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Don’t even know how to address this....
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NYCGirl80
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Re: Don’t even know how to address this....
NOPE! Not acceptable! The school should have put it into a bag for you. They should not have thrown your son's clothes away! That's BEYOND RIDICULOUS. These are children and they will have accidents. You don't throw clothes away every time they get dirty.
I would personally go right to the director.
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jlm2008
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LuckyStar
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DD had a poop accident once at school and they sent the soiled clothes home in a ziploc. I was repulsed and told them that if it ever happened again to please throw the clothes out. I actually thought it was strange that they sent it home.
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PitterPatter11
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At my child’s daycare, they sent home his underwear and pants. A few times it wasn’t bad and I just cleaned them. Another time, I tossed the underwear. I don’t know why they would throw out the pants. Those could definitely be salvaged.
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| Posted 9/26/19 7:35 PM |
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Posted by jlm2008
I'm sorry, and I don't mean to sound snarky and I'll preface this by saying I do not have kids in preschool, but many moons ago I did work at one. Do you REALLY want them to keep a bag of pooped filled clothes in the room and also , would you even want to clean that? Besides that it wouldn't be sanitary to keep that in the room, it's just gross. This happened to us many times where I worked and we always threw out the clothes and no parent ever complained. In fact they were happy they didn't have to deal with it. But if it is upsetting to you, by all means complain.
If it’s in a sealed ziplock I wouldn’t see a problem with it, when they were infants and had blow out diapers when we were out I just sealed them up. I’ve washed everything my kids have had accidents in and if it’s then not salvageable, then I toss. I would hope they would ask me first before throwing out the kids clothes. That’s like throwing $10 down the drain. I would think they could have called or the teacher has an app with the parents she posts pictures all class long and can send private messages on, she could have quickly said had accident- keep or toss. I don’t think they should have thrown my sons clothes out without asking
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MrsT809
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Don’t even know how to address this....
That's very strange imo and I would have been pissed too. There's no reason they can clean him up and put him in clean clothes but can't bag up a set of clothes, that's the easy part. How is it any easier or more sanitary to put it in a garbage can?
Those of us who have gone through phases where our kids had somewhat frequent poop accidents have cleaned plenty of poopy clothes and lived to tell about it. My niece is currently in one of these phases and it sucks. If I babysit I just bag up her stuff and let her parents decide what to do with it. I'd much rather bag it and put it on my porch than have it in my trash can until garbage day.
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mommy2be716
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I understand the underwear, but I would be pissed about the pants
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FirstMate
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Underwear, whatever. Pants would have annoyed me.
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Don’t even know how to address this....
I’m as frugal as they come and probably would’ve been ok with them tossing the undies. The pants I probably would’ve been annoyed but not screaming and going to the director level.
Just ask that next time they send everything home, no matter what. And remind them that you have spare undies packed for each kid.
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Posted by Katareen
I’m as frugal as they come and probably would’ve been ok with them tossing the undies. The pants I probably would’ve been annoyed but not screaming and going to the director level.
Just ask that next time they send everything home, no matter what. And remind them that you have spare undies packed for each kid.
I haven’t talked to the director yet or responded to the email back from the teacher because I was/ slightly am angry still and was looking online at the handbook first if this policy.
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Posted by jlm2008
I'm sorry, and I don't mean to sound snarky and I'll preface this by saying I do not have kids in preschool, but many moons ago I did work at one. Do you REALLY want them to keep a bag of pooped filled clothes in the room and also , would you even want to clean that? Besides that it wouldn't be sanitary to keep that in the room, it's just gross. This happened to us many times where I worked and we always threw out the clothes and no parent ever complained. In fact they were happy they didn't have to deal with it. But if it is upsetting to you, by all means complain.
If it’s in a sealed ziplock I wouldn’t see a problem with it, when they were infants and had blow out diapers when we were out I just sealed them up. I’ve washed everything my kids have had accidents in and if it’s then not salvageable, then I toss. I would hope they would ask me first before throwing out the kids clothes. That’s like throwing $10 down the drain. I would think they could have called or the teacher has an app with the parents she posts pictures all class long and can send private messages on, she could have quickly said had accident- keep or toss. I don’t think they should have thrown my sons clothes out without asking
I agree with you. When Dd would have poop accidents at daycare, they would bag everything up. It wasn't unsanitary....it was sealed. Probably more sanitary than it sitting in a garbage can actually.
One time the teacher told me the underwear was so bad they tossed it. That was fine. I have tossed many undies in her days of refusing to poop on the potty!
But they would have never tossed an item of clothing like pants.
Eta... and when she was an infant and in the infant room at daycare, there were always blow out diapers on occassion that would soil their clothes. They never tossed her onesie or whatever. It's the same thing imo
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loveus
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I would expect the underwear but the pants shouldn’t have been tossed. I also understand being grossed out with poop and handling it the quickest way possible.
Maybe moving forward you can have them contact you for poop accidents so you can change him and have things done your way. I know some nursery schools want parents available for poop.
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Momma2015
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Even the worst poops, they should send it home in a bag. It's your decision whether to toss it or not.
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sourpatchkids
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I'd be pretty annoyed as well, but I wouldn't complain to the director or anything. I would just ask the teacher to send home the poopy clothes in the future, in a Ziploc.
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When my daughter was in daycare they would bag up any dirty clothes. I don't think they should have thrown it out.
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Is it an actual nursery school?
I mean, I may be upset, but I wouldn’t be phoning the director over this. Id probably be more upset with my kid for having an accident. Also-I’m pretty impressed you found a place they don’t have to be trained. Most I found wanted potty trained at that age if it wasn’t a daycare.
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Chai77
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I would not be annoyed if they threw away the underpants. They were soiled, poop stained, and I always toss those myself. If the pants were clean, I’d be annoyed. I would talk to the teacher and see if the pants actually had poop on them and if not, you want them sent home in a ziplock.
In my DD’s preschool, they call home if the child has a poop accident which I prefer so I am the one to clean my child up and deal with the clothing.
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WannaBeAMom11
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I’d assume the poop was everywhere and they couldn’t bag them. Daycare sent home poop clothes 1x and I told them to toss them if they were filled with poop.
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queensgal
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I made a point to tell my school to please throw out anything with poop. No way do I want that back !
I would ask them what the policy is and communicate your needs. This can easily be worked out.
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ap123
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To answer the “I don’t even know how to address this” question, id respond to the email and say “in the future I’d prefer if you’d return the clothes to me in a ziploc bag and I will determine if they can be salvaged”. This is really not something to get overly worked up over. It could have gone either way, if a teacher sent me home poop covered clothes in a bag I’d send an email saying “thanks, but in the future please throw them out!”. This is an innocent misunderstanding that can be easily addressed with a 1 sentence email.
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BriBri2u
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Me personally, I would have wanted them tossed.
I think you just need to email the teacher and let her know that you want her to just send the soiled items home the if it happens another time.
I do not think you need to call the director about this, that is a bit extreme and not warranted on a first time occurrence.
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MrsDrMatt
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Posted by ap123
To answer the “I don’t even know how to address this” question, id respond to the email and say “in the future I’d prefer if you’d return the clothes to me in a ziploc bag and I will determine if they can be salvaged”. This is really not something to get overly worked up over. It could have gone either way, if a teacher sent me home poop covered clothes in a bag I’d send an email saying “thanks, but in the future please throw them out!”. This is an innocent misunderstanding that can be easily addressed with a 1 sentence email.
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Posted by mommywantsababy
Is it an actual nursery school?
I mean, I may be upset, but I wouldn’t be phoning the director over this. Id probably be more upset with my kid for having an accident. Also-I’m pretty impressed you found a place they don’t have to be trained. Most I found wanted potty trained at that age if it wasn’t a daycare.
It is an actual nursery school they do 2,3,4 year old, no day care options, just nursery and preschool. , it’s a private school on the north shore. The 2s class they don’t need to be trained, 3&4 they do.
I sent an email just asking in the future they don’t toss them and let me decide. I didn’t talk to the director. If it happens again I will
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