Should the coach call you?

My daughter had a minor injury at her soccer game Sunday. It was minor- seems like she pulled something but wasn't able to play the game bc at the time she was limping bad. So my husband told her obviously to stay out of the remainder of the game (she had only been able to play 5 min tops).

Coach never bothered to come over to my DH while she was sitting out. The asst coach came by once and we told him she wasn't able to play the rest of the game.

Would you expect the main coach to at least reach out via email to me after the game or today to see how she was? Or am I being to hard on him?
My opinion is- it would have been nice to drop a quick email and asked if she was feeling better etc. I'm not crazy about this guy anyway.

Message edited 9/14/2015 6:51:21 PM.

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I think he should have but having a bad coach last year, I don't expect much from people anymore

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I honestly don't think it's a big deal. Would it have been nice, yes. But it certainly wouldn't bother me if the coach didn't follow up.

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Should the coach call - No, not in my experience. Would it be a nice thing to do - absolutely. But, no it's definitely not typical and not something I think that should be held against him. I don't know how old your child is or how long they have been playing but, I have to say after three years of many sports kids get hurt during games VERY frequently and I never hear of the coaches following up.. It's just kind of par for the course. IN fact, my DS got seriously injured on a summer team and while a number of the parents on the team reached out with texts to follow-up - the actual coaches didn't at all. Neither did the coaches on other teams when they were informed he couldn't play and why. and this was a serious injury not like what you describe. Now I will say these were summer teams where they didn't really know my son. I would expect that his main coach would follow up but, only because he knows him well and it was a significant injury.

Message edited 9/14/2015 7:59:31 PM.

Should the coach call you?

Ok thanks ladies! I needed honest opinions. FWIW my DD is only 6. First game of the season. (She played last 2 years). But she's 6.

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Yes. A 6 year old that has to sit out most of the game due to an injury - even if minor - warrants a call or at least an email but I would give the coach until to the next day before I got too annoyed.

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As a soccer coach of about 6 years, I can say that I don't send emails every time a player gets hurt. Although, if they appear to have an injury that is fairly serious, I will follow up. As a parent, I wouldn't automatically expect an email, and as a coach, I wouldn't automatically send one.

Should the coach call you?

well, I think what you need to keep in mind here is that this coach is not a professional coach - he is a volunteer parent most likely. So I wouldnt think any less of them for not doing what you think a "coacj" (someone who does it for living) to do. I also wouldnt think a pulled muscle would warrant a call later on to see how they were. I mean, at 6 kids dont want to play for a bunch of reasons (especially first game) so he probably didn't even really think to much of it.

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I think it's a nice thing but not necessary. these coaches are all volunteers who are parents, who work, and who have numerous other responsibilities. Sometimes they just can't add that extra thing to their plate or they just plain forget. My DH coaches and he is the type to be in close contact with parents but if he forgot or didn't do it for one reason or another, I think he (and I) would hope parents would realize how much the coaches do and cut them some slack. I certainly appreciate a coach who does do those things and I think those are the best ones but I just wouldn't hold it against them for not doing it for a relatively minor injury. That said, I do think it's more important to check on the child and ask the child how he/she is doing while at the game. To me, that sends a direct message to the child and helps he/she to feel better. An email to a parent is really just to make the parent feel better.

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I agree with above. My husband has been coaching soccer for many years. And kids get hurt in some form every game. If something major or out of ordinary, definitely will he follow up and sometimes will on other issues/injuries. But no, he does not follow up for everything that occurs in every game nor is he expected to. And he is one of the more requested coaches and is known to be a very caring coach. But as for sitting the whole game, DH would have definitely spoke to the parents to let them know what happened and why the child did not play so the parents are aware. Also, coaches are parents volunteers with absolutely no training for the most part. Experience is key just like everything in life - you do more and change the way you do things with the experience you get each year.

Message edited 9/17/2015 6:53:38 AM.

Should the coach call you?

I think he should of at least asked if she was ok at the game itself.

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DH and I coached many of our kids teams-soccer, football, hockey, softball.

I would (and have) taken a moment to check on the hurt kid as soon as it happened-even just a yell to the sidelines to the parents.

I also would have followed up with a call or email. I'd ask at the next practice or game if everything was ok. Sometimes kids get hurt because they are not using a technique properly. In football, my experience is many times a kid gets hurt due to improper technique. We need to follow up and reteach a skill, like how to tackle safely.

That's just how I roll. I wouldn't hold it against your coach, maybe he got word from his assistant that all was ok. Hope it works out to be a great season!

Message edited 9/17/2015 10:43:50 AM.

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No.

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Posted by jodi714



DH had to wait for some parents to give out soccer uniforms in a rain storm a few weeks ago and he ran into a couple who "changed their mind about meeting him" but did not bother to call him...he had to hunt them down.

It's a very thankless job and I think you need to cut the coach some slack.

I can just imagine the crap he would have gotten if the parents were waiting on him and he decided to change his mind about meeting them

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Of course.

There were a few ******** about some coaches not having their personal info on the website and I can see now why.

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I say this all the time on FB:

If you don't like how things are run, you and/or your DH can also step up and volunteer.

This is why DH got involved on our end.

I'm also not making excuses for the guy, but one of DH biggest complaints is he is out there with about 10-12 kids age 7 and under at most games by himself.

You know how hard it is to pay attention to that many kids during a game?

Last year, we also had parents of Kindergartners starting fights arguing with the tween refs.

There's a lot going on at these games. And again, these aren't professionals getting paid either.

We need to choose our battles here.

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I wouldn't expect the coach to check on DS if it was a minor injury. Something big, maybe.

Should the coach call you?

If my DH or I were there to make sure she was OK, I wouldn't expect anything extra from the coach. But that's me.