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hoping2013
LIF Toddler
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the holidays....
the sadness is creeping in and it seems like everyone is pregnant and happy and their life is moving on.
I am going to try again next year so I am trying to hang onto that hope but its like a wave of shock is hitting me again that here comes ANOTHER Christmas and I am in the same f**** situation as the years before.
I still can't believe its not all worked....ugh.
Just needed to vent and honor the sadness.
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Posted 12/16/14 7:59 AM  |
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Re: the holidays....
Unfortunately, I feel the same; every friggin year.
Every year I put up my tree; I think; will next year bring me more happiness?
Then the following years come; and the answer is still No.
Im in this more years than I care to admit. Halloween thru Christmas is the worst for me; even though every day can sometimes be pure torture. I just want this to end!!
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| Posted 12/16/14 9:27 AM |
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TyReseGreen
Lil Prince is here
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Re: the holidays....
I feel the same way right now I was crying last night at the thought of my current cycle not working and having to put on a happy face at Christmas dinner with my family.
With all that said I hope 2015 is your year
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| Posted 12/16/14 10:24 AM |
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JJ2014
LIF Adolescent
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Re: the holidays....
I'm right there with you... especially since everyone who got pregnant when I started trying last year is celebrating this year with their new babies AND everyone else is now expecting!
Last year I thought my holiday card would be an announcement we were expecting and I'd have a baby on my 2014 card... well I couldn't even do an expecting announcement this year!
It was this time last year that I really thought I would get my BFP so it's a wonderful reminder that all I got were 12 BPN!!! Hopefully we all have babies in 2015/2016. Trying to stay positive but it's definitely hard right about now.
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| Posted 12/16/14 10:46 AM |
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Gratitude
LIF Infant
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Re: the holidays....
I'm so sorry. I know exactly how this feels - and it's heartbreaking.
The one thing that has really helped me through those heartsick, angry and hopeless times, is to make a conscious effort to look around me and be truly grateful for I do have (I sometimes had to say it out loud to get myself going). Somedays, this was harder than others (as I am sure you can imagine).
I hope we all find joy this season and that 2015 is full of miracles.
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| Posted 12/16/14 10:48 AM |
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DisneyMrs
LIF Zygote
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the holidays....
I know how you feel, it's my 4th holiday without a baby. And now the only one out of my group of friends childless. I don't even want to hang up the Christmas cards I've received because it hurts for my own selfish reasons to see all of my friends with their families. I can only hope 2015 is the year for us all
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| Posted 12/16/14 11:33 AM |
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Athee
I believe in miracles!
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Re: the holidays....
I'm so sorry! I do know exactly how you feel. It's hard and frustrating but hopefully your rainbow will come out after this storm passes. I miscarried on December 23rd, five years ago, to this day I remember how hard that Christmas was, but my baby did come- hoping for the same to you!
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| Posted 12/16/14 2:56 PM |
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Hope2beamom
LIF Toddler
Member since 2/14 491 total posts
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Re: the holidays....
I know exactly what you girls feel like and it does hurt. I never thought I would be where I am today (7 Weeks Prego) Have faith and stay positive...your time will come! I promise you!!!!!!
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| Posted 12/16/14 3:00 PM |
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JSDB
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Re: the holidays....
My heart breaks reading this post. Stay strong ladies. Last thanksgiving I found out I was having my third consecutive miscarriage. This year our holiday cards were combo birth announcements. A lot can change in a year, hopefully this next one is kind to you
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| Posted 12/16/14 3:49 PM |
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Sweetlax22
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Re: the holidays....
Posted by Gratitude
I'm so sorry. I know exactly how this feels - and it's heartbreaking.
The one thing that has really helped me through those heartsick, angry and hopeless times, is to make a conscious effort to look around me and be truly grateful for I do have (I sometimes had to say it out loud to get myself going). Somedays, this was harder than others (as I am sure you can imagine).
I hope we all find joy this season and that 2015 is full of miracles.
This is what I try to do too.
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| Posted 12/16/14 4:20 PM |
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08BabySurprise
My Life. My Everything.
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Re: the holidays....
I have been there too many times to count. There are no words anyone can say to take the pain and hurt and emptiness away. I hope and pray that 2015 is kind to all the ladies on this board! 
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| Posted 12/16/14 4:50 PM |
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bookworm
Two Little Rosebuds
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Re: the holidays....
A friend of mine posted this, and I think it's a nice read to give yourself permission to take care of yourself at a challenging time.
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/dr-angeline-beltsos/9-survival-tips-how-to-na_b_6290206.html
Last year we straight skipped Christmas, went away, no tree or presents or anything. I just was so beat up I couldn't do it, and it was really nice to escape.
Hang in there
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| Posted 12/16/14 4:56 PM |
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hoping2013
LIF Toddler
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the holidays....
Thanks everyone. I know I am not alone....there are many of us feeling it. And it is nice to hear from folks who were sad last Christmas and now have birth announcements! What a dream that would be for 2015
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| Posted 12/16/14 7:07 PM |
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MrsPetro2B
LIF Infant
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Re: the holidays....
I was just having this conversation with DH. I had a meltdown in Target picking out toys for my niece. I just couldn't help feeling anger and jealousy and sadness at the same time.I just want to wake up and have it be 2015. New year and hopefully new happy beginnings for all of us!
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| Posted 12/16/14 7:34 PM |
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Js2014
LIF Infant
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the holidays....
You're not alone but still doesn't make it any easier
Buying all my friend kids stuff for Christmas kills this year.
I hope 2015 is your year! Stay strong
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| Posted 12/16/14 8:08 PM |
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NicoleF219
LIF Infant
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the holidays....
I am right there with you all...I never thought I would still be in this position 2 years and multiple IUI's and IVF's later. I told my husband tonight that I am just not into the holidays and he understood. I bought some gifts but haven't wrapped a thing. I've also learned to say no to things that are going to upset me and I don't feel bad about it. No baby showers, birthday parties, meet the new baby parties etc.
Hoping 2015 will be better for all of us
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| Posted 12/16/14 8:31 PM |
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Nifheim
allo
Member since 1/09 5476 total posts
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the holidays....
this year was rough only because it's been a year seeing a specialist now and I thought by now I would know why. I mean this month could be it but I have my doubts.
Someone made fun of our holiday cards because we have a cat on them. it was a rude remark of why don't you put a real baby on it instead of your dumb cats. I actually clenched my fist and had to prevent myself from punching them.
One of my last sessions the child asked why i have no kids since I photograph children as my second job and I said because I haven't been blessed yet. She said you're strange. Eh sigh.
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| Posted 12/17/14 10:19 AM |
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Re: the holidays....
Posted by Nifheim
One of my last sessions the child asked why i have no kids since I photography children as my second job and I said because I haven't been blessed yet. She said you're strange. Eh sigh.
Yeah, being strange should be the least of our problems! The things kids will say.
I also have a stack of Christmas picture cards that I got in the mail; still sealed in their envelopes. I hate that I have no desire to open them.
I Hate it; hate it; hate it!
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| Posted 12/17/14 10:36 AM |
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Nifheim
allo
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Jennifer
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the holidays....
yea i'm pretty strange LoL it does stink and at my other job i am somewhat pissy because i am the only childlress person here and i get to stay later or do more because "it's not like i have kids to worry about." like there will be some photo or graphic design emergency in december. stinks all around.
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| Posted 12/17/14 10:39 AM |
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ggt08
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the holidays....
I am feeling the same way. SO many girls at work are pregnant and so many on here have moved over to the other side. Happy for them but sad for me. It is ok to be angry and mourn what we don't have right now. I try and tell myself that things happen for a reason blah blah.. Many hugs to you... xoxoxo
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| Posted 12/17/14 3:37 PM |
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