X-Post from TTC and PG after MC

I know this is not necessarily IF related but I need help. My sister lost her baby at 13 weeks. I don't know how to help her bc my losses were so early. Here's the link to my post: Link

Anything you can share with me is greatly appreciated. I am having a very hard time dealing with this. I honestly think this is hurting me more than my own 2 losses. And I'm in the process of my 4th clomid cycle. The last one my insurance will cover before we have to move on. I am awaiting results from my AMH test. I have a consult with Dr. Brenner this morning to discuss our path should this next IUI fail. I don't know what to do. How do I go about my business while my family is feeling like this? Myself included. Not to mention, even if I do get pregnant, I am now going to be even more petrified than I would have been before her loss. I'm having doubts about whether this is the right time to be doing this but how can I just toss out my last cycle?? I'm a wreck.

X-Post from TTC and PG after MC

I'm so sorry you're going through this. I have no experience with loss but i def do with fertility treatments. Dd is the result of having gone through 7 medicated cycles including 4 iuis and 2 Ivfs.

It doesn't sound like you're in the right headspace for this. It's such an emotionally draining thing to begin with, maybe you should take a break right now?

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I agree you sound like you have a lot going on in your life right now. Take some time for yourself to take a step back and clear your head…..its all so emotional draining.

As for your sister even though you didn't have such a late loss you def can relate to her. Let her know how you're there for her anytime and just listen. IT's the best medicine knowing you have people there to support you.

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Thinking of you

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Do what you feel in you heart. I'm so sorry for your family.

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Thank you all for the kind words and support.

My sister began the process this morning. Tomorrow it will all be over. I am still very much grieving this loss of hers. More so than I did my own. It really has put a lot into perspective for me about how lucky I am to have been able to enjoy at least one healthy pregnancy that resulted in a beautiful daughter. I know pregnancy will never be the same for myself or my sister ever again but I can accept that. I just hope she can as well.

DH does not think we should cancel this cycle. He thinks it best we do what we need to do. This is my 4th IUI cycle and we had our consult yesterday with Dr. Brenner about the possibility of doing IVF. Ultimately, we have decided that if this cycle fails, we are going to take a break from IF treatments. He is not comfortable with IVF and to be honest, I 'm glad he made the decision for me easier, bc I was not sure if I was ready for that either. I think because I have a baby from a successful IUI, and I did get pregnant 2x on my own, it's a little harder for me to absorb. We agreed we will still try naturally but instead try to focus on enjoying each other and our daughter the way we did almost one year ago before we made the decision to try for another. If it happens, great. If not, we will decide when the time is right if we would like to proceed further. Right now, the only thing I can take away from my sisters loss is that although I know I would love to experience another baby and give Ella a sibling, if for some reason that is not a possibility for me, my life will still be complete.

Here's hoping that this cycle brings me whatever is meant to be. Thank you all again.

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While the not same situation, I had something similar in a way happen to me. After 3+years of TTC, iuis, 2 ivfs, and 2fets, I finally conceived my DD. When I was 7 months pregnant, my sister, who had been my support and rock throughout my journey, got pregnant. I was beyond excited that she did not have to go through what I went through b/c deep down I was always worried that my journey would scare her and impact her decision of when to TTC. All looked good but at her 9 week appointment they found out she miscarried. We were all beyond devastated. I was due in 4 weeks. It was such an emotional time for her, for me, for my parents, it was almost too much. She took the time she needed to grieve and then luckily one month after my DD was born my sister got pregnant again. Our DD are 9 months apart and are like sisters. I dont really have words of advice but I know what you are going through. Life is just so unfair at times. I felt like after what I endured how could my sister struggle as well.

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so sorry for ur family's loss and urs. sending good vibes to u and ur sis. I know ppl that went on to have full healthy pregnancies with losses like these. hopefully the D&C will give some answers and comfort to ur sis as obviously she didn't cause this


sending u sticky dust for ur cycle this month