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jessnbrian
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Jessica
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How do I respond to this???
So I just got the following email from the girl who's shower was yesterday. I love her to pieces, and I am so happy for them, but I just have no idea how to respond to this email... Not sure if I even need to.
"Just wanted to thank you again for yesterday and for your support. We really appreciate it (especially given how unfair life has been)! Hope you had a great time at the engagement party:)"
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Posted 11/25/13 12:06 PM  |
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moonmist09
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How do I respond to this???
was it a baby shower?
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| Posted 11/25/13 12:11 PM |
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jessnbrian
Only God knows His plan for us
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Jessica
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Re: How do I respond to this???
Posted by moonmist09
was it a baby shower?
yup
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| Posted 11/25/13 12:11 PM |
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mrsm-2011
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Re: How do I respond to this???
I would say something in response like this: I appreciate you thinking of me. I'm really happy for you and my time will come.
If you don't feel like responding that's fine too. 
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| Posted 11/25/13 12:12 PM |
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jessnbrian
Only God knows His plan for us
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Jessica
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How do I respond to this???
with the mood i'm in today, I don't think I can respond right now, I'll respond tomorrow. I did however, send a quick message to the girls MIL, who we are also very close with, just thanking her for the huge hugs and comfort she gave me yesterday - she saw right through my terrible poker face.
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| Posted 11/25/13 12:56 PM |
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ShhhTTCin11
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How do I respond to this???
I think it was nice that she acknowledged it was a hard day for you. I'd respond a quick something like "I'm really happy for you - it was a nice day" an maybe even thank her for thinking of my feelings.
But if it's too hard to respond right now, don't. You can always say something when you see her. She sounds like a caring friend!!
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| Posted 11/25/13 1:35 PM |
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Lillies
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Re: How do I respond to this???
If it were me,(and it usually is bc all my friends are walking on egg shells with baby stuff) I would respond with a simple- "I had a wonderful time. It was a great shower. Best wishes!.." That's it lol
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| Posted 11/25/13 1:56 PM |
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jessnbrian
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Jessica
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Re: How do I respond to this???
Posted by ShhhTTCin11
I think it was nice that she acknowledged it was a hard day for you. I'd respond a quick something like "I'm really happy for you - it was a nice day" an maybe even thank her for thinking of my feelings.
But if it's too hard to respond right now, don't. You can always say something when you see her. She sounds like a caring friend!!
She really is amazing, I love the two of them to pieces... and I appreciate her thoughts, I just didn't want to say something that would have come off as out of line.... The day did set me off though, more so than the baby shower I was at a few weeks back.
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| Posted 11/25/13 1:58 PM |
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IveGotAFeeling
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Re: How do I respond to this???
Posted by ShhhTTCin11
I think it was nice that she acknowledged it was a hard day for you. I'd respond a quick something like "I'm really happy for you - it was a nice day" an maybe even thank her for thinking of my feelings.
But if it's too hard to respond right now, don't. You can always say something when you see her. She sounds like a caring friend!!
ITA with all of this.
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| Posted 11/25/13 2:00 PM |
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ANewDayHasCome
Love multiplies, not divides
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How do I respond to this???
When we were ttc and it had almost been a year at that point my sister had her second. She got preg on the first try with her first but her second took well over a year and they had help. Well on the day of my nephews bris my bil said to dh we really appreciate you coming. We have friends who didn't go to things bc they were having trouble conceiving. Thankfully he said it to dh and not me. But wtf it's my nephew. Like I wouldn't go to his bris.
Someone else's shower however, that's different....
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| Posted 11/25/13 2:07 PM |
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ANewDayHasCome
Love multiplies, not divides
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Re: How do I respond to this???
And totally is. So many times I was put in a position when people didn't even think things would be hard on me and that made it worse. It's nice she acknowledged it being a tough day for you. Respond when and if you're ready.
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| Posted 11/25/13 2:09 PM |
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babyfever24
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Re: How do I respond to this???
It's always worse after the fact. I always think I can do these kind of things, I go, I'm fine and then I'm miserable and upset for days after. I would respond like the others suggested.
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| Posted 11/25/13 2:14 PM |
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ShhhTTCin11
3 under 3?!
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Re: How do I respond to this???
Posted by jessnbrian
Posted by ShhhTTCin11
I think it was nice that she acknowledged it was a hard day for you. I'd respond a quick something like "I'm really happy for you - it was a nice day" an maybe even thank her for thinking of my feelings.
But if it's too hard to respond right now, don't. You can always say something when you see her. She sounds like a caring friend!!
She really is amazing, I love the two of them to pieces... and I appreciate her thoughts, I just didn't want to say something that would have come off as out of line.... The day did set me off though, more so than the baby shower I was at a few weeks back.
I totally get it. I had friends walk on eggshells around me. Mid- ivf cycle, my best friend found out she was pregnant and was scared to tell me because my cycle was crazy and we didn't know how it would end.
When she told me, she was almost apologetic and I had to tell her that my frustrations and problems have no bearing on my happiness for her - even if her being pregnant makes me jealous.
I think it is important to try and remember how happy of s time it is for your friends, even though its painful for you.
I think if you keep it short and sweet, it will both reassure her that you are happy for them and let her know you appreciate her, which it sounds like you do. I don't think you'll sound out of line.
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| Posted 11/25/13 4:24 PM |
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jessnbrian
Only God knows His plan for us
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Jessica
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How do I respond to this???
This is what I ended up saying :
"Hi Love! Thanks a million, it was great seeing you - and you look so fantastic! I'm so happy you are having an easy pregnancy - or at least what looks like an easy pregnancy (I could be totally wrong, and I'm sorry if I am), but you look so good and are so happy, it can't be anything but perfect! I wouldn't have missed yesterday for the world, and I felt terrible that we had to leave early.
The engagement party was wonderful as well, the groom actually shocked Brian and asked him to be in the wedding party, so it was an extra special day!
Please ask your mom for the recipe for the chicken dish she made - IT WAS INCREDIBLE!!!
Can't wait to meet the little guy!!!!!"
Her mother & her had both mentioned that she was having an easy pregnancy, so I knew that I could say that (but I added the caveat just in case)...
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| Posted 11/25/13 4:30 PM |
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Lillies
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Re: How do I respond to this???
Perfect, Jess!!
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