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appropriate 'announcement' timing?
I'm one of those people who have most of my family and friends living in another state (and my FB only filled with people I know and care about IRL). So I'll be making sure to do a formal FB announcement of this pregnancy rather than trying to call multitudes of people individually. My 12wk appointment is this week and I was planning on telling DD after it (she can't keep a secret so I've been needing to wait and am ecstatic about finally telling her - she's 4). My mom, dad, & sisters already know and so does my BFF out here, but I was waiting to let DD tell MIL until this weekend, then do the FB announcement after that. My SIL just texted to see if I'd like to come to her son's baseball game this Sunday and then a BBQ with a cake for her daughter (who turned 15 last week, but didn't have a party or anything). I could just not say anything and let them find out on FB with everybody else, though that seems odd since we're seeing them now. I'm considering just telling them all at this get together. Is that inappropriate since it's sort of our niece's birthday thing? I mean, it's not a party really and will actually most likely be at my house anyhow or possibly MIL's (since they live out of town and the game is here). Still, I don't want to do anything inappropriate. I'm not sure if this could be categorized as 'stealing thunder' necessarily, but looking for input nonetheless. lol.
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Posted 6/1/15 6:54 PM  |
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Cheeks24
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appropriate 'announcement' timing?
Is there a reason you're waiting this long to tell your ILs? Mine knew the same time as my family.
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| Posted 6/1/15 7:07 PM |
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Re: appropriate 'announcement' timing?
Posted by Cheeks24
Is there a reason you're waiting this long to tell your ILs? Mine knew the same time as my family.
Yes, because I've had miscarriages in my past. They all happened before 6 weeks, but I'm still VERY uncomfortable with anybody knowing before the end of the first trimester. My mom and sisters and BFF are different though because they've been with me through all of it (in-laws don't know about my history and I want to keep it that way). Meanwhile, if MIL knows about pregnancy, everybody does. haha. So I definitely needed to wait to tell anybody else (in-laws included) until 12 weeks - which I'll be this week. I don't want to wait any longer 
Message edited 6/1/2015 7:28:31 PM.
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| Posted 6/1/15 7:26 PM |
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Cheeks24
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appropriate 'announcement' timing?
I don't think this will take away from your niece's bday. I think it is fine to tell when you're there. Maybe wait until all the guests arrive or after they leave?
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| Posted 6/1/15 7:39 PM |
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cets1290
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appropriate 'announcement' timing?
i think it's fine to announce at the party- Maybe go and hangout for a bit and then just informally tell people and then it'll spread to everyone at the party lol- I think gathering everyone around and saying you have an announcement might be a little much, though
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| Posted 6/2/15 7:40 AM |
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Re: appropriate 'announcement' timing?
Ok thanks. Just don't want to be "that person" that makes things about them when it shouldn't be. We'll just let them know without making it a huge announcement sort of thing. I figure that's better than just posting it on FB and them being like "Hey dude, we just saw you. Why wouldn't you have said something?" lol.
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| Posted 6/2/15 9:46 AM |
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Re: appropriate 'announcement' timing?
Posted by cets1290
i think it's fine to announce at the party- Maybe go and hangout for a bit and then just informally tell people and then it'll spread to everyone at the party lol- I think gathering everyone around and saying you have an announcement might be a little much, though
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| Posted 6/2/15 9:51 AM |
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nraboni
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Re: appropriate 'announcement' timing?
Posted by Garden-of-Eden
Ok thanks. Just don't want to be "that person" that makes things about them when it shouldn't be. We'll just let them know without making it a huge announcement sort of thing. I figure that's better than just posting it on FB and them being like "Hey dude, we just saw you. Why wouldn't you have said something?" lol.
If you were to buy your DD a big sister t-shirt and change her into the shirt at some point during the BBQ would they think that was cute or would they smile and talk behind your back? If I were in your situation and knew my family would love this surprise, I would have my DD change into a shirt and watch as the people discover the surprise.
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| Posted 6/2/15 10:18 AM |
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Re: appropriate 'announcement' timing?
Posted by nraboni
Posted by Garden-of-Eden
Ok thanks. Just don't want to be "that person" that makes things about them when it shouldn't be. We'll just let them know without making it a huge announcement sort of thing. I figure that's better than just posting it on FB and them being like "Hey dude, we just saw you. Why wouldn't you have said something?" lol.
If you were to buy your DD a big sister t-shirt and change her into the shirt at some point during the BBQ would they think that was cute or would they smile and talk behind your back? If I were in your situation and knew my family would love this surprise, I would have my DD change into a shirt and watch as the people discover the surprise.
That's cute. She actually DOES have a big sister shirt that we used for our official announcement picture. I could change her into it after the baseball game, sometime during the BBQ. That would be cute. Then we're not really making any sort of announcement, just letting DD tell the news. Honestly, I feel like she's going to tell MIL right away anyhow. That's why we had to wait to tell her about baby, because I know she'll be so excited and want to tell everybody. So we'll just let her do it this weekend 
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| Posted 6/2/15 10:26 AM |
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JimLaheyTTC
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Re: appropriate 'announcement' timing?
Wait until after everyone has cake and THEN change DD into the big sister shirt! That way you're not stealing the show - the show is pretty much already over at that point AND they get to find out in person before the rest of the world finds out on FB.
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| Posted 6/2/15 11:12 AM |
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