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Something nice I heard yesterday
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CouponKT
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Something nice I heard yesterday
I was at a family event yesterday speaking to my cousin's aunt (other side of the family) and we were discussing her children and their needs. She has three kids, one is severely Autistic, one has Downs Syndrome and the other is learning disabled. I told her that I give her a lot of credit for what she does for her kids.
She told me that she loves that her kids NEED her. She said other kids will grow up, move out, have trouble with friends and learn to not need their Mom as much, but she will never have to experience that. She said she has "Forever Kids" who will always need their Mommy and that she will always have by her side to snuggle and tuck into bed.
It was SOOO touching to hear her talk this way and I wanted to share it with all of you 
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Posted 6/11/12 3:31 PM  |
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Bluepixie
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Re: Something nice I heard yesterday
That is so sweet. And most certainly a refreshing view on a stressful family life. 
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| Posted 6/11/12 8:20 PM |
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lvdolphins
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Re: Something nice I heard yesterday
That is so awesome and so sweet!
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| Posted 6/11/12 8:38 PM |
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CrankyPants
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Re: Something nice I heard yesterday
If it brings her happiness, then good for her.
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| Posted 6/12/12 10:49 AM |
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nov04libride
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Re: Something nice I heard yesterday
Posted by CrankyPants
If it brings her happiness, then good for her.
I agree, but I think the mother is just wrong--as parents, especially as a parent of a special needs child, I feel like we need to make them independent, and it seems kind of selfish to think of them as forever children. It is more difficult, yes, but I think the goal of every parent is to make independent, autonomous children, who will be able to function when we are not there.
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| Posted 6/28/12 10:06 AM |
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CouponKT
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Re: Something nice I heard yesterday
Posted by nov04libride
Posted by CrankyPants
If it brings her happiness, then good for her.
I agree, but I think the mother is just wrong--as parents, especially as a parent of a special needs child, I feel like we need to make them independent, and it seems kind of selfish to think of them as forever children. It is more difficult, yes, but I think the goal of every parent is to make independent, autonomous children, who will be able to function when we are not there.
I don't think you can call her "wrong" it's her opinion and way of viewing her situation. In this case, her children will never be independent. They will always need assistance from either her or a care-taker.
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| Posted 6/28/12 10:12 AM |
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adeline27
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Re: Something nice I heard yesterday
Posted by nov04libride
Posted by CrankyPants
If it brings her happiness, then good for her.
I agree, but I think the mother is just wrong--as parents, especially as a parent of a special needs child, I feel like we need to make them independent, and it seems kind of selfish to think of them as forever children. It is more difficult, yes, but I think the goal of every parent is to make independent, autonomous children, who will be able to function when we are not there.
I had to read twice that you are a parent of a special needs child...Do you honestly think she does not want her children to be independent??? You are NOT in this woman's shoes. Are you caring for these children and "THEIR" specific special needs. I could never talk about anyone's situation I'm not personally experiencing myself.
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| Posted 7/23/12 6:46 AM |
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nov04libride
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Re: Something nice I heard yesterday
Posted by adeline27
Posted by nov04libride
Posted by CrankyPants
If it brings her happiness, then good for her.
I agree, but I think the mother is just wrong--as parents, especially as a parent of a special needs child, I feel like we need to make them independent, and it seems kind of selfish to think of them as forever children. It is more difficult, yes, but I think the goal of every parent is to make independent, autonomous children, who will be able to function when we are not there.
I had to read twice that you are a parent of a special needs child...Do you honestly think she does not want her children to be independent??? You are NOT in this woman's shoes. Are you caring for these children and "THEIR" specific special needs. I could never talk about anyone's situation I'm not personally experiencing myself.
To me, saying that you like that they are "forever kids" and will forever need you to tuck them in is, yes, not encouraging independence, but that's just my take on the OP. Of course I don't know them, I just know what I read in the OP.  But yes, I teach education classes (in addition to have a SN child), and do think that whatever the special need is, it is the responsibility of the parent to make them as independent as possible (and, sadly, envision what their lives will be if we are not there to care for them).
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| Posted 7/24/12 9:52 PM |
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CouponKT
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Re: Something nice I heard yesterday
Posted by nov04libride
Posted by adeline27
Posted by nov04libride
Posted by CrankyPants
If it brings her happiness, then good for her.
I agree, but I think the mother is just wrong--as parents, especially as a parent of a special needs child, I feel like we need to make them independent, and it seems kind of selfish to think of them as forever children. It is more difficult, yes, but I think the goal of every parent is to make independent, autonomous children, who will be able to function when we are not there.
I had to read twice that you are a parent of a special needs child...Do you honestly think she does not want her children to be independent??? You are NOT in this woman's shoes. Are you caring for these children and "THEIR" specific special needs. I could never talk about anyone's situation I'm not personally experiencing myself.
To me, saying that you like that they are "forever kids" and will forever need you to tuck them in is, yes, not encouraging independence, but that's just my take on the OP. Of course I don't know them, I just know what I read in the OP. But yes, I teach education classes (in addition to have a SN child), and do think that whatever the special need is, it is the responsibility of the parent to make them as independent as possible (and, sadly, envision what their lives will be if we are not there to care for them).
In this situation, these kids will never get to the point of being independent. That is a fact and the reality of how it is. She has a daughter who is independent and does fine on her own. Her son will just never get to that point no matter how hard you want it.
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| Posted 7/25/12 7:41 AM |
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