day and sometimes longer. My son loved this little girl and sat with her everyday while she got adjusted to the bus (he is a year older and has other friends his age on the bus but felt he was helping her out snice it was her first year and she was new to the neighborhood). One day she tells him she won't sit with him anymore and he was so upset. Tells him she isn't his friend and all that. I just tell him to move on and that people have bad days and some people just aren't always nice. I tell him to sit with people who are nice to him and make him feel good and happy. Luckily he has 2 awesome other kids on his bus! Also, sometimes I don't think kids do it to be mean - I think it is just they can't communicate what they want that well and also like my son - some kids take things too personally.

Re: Trouble on bus