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Sash
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Re: Need advice
Posted by jlm2008
I'll lift women up who are real woman and not a 19 year old guy who can't spell trying to think up the most insane scenario he can just to get his kicks posting on a predominantly woman's chat board. I mean the line about the sex being amazing is what gave it away for me....no middle aged woman, a mother no less, is living with a boyfriend, pretty much rent free, but complaining how controlling he is, but then saying oh how can I leave when the sex is amazing!!!! Yeah, we are being trolled hardcore, Hope you got your jollies!
 I did not see the part about the sex. Oy vey!
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Faith26
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Re: Need advice
Posted by jlm2008
I'll lift women up who are real woman and not a 19 year old guy who can't spell trying to think up the most insane scenario he can just to get his kicks posting on a predominantly woman's chat board. I mean the line about the sex being amazing is what gave it away for me....no middle aged woman, a mother no less, is living with a boyfriend, pretty much rent free, but complaining how controlling he is, but then saying oh how can I leave when the sex is amazing!!!! Yeah, we are being trolled hardcore, Hope you got your jollies!
Wow ... this is ridiculous. Im on my phone. Not a computer and my eye sight isnt what it used to be.
Which is causing me to use type things wrong im typing fast..ugh i dont need to explain anything to you little girls. Forget this. Im having this thread deleted
Grow up.
I didnt say oh how can i leave.!!! Twisting my words. I daid the sex is amazing, but pretty much I will leave if i continue to see red flags like what he had been portraying.
What? Women who are in their 40's should not be allowed to say they have great sex!?
im laughing over here at your comment .. youre all being trolled hardcore?!
Simply ridiculous
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| Posted 2/15/20 11:17 AM |
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Faith26
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Re: Need advice
Posted by Sash
Posted by RainyDay
Posted by Faith26
Posted by klingklang77
Posted by Faith26
Posted by klingklang77
Posted by Faith26
We are both in our 40's.. both have gone through divorces..
Yes, i am definitely keeping my eyes open. Hes been living here for 2 years doing ir on his own
. What is making me kinda suspicious is shortly beforw i moved in with him i to.his house, he had said he was getting 400 a month deducted fr his pay due to health insurance for him and his son that his company that he works for just addung it on finally to the employee's.. so now im thinming wait.. in his mind, did he think my moving in would be helping HIM off set that cost.. so essentially whonis really helping who out here?
I dont know bc other times hes givwn me money to treat me to getting my nails done or just some cash for gas.. etc.. so urs hard to twll with him.. but I thinjk from now on im definitely keeping my ears and eyes wide open.
I’m a little confused about your comment about the health insurance thing. Yes, he has to pay health insurance and you moved in, so you should be paying rent regardless. Do you think he only asked you to move in for money reasons? Because that isn’t the best reason to move in.
Regardless, you should still be paying rent, so you aren’t really “helping him out”.
It’s time to sit down and have the money talk. And I think getting your nails done was not necessary. You could have waited two weeks for your first paycheck.
I am starting to see it now that way. Yes
Back in late 2019 he told me the company he works for finally offered health insurance to their employees but that it was going to put him.back $400/month.
We began talking about me moving in to his place
Shortly after.. i lived in a very spacious townhouse.
That my parents owned but didnt live there and I didnt have to leave.
Trust me im in it..and see that he had a tendency to be somewhat controlling now...
So why did you move in with him and leave the very spacious townhouse? Why didn’t he move in with you?
my parents were moving in soon and it could not accommodate all of us.
At the time I thought it was the right move. But we all know that you dont know someone until you live with them kwim?
Wait I thought you said you didnt have to move? Are your parents moving in to the townhouse now just because you moved out? I am so confused.
She keeps changing her story so she can be right. I can’t!
my parents were moving in soon and it could not accommodate all of us. - my sentence.. so how is that me changing my "story'? The place would not accommodate all of us.
Is the same thing i believe I said to the poster who said she was confused.. i clarified it.
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Sash
Peace
Member since 6/08 10312 total posts
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Re: Need advice
Posted by Faith26
Posted by Sash
Posted by RainyDay
Posted by Faith26
Posted by klingklang77
Posted by Faith26
Posted by klingklang77
Posted by Faith26
We are both in our 40's.. both have gone through divorces..
Yes, i am definitely keeping my eyes open. Hes been living here for 2 years doing ir on his own
. What is making me kinda suspicious is shortly beforw i moved in with him i to.his house, he had said he was getting 400 a month deducted fr his pay due to health insurance for him and his son that his company that he works for just addung it on finally to the employee's.. so now im thinming wait.. in his mind, did he think my moving in would be helping HIM off set that cost.. so essentially whonis really helping who out here?
I dont know bc other times hes givwn me money to treat me to getting my nails done or just some cash for gas.. etc.. so urs hard to twll with him.. but I thinjk from now on im definitely keeping my ears and eyes wide open.
I’m a little confused about your comment about the health insurance thing. Yes, he has to pay health insurance and you moved in, so you should be paying rent regardless. Do you think he only asked you to move in for money reasons? Because that isn’t the best reason to move in.
Regardless, you should still be paying rent, so you aren’t really “helping him out”.
It’s time to sit down and have the money talk. And I think getting your nails done was not necessary. You could have waited two weeks for your first paycheck.
I am starting to see it now that way. Yes
Back in late 2019 he told me the company he works for finally offered health insurance to their employees but that it was going to put him.back $400/month.
We began talking about me moving in to his place
Shortly after.. i lived in a very spacious townhouse.
That my parents owned but didnt live there and I didnt have to leave.
Trust me im in it..and see that he had a tendency to be somewhat controlling now...
So why did you move in with him and leave the very spacious townhouse? Why didn’t he move in with you?
my parents were moving in soon and it could not accommodate all of us.
At the time I thought it was the right move. But we all know that you dont know someone until you live with them kwim?
Wait I thought you said you didnt have to move? Are your parents moving in to the townhouse now just because you moved out? I am so confused.
She keeps changing her story so she can be right. I can’t!
my parents were moving in soon and it could not accommodate all of us. - my sentence.. so how is that me changing my "story'? The place would not accommodate all of us.
Is the same thing i believe I said to the poster who said she was confused.. i clarified it.
I posted that before I saw your clarification.
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ChilisWife
God Bless America
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Re: Need advice
Regardless of who is "right" or "wrong" the bottom line is that the OP and her boyfriend clearly have different ideas about money and finances and if they stay together long term it will always be a point of contention and it won't work out so why waste time.
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Sixofus
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Delete please
There are so many red flags on both sides here. If I were you I would get out of there as fast as I could, even if it means moving back in with your parents. Is your son happy with this arrangement? I would much rather my children living with their grandparents than a random guy and his kid.
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jlm2008
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Re: Delete please
Awww damn, my pic won't post. Oh well.
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LSP2005
Bunny kisses are so cute!
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Re: Delete please
Man, you leave for less than 24 hours and this thread blew up!
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jellybelly79
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Re: Delete please
Posted by klingklang77
Posted by jellybelly79
I don’t like that he had a chip on his shoulder nor do I like that he even asks you for $340. He way paying it before you moved in! Huge red flags for me. You got your nails done, big deal! I didn’t move in with my DH until we got married because I’m super old fashioned but not old...we have been together 12 years. I have only ever contributed to household items and groceries. And it’s a joint account so realistically I’m just responsible for actually doing the shopping. Everyone’s circumstances are completely different but he seems way too controlling, especially over a measly $35!
What? You don’t think she should be paying the $340??? Why? She lives there and is using the space. I say this as if they make equal. I know she was unemployed before, but every one has to pay rent.
No don’t agree everyone has to pay rent
I don’t work
I can’t
I don’t pay rent but I’m MARRIED and what’s his is not his it’s OURS
Again everyone’s circumstances are different
Blah doesn’t matter though I don’t even know why I’m responding
Everyone’s opinions are different as well
He paid it BEFORE she moved in he’s clearly capable
He’s being an asshole
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KarenK122
The Journey is the Destination
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Delete please
This thread is crazy. The bottom line is that you agreed to pay the $340 has a contribution for rent. You have funds coming in from your alimony and your child support. If you can't pay for the rent that you agreed upon, you should not be doing something that is a "want" and not a "need" until you pay your rent. Your boyfriend has every right to be annoyed as who knows if he had to juggle money around to cover your late payment. There are MANY people that live paycheck to paycheck and not having $340 is alot of money. If it was a man who didn't pay his bill and went out drinking with the boys, people would be having a field day. Respect goes both ways.
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olive98
LIF Adolescent
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Re: Delete please
Posted by Sash
Posted by jlm2008
I'll lift women up who are real woman and not a 19 year old guy who can't spell trying to think up the most insane scenario he can just to get his kicks posting on a predominantly woman's chat board. I mean the line about the sex being amazing is what gave it away for me....no middle aged woman, a mother no less, is living with a boyfriend, pretty much rent free, but complaining how controlling he is, but then saying oh how can I leave when the sex is amazing!!!! Yeah, we are being trolled hardcore, Hope you got your jollies!
I did not see the part about the sex. Oy vey!
She posted her old name. I think I actually remember her!
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