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I'm having a very down day. DH and I cannot have children. I have had 3 mc very early on. The doctors feel due to my other health issues it is in my best interest to no longer keep trying. At this point adoption is not an option due to financial reasons. DH and I have hit a rough patch due to the stress from not having a child. His sister just had a baby. All of his best friends have bad babies. One of them actually named the baby what we hoped to name our child one day. I have avoided every baby shower so far. It kills me. One of his best friends who already has one child called today to ask if we can get together soon because they have some news. I know it is a second baby. Today we got an invitation for another baptism.

My sister started dating a guy in December and immediately got pregnant. Every time I speak to her she says why can't you just take my baby or I hate getting fat you should feel bad for me.

I have started medicine to help. I'm trying to prepare myself for therapy but in the past it has been really hard for me.

I'm not really sure why I am writing this. I guess my question is what should I do next? I am so envious of everyone who has children. I feel like I am becoming so bitter.

If you have gotten this far thanks for listening.

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I am so so sorry.

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Im sorry too, infertility is so impossibly hard, but dont give up yet - since we dont know what your medical issue are- i cant say for sure but there are always other drs - have you seen a Dr Kofinas? i have heard he is the best with very severe issues....keep trying different roads and hang in there

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I'm so sorry.

And your sister sounds really insensitive :(

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I'm so sorry you and your DH are going through this...

Have you tried another doctor? Maybe a second opinion would bring you additional options...

Good luck

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I'm sorry

I agree with some if the other ladies to go for a 2nd opinion. Most all of us know exactly how u feel it's hard when everyone around u is pregnant or with child etc... You will be ok no matter what, keep your chin up and don't give up

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I'm so sorry..

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I second the second opinion and I am so so sorry.

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I am so sorry. I would definitely seek out a second opinion. Also - perhaps surrogacy is an option for you.

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I am so sorry for these hard days. I agree that it never hurts to get a second opinion. The worst that can happen is that they tell you what you already know. Maybe after that you and the hubs can just try and destress and find a happy place again. In my opinion its one of thetoughest things to fight with DH when we are TTC.How can I want to strangle him when I need to straddle him lol! Hang in there and don't give up until you are ready to. At that point you can look into other options. But not until you are ready.

xoxoxo