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lululu
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Best Friend Necklaces
What do you think of BFF necklaces for second graders? My daughter was so upset this morning because two girls (one of whom she is very good friends with) were wearing best friend necklaces yesterday. I was told by her that one of the other moms bought them for them. We all live on the same street, the girls all play together multiple times per week at home and school. All of the parents are good friends as well. I was thinking that even if this situation were different I don’t think that kind of necklace is appropriate for second graders because the chance that it makes someone feel left out or badly is huge. Just wanted to get some thoughts.
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mommy2B3
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Re: Best Friend Necklaces
My DD got her first one in 1st grade (last year) from a girl in her class, l thought it was a little early to be honest, but they still wear them this year. My DD recently had asked me to buy one for her and a girl from our neighborhood, so now she wears both. If they were 3 best friends, I’m surprised they didn’t buy the 3 pack (I’ve seen them at justice). The girl who started this last year has an older sister, so l think that comes into play when they see an older sibling doing it.
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| Posted 11/16/17 12:12 PM |
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NervousNell
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Re: Best Friend Necklaces
My DD's best friend gave her a BF bracelet last year. (end of 1st grade)
I didn't think anything of it.
That is truly her BEST friend. DD plays with other girls at school and has other friends but these 2 are BEST friends and are closer than with anyone else. So it's not like there were 3 or 4 that were super close and they excluded someone
They don't really wear it on the same day ever I don't think- DD will randomly put it on some days, other times it sits in her jewelry box for weks forgotten about- and i don't think they flaunt it around to others at all or make anyone else feel bad (they are just not like that - either one of them)
DD just likes the bracleet to be honest. And likes the thought that it's from her friend and she thought of her and wanted to get it.
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| Posted 11/16/17 1:09 PM |
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BargainMama
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Best Friend Necklaces
I don't see the big deal to be honest. Go buy the 3 pack and tell her to give them to the other two girls. My daughter has a few of these from various friends and her cousins. She doesn't really wear them because she doesn't wear jewelry often.
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| Posted 11/16/17 1:20 PM |
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M514
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Best Friend Necklaces
My DD is in 1st grade and and she has a few bff items between her and her bff (since pre-k). I think it’s really sweet that they think of each other and pick these items out. I hope they stay this close for a long time. But I don’t see anything malicious about it.
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| Posted 11/16/17 2:36 PM |
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lululu
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Re: Best Friend Necklaces
Posted by M514
My DD is in 1st grade and and she has a few bff items between her and her bff (since pre-k). I think it’s really sweet that they think of each other and pick these items out. I hope they stay this close for a long time. But I don’t see anything malicious about it.
Yes but if there was a third girl in the mix would you buy it for two and exclude the third girl? I think that makes a difference. Three girls play together all the time, now two are wearing best friend charms. To the poster that said just get one for my daughter, it’s two halves so she would have one half without anyone having the other. If they had included her to begin with that would be one thing but the damage is already kind of done. They wore them and showed it to her.
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| Posted 11/16/17 3:32 PM |
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lululu
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Re: Best Friend Necklaces
Posted by mommy2B3
My DD got her first one in 1st grade (last year) from a girl in her class, l thought it was a little early to be honest, but they still wear them this year. My DD recently had asked me to buy one for her and a girl from our neighborhood, so now she wears both. If they were 3 best friends, I’m surprised they didn’t buy the 3 pack (I’ve seen them at justice). The girl who started this last year has an older sister, so l think that comes into play when they see an older sibling doing it.
Right, they should have bought the three pack, although I still am not crazy about the idea. But they didn’t and they wore it and showed her and basically said that she wasn’t included. I don’t really want my DD focusing on one girl or one clique in second grade. It’s so young. She should be out getting to know everyone.
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| Posted 11/16/17 3:35 PM |
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NervousNell
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Re: Best Friend Necklaces
Posted by lululu
Posted by M514
My DD is in 1st grade and and she has a few bff items between her and her bff (since pre-k). I think it’s really sweet that they think of each other and pick these items out. I hope they stay this close for a long time. But I don’t see anything malicious about it.
Yes but if there was a third girl in the mix would you buy it for two and exclude the third girl? I think that makes a difference. Three girls play together all the time, now two are wearing best friend charms. To the poster that said just get one for my daughter, it’s two halves so she would have one half without anyone having the other. If they had included her to begin with that would be one thing but the damage is already kind of done. They wore them and showed it to her.
I kind of blame the mom who bought it then. She should have gotten the 3 pack if there are 3 that are close.
That is what I would have done if DD wanted it and she had 2 close friends.
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| Posted 11/16/17 3:55 PM |
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lululu
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Re: Best Friend Necklaces
Posted by NervousNell
Posted by lululu
Posted by M514
My DD is in 1st grade and and she has a few bff items between her and her bff (since pre-k). I think it’s really sweet that they think of each other and pick these items out. I hope they stay this close for a long time. But I don’t see anything malicious about it.
Yes but if there was a third girl in the mix would you buy it for two and exclude the third girl? I think that makes a difference. Three girls play together all the time, now two are wearing best friend charms. To the poster that said just get one for my daughter, it’s two halves so she would have one half without anyone having the other. If they had included her to begin with that would be one thing but the damage is already kind of done. They wore them and showed it to her.
I kind of blame the mom who bought it then. She should have gotten the 3 pack if there are 3 that are close.
That is what I would have done if DD wanted it and she had 2 close friends.
Yeah I totally blame the mother. The kids have nothing to do with it. They didn't ask for them. The mom just got it for the two thinking it was cute. Meanwhile my daughter is left out and crying over it. I told the mom that didn't buy it how hurt my daughter was and her daughter didn't wear it today but the other one did. I feel bad because the one mom is I. The middle now. I am sure the other girl is asking why she didn't wear it today. But I guess I don't care.
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| Posted 11/16/17 5:12 PM |
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Re: Best Friend Necklaces
Awwww. I’m sorry for your daughter. It’s hurtful.
I’m sure the mom didn’t intend to hurt your daughter... she probably just picked up a cute necklace for her kid.
We had drama over my son not being invited to a spa girl party that one of his friends (girl) had. There was a show down, drama and tears (the birthday girl HAD wanted to invite him). The mom said it was girl only. Kids’ egos are very delicate. He then told her she wasn’t invited to his next party... more tears from her this time. At least it was all in the open and they have forgotten about it now.
I would get some friendship bracelets and hand them out to all 3 girls.
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| Posted 11/17/17 1:24 PM |
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Re: Best Friend Necklaces
I would think the mom who bought wasn't thinking it through and didn't intentionally hurt your DD. It's hard at that age to explain to your DD and it sucks that her feelings were hurt. I would probably reach out to the mom and explain that you are sure it wasn't her intention but it really hurt your daughters feelings to be excluded and would she mind if you got a 3 part necklace for the girls. If girls are all so close I'm sure she'll feel terrible.
When we went for back to school the kids did a project and they had to write their best friends on paper. My DD put new neighbor who was in her class and the girl put other girls from the class. As a mom I was like "Ugh". My DD never mentioned.
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