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ChilisWife
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Re: How long are you willing to adhere to social distancing rules?
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If restaurants, bars, movie theaters open May 15th, I will not feel comfortable going just yet. But, yes, at that point I will start meeting friends for walks, seeing my family, and allow my kids to ride bikes with the kids next door- who have also been 100% home since March 15th, like we have. I will keep a safe distance and have a mask on- but my mental health is rapidly declining. My almost 9 yr old told me tonight he would rather get the virus than have to live like this. I am not willing to do this for 18 months. It is not because I don't care about the greater good, it is not because I want to go get my hair & nails done. It is because I am on the brink of not mentally surviving this.
All I want is for my kids to go to school, and us to be able to safely see some people outside of our immediate family. I don't need shopping malls, restaurants, nail salons, hair salons, movie theaters, vacations, or museums. My son's mental health matters to me. I tell him why we are doing this, I tell him why we have to. He gets it, but he is about to be 9. He can't comprehend it the way adults can. He cries himself to sleep every single night. Has lost interest in eating and face timing with family & friends.
We can't reopen now. I know that. But my family will not survive much longer than another 2 months or so. My own house is collapsing under the weight of this. Mental illness is not easy. Not everyone is savoring every second with their children, making homemade baked treats, and loving homeschooling. Some people are barely surviving each day.
Exactly. It’s not about urgently needing to get your hair done. It’s about understanding that not everyone lives in a utopian fairytale of steady paychecks, packed second freezers in the basement, supportive partners, neurotypical children, and backyards that may as well be playgrounds. Some people are isolating in tiny apartments and don’t want people who live in huge houses screaming at them to stay home. I had a telemedicine appointment with my sons physiatrist who is concerned that he is developing a contracture in his left foot. This would be devastating and would require orthopedic surgery and a long recovery. He is also at higher risk of an adverse outcome from anesthesia. I am going to have to resume his therapy and at that point I may as well be radioactive. I am terrified of Covid. Terrified. But I don’t have the LUXURY of putting my life on hold much longer. Good for you if you do. The sanctimony and unchecked privilege is insane.
I am so sorry you are going through all of this. I know people who have lost loved ones. A friend of mine lost a friend last month, a cousin last week, and has another friend in ICU, but he did just come off the ventilator on Sunday and is making progress, so everyone is hopeful. I do get how serious this is. I also don't believe the media is making it into less than it is. Cuomo says every single day how horrible this is, and how reopening has to be extremely slow and calculated.
The news shows us the insides of hospitals & ICU's, both here in the US, and in Italy. The woman across the street is an ER nurse at a well respected LI hospital. If I am out in the front yard with my kids when she is coming home from work, she will update me. The loss of life beyond painful, horrific, and tragic. That is not lost on me. I do have hope because she has said that for the past week, the hospital strain has been easing, and less people are coming into the ER, less people are being intubated, and more people are recovering and being discharged. I cry daily for the loss of life. I am scared for my health, and the health of all those I care about.
But, guess what? 11 years ago, before I got married and had my children, I attempted suicide. My depression & anxiety is very, very real. I worked incredibly hard to get myself into a place where I enjoyed my life and did not want to die. People suffering in mental anguish, those with children who need extra attention & therapies that they are not receiving, who are not getting a paycheck, and when they go to food banks, there is no more food. Those who are ill with other ailments that are not being pushed to the side, children who are suffering depression from being closed off from school, their friends, their grandparents. Those who spent their whole lives building up a business, only to now have it possibly be gone forever.
People are suffering. From Covid, from having loved ones with Covid, and from a whole host of other things. I'm tired of those saying that if we really knew, we would happily sit in our homes if we really knew. No. I know. But that doesn't stop all of the other problems in the world from continuing as well.
There was a meme going around that said something to the effect of how easy this is- we can save lives by just sitting on our couch and binge watching Netflix. Um, no. Let's see how everyone would still be so happy to do this in 18 months...because, guess what? There would be no country to reopen. Homelessness, starvation, drug addiction, financial ruin, suicide...we will have eradicated Covid, but at what cost?
Sorry, vent over. I just can't take it anymore.
I agree with this word for word. I understand what is happening out there. And I do have somewhat of a privilege in that I have some work left, a decent savings for 6 months, working on getting my stimulus and unemployment, etc.
But 18 months is too long. It isn’t feasible for most of the population. I’m not really sure what will happen to me in 6 months’ time...
NaturalMama, thank you for sharing your very personal story.
I agree with you. This is not feasible.
This is not a long term solution.
You cannot quarantine (and I hate using that word because it's wrong- quarantine is for people who are sick) an entire country of mainly healthy people indefinitely. It was meant to be temporary to flatten the curve. Which it did.
And I'm scared because our governor doesn't seem to have any plan. Any plan other than pushing the date out every 2 weeks indefinitely because he has no clue what to do.
None.
All he cares about is no one dying. Not one person. But he doesn't talk about the people who die of other things- like suicide, like other diseases that go undetected because everyone is cancelling well visits and routine tests. All lives matter, not just lives lost to this virus.
And we have no say in the matter. We are helpless. It scares me.
And we wonder why people are rising up and protesting in the streets. I expect more of that to come to be honest.
Exactly and yesterday he pushed that reporter away with her question about suicide. Telling people to go get an essential job. He has no clue sitting in his mansion and not doing what he tells others to do as he has gone to dinner with people he doesn’t live with and not wearing a mask.
Bingo!! Mr. “do as I say and not as I do” has guests over for dinner and nobody wears masks COME ON! And nobody calls him out on this?! What he said yesterday about people suffering was ABSOLUTELY disgusting and psycho. He should resign.
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How long are you willing to adhere to social distancing rules?
Those who have parents in the at-risk age groups (I assume almost all of us)...will you feel comfortable seeing them?
I don’t mind returning to necessary “normal” life (school, groceries, dental appts, etc.) but I think I’d be terrified to see my parents inside my home or their home. I know they miss their kids and grandkids, but if one of them got gravely sick after a visit from my family I couldn’t handle it.
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Re: How long are you willing to adhere to social distancing rules?
Just to cut down on quoting...
I like Cuomo, but I did not like the way he handled that reporter at all yesterday. She made some good points, but she didn’t have to bring in the protestors. She could have said it in a more eloquent manner, I guess. And yeah, the unemployment will be backdated, but he didn’t really have an answer for people who can’t pay their bills NOW. Not everyone has savings.
I hated, hated his answer of ‘go get a job.’ That is a go pull yourself by your bootstraps’ answer that so many others use about welfare etc. Not everyone can do that when other things are not right in their life.
I like him and he seems to be a sense of reason, but that answer really made me give him the side eye and I’m as left as they come. He did say a few weeks ago about how he set up a mental health hotline, etc. Why couldn’t he just point the reporter in that direction? Or there are immediate programs such as food help, no rent penalties, etc. He had to have known that that question would come up with all the protestors, etc. It was very ill-prepared.
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Re: How long are you willing to adhere to social distancing rules?
Posted by LastLightGlow
I spent all of yesterday having patients FaceTime family to say goodbye before they passed away. The public does not seem to have a great understanding of the nature of this virus, which isn’t really their fault. There is so much media misinformation out there and providers are given a gag order not to talk to the public. If people were to walk about a COVID unit and saw the battle with their own eyes, a true and humbling appreciation for the basics of life would be realized.
Thank for the work that you do. My best friend of 30 years is a physician at a LI hospital and I am aware of the silent hypoxia, the dying at home from thrombosis, young people dying with no underlying conditions etc, that isn’t or wasn’t common knowledge. I acknowledge that this virus is terrifying. I am simple person who needs little, but I would include the presence of another adult, love, physical therapy for a disabled person, an occasional hug, etc as “basics of life.” Literally NO ONE on here is lamenting that they miss the trivial things.
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Re: How long are you willing to adhere to social distancing rules?
Posted by Katareen
Those who have parents in the at-risk age groups (I assume almost all of us)...will you feel comfortable seeing them?
I don’t mind returning to necessary “normal” life (school, groceries, dental appts, etc.) but I think I’d be terrified to see my parents inside my home or their home. I know they miss their kids and grandkids, but if one of them got gravely sick after a visit from my family I couldn’t handle it.
I won’t feel comfortable with my mom or my inlaws. Thankfully spring and summer are here and we can have get togethers outside in the yard w my inlaws. My plan is: I will 100% clean the main floor bathroom with bleach topto bottom before they come here and we will use only the upstairs bathroom. When they leave, I’ll re clean their bathroom for safety for all.
So if we stay outside on the deck (I have a table that seats 12 so we can stay far away) and they have use of the bathroom without much exposure - id feel ok with that.
My mom lives out of state. Will be 81 this June and is diabetic. I don’t plan on seeing her at all anytime soon. We FaceTime and i call her a few times a week. She will probably spend time at my sisters pool (she lives 10 min from her) and they will stay as far apart as need be for safety. BUT I will say, she has repeatedly said she knows she doesn’t have many good years left and she doesn’t want to go too long without seeing her kids and grandkids. She also recently had a scary blood pressure incident that prompted a CT scan looking for stroke evidence. She’s ready to risk it to hug her family again. It’s heartbreaking
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Re: How long are you willing to adhere to social distancing rules?
Posted by Hopefulmama
Posted by LastLightGlow
I spent all of yesterday having patients FaceTime family to say goodbye before they passed away. The public does not seem to have a great understanding of the nature of this virus, which isn’t really their fault. There is so much media misinformation out there and providers are given a gag order not to talk to the public. If people were to walk about a COVID unit and saw the battle with their own eyes, a true and humbling appreciation for the basics of life would be realized.
Thank for the work that you do. My best friend of 30 years is a physician at a LI hospital and I am aware of the silent hypoxia, the dying at home from thrombosis, young people dying with no underlying conditions etc, that isn’t or wasn’t common knowledge. I acknowledge that this virus is terrifying. I am simple person who needs little, but I would include the presence of another adult, love, physical therapy for a disabled person, an occasional hug, etc as “basics of life.” Literally NO ONE on here is lamenting that they miss the trivial things.
Exactly. I don't need to go get my nails done- I will do my own nails for the rest of eternity. I don't need to get my hair done, I have solutions for that as well. I am not looking to go to a baseball game or concert- as nice as that would be - that can wait. That's fine.
But having my daughter educated- and not by this nonsense they are putting on google classroom, seeing friends, seeing loved ones, love and hugs as you say, being able to go for a well visit or a dental appt, being able to go to my office and work while taking the necessary precautions, I don't think those are such huge luxuries.
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Re: How long are you willing to adhere to social distancing rules?
Posted by klingklang77
Just to cut down on quoting...
I like Cuomo, but I did not like the way he handled that reporter at all yesterday. She made some good points, but she didn’t have to bring in the protestors. She could have said it in a more eloquent manner, I guess. And yeah, the unemployment will be backdated, but he didn’t really have an answer for people who can’t pay their bills NOW. Not everyone has savings.
I hated, hated his answer of ‘go get a job.’ That is a go pull yourself by your bootstraps’ answer that so many others use about welfare etc. Not everyone can do that when other things are not right in their life.
I like him and he seems to be a sense of reason, but that answer really made me give him the side eye and I’m as left as they come. He did say a few weeks ago about how he set up a mental health hotline, etc. Why couldn’t he just point the reporter in that direction? Or there are immediate programs such as food help, no rent penalties, etc. He had to have known that that question would come up with all the protestors, etc. It was very ill-prepared.
Didn’t like him before this for all the bad things he had brought to his state. All the illegal activity he is allowing, bail reform, etc. I do like to hear updated information everyday but it was uncalled for yesterday and he is no example for how he is living his life.
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NervousNell
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Re: How long are you willing to adhere to social distancing rules?
Posted by PhyllisNJoe
Posted by Katareen
Those who have parents in the at-risk age groups (I assume almost all of us)...will you feel comfortable seeing them?
I don’t mind returning to necessary “normal” life (school, groceries, dental appts, etc.) but I think I’d be terrified to see my parents inside my home or their home. I know they miss their kids and grandkids, but if one of them got gravely sick after a visit from my family I couldn’t handle it.
I won’t feel comfortable with my mom or my inlaws. Thankfully spring and summer is here and we can have get together outside in the yard w my inlaws. My plan is: I will 100% clean the main floor bathroom with bleach topto bottom before they come here and we will use only the upstairs bathroom. When they leave, I’ll re clean their bathroom for safety for all.
So if we stay outside on the deck (I have a table that seats 12 so we can stay far away) and they have use of the bathroom without much exposure - is feel ok with that.
My mom lives out of state. Will be 81 this June and is diabetic. I don’t plan on seeing her at all anytime soon. We FaceTime and i call her a few times a week. She will probably spend time at my sisters pool (she lives 10 min from her) and they will stay as far apart as need be for safety. BUT I will say, she has repeatedly said she knows she doesn’t have many good years left and she doesn’t want to go too long without seeing her kids and grandkids. She also recently had a scary blood pressure incident that prompted a CT scan looking for stroke evidence. She’s ready to risk it to hug her family again. It’s heartbreaking
I think about this a lot. The whole life is short thing.
Especially for the elderly. As depressing as it sounds, when you are 81, you know you don't have many more years left on earth- regardless of this virus. You want to savor every moment, hug your grandkids, travel if you can, be with family- and now you can't.
The thought of that is just so sad
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Re: How long are you willing to adhere to social distancing rules?
We aren't willing to do it much longer. No way for 18 months. My in-laws are old. There is a great possibility they won't be around in 18 months (even if they don't catch the virus). They already expose themselves by going shopping every day. They might as well see and love their grandkids while they can. Our family doctor is already very sure we had it. He said he would be willing to bet money on it. All the symptoms including loss of smell and taste, my kid was almost hospitalized, but it was before testing was even a thing because supposedly the virus wasn't here (in the USA) yet. We will get the blood test as soon as it is made available to us. I'm not unsympathetic to the families that have lost a family member, but if at some point we're all going to catch it, it will happen regardless.
I read a post from a nurse on FB about the scary reality of working in a Covid unit. It infuriated me. They are not at capacity yet, but they will not perform any sort of breathing therapy for patients that test positive and resuscitation is limited to 1 attempt because they do not want to expose themselves for longer than legally necessary. I understand not wanting to expose yourself but breathing therapy is essential to pneumonia patients. Mucus builds up in their throats and they cannot clear it themselves. It needs to be suctioned a few times a day, there are a bunch of other therapies that can help these patients that nurses will not perform right now. There is no point to even ventilating them. They are basically condemning them to die. It's not the virus that's doing this. They know how to treat pneumonia. If you don't treat it properly it is going to result in death and that is what is happening.
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Re: How long are you willing to adhere to social distancing rules?
I work on Covid units on a big Long Island hospital and not ever have i seen anyone refusing to suction or provide any type of care to their patients. These nurses and doctors spend so much time in the patients rooms as to save on ppe. They give their all. They talk to the families of the patients with such compassion at all hours of the night. They leave work bone tired. There are some who haven’t seen their own families for weeks due to self isolating. I feel if anyone actually spent time in the hospitals and nursing homes battling this everyday people would think differently.
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Re: How long are you willing to adhere to social distancing rules?
Posted by HappyWife515
I work on Covid units on a big Long Island hospital and not ever have i seen anyone refusing to suction or provide any type of care to their patients. These nurses and doctors spend so much time in the patients rooms as to save on ppe. They give their all. They talk to the families of the patients with such compassion at all hours of the night. They leave work bone tired. There are some who haven’t seen their own families for weeks due to self isolating. I feel if anyone actually spent time in the hospitals and nursing homes battling this everyday people would think differently.
I guess every hospital is different. I won't out the person who said it on FB but she also works in a hospital and she admits they aren't doing everything they should for these patients because of the risk to themselves and doctors. She's not the first person I've seen talking about it either. I just assumed their hospital is at capacity, that would make it hard to do treatments on everyone. This hospitals policy is not to do them at all even though they aren't at capacity. I'm not saying these nurses don't work hard and I'm not saying they are lazy, but not providing treatments that could help a patient just to avoid risk, is wrong.
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Re: How long are you willing to adhere to social distancing rules?
Posted by SecretlyTTC14
We aren't willing to do it much longer. No way for 18 months. My in-laws are old. There is a great possibility they won't be around in 18 months (even if they don't catch the virus). They already expose themselves by going shopping every day. They might as well see and love their grandkids while they can. .
This is what I worry about. That many elderly parents may die of old age related issues, vs Coronavirus, having not seen their children or grandchildren in months.
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Re: How long are you willing to adhere to social distancing rules?
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Posted by SecretlyTTC14
We aren't willing to do it much longer. No way for 18 months. My in-laws are old. There is a great possibility they won't be around in 18 months (even if they don't catch the virus). They already expose themselves by going shopping every day. They might as well see and love their grandkids while they can. .
This is what I worry about. That many elderly parents may die of old age related issues, vs Coronavirus, having not seen their children or grandchildren in months.
I've been struggling really badly today with my mental state and this dark thought kept assaulting me that what if I die in the next few weeks for some random reason like a car accident or a stroke or whatever and this is how I spent my last few weeks on earth. Locked in the 4 walls of my house, seeing nobody, doing nothing, every day the same as the next. No vacation, no family get togethers, just weeks upon weeks of imprisonment with a sentence that keeps getting longer and longer. hiding from a virus that probably wouldn't have killed me even if I got it.
It's really starting to wear on me mentally and nobody seems to get it
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Re: How long are you willing to adhere to social distancing rules?
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Posted by TooSoontoTell
Posted by SecretlyTTC14
We aren't willing to do it much longer. No way for 18 months. My in-laws are old. There is a great possibility they won't be around in 18 months (even if they don't catch the virus). They already expose themselves by going shopping every day. They might as well see and love their grandkids while they can. .
This is what I worry about. That many elderly parents may die of old age related issues, vs Coronavirus, having not seen their children or grandchildren in months.
I've been struggling really badly today with my mental state and this dark thought kept assaulting me that what if I die in the next few weeks for some random reason like a car accident or a stroke or whatever and this is how I spent my last few weeks on earth. Locked in the 4 walls of my house, seeing nobody, doing nothing, every day the same as the next. No vacation, no family get togethers, just weeks upon weeks of imprisonment with a sentence that keeps getting longer and longer. hiding from a virus that probably wouldn't have killed me even if I got it.
It's really starting to wear on me mentally and nobody seems to get it
I keep having this thought too, and it's totally freaking me out.
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Re: How long are you willing to adhere to social distancing rules?
Posted by NervousNell
Posted by TooSoontoTell
Posted by SecretlyTTC14
We aren't willing to do it much longer. No way for 18 months. My in-laws are old. There is a great possibility they won't be around in 18 months (even if they don't catch the virus). They already expose themselves by going shopping every day. They might as well see and love their grandkids while they can. .
This is what I worry about. That many elderly parents may die of old age related issues, vs Coronavirus, having not seen their children or grandchildren in months.
I've been struggling really badly today with my mental state and this dark thought kept assaulting me that what if I die in the next few weeks for some random reason like a car accident or a stroke or whatever and this is how I spent my last few weeks on earth. Locked in the 4 walls of my house, seeing nobody, doing nothing, every day the same as the next. No vacation, no family get togethers, just weeks upon weeks of imprisonment with a sentence that keeps getting longer and longer. hiding from a virus that probably wouldn't have killed me even if I got it.
It's really starting to wear on me mentally and nobody seems to get it
You’re not alone. I don’t know if that helps, but sometimes knowing it’s not just you can help a little. I Hope for all of us that the sun comes out and we can at least sit in some fresh air a little bit (without allergies killing you - hey maybe west. A mask while sitting out there breathing, may help w allergies )
Ive been looking up meditation or things that help me clear my mind. Even for 15 min at a time. My MiL crochets , my niece reads a lot, I need to find my “thing” that will let me escape the prison that is my idle mind.
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Re: How long are you willing to adhere to social distancing rules?
Posted by oldtimerocknroll
Posted by NervousNell
Posted by TooSoontoTell
Posted by SecretlyTTC14
We aren't willing to do it much longer. No way for 18 months. My in-laws are old. There is a great possibility they won't be around in 18 months (even if they don't catch the virus). They already expose themselves by going shopping every day. They might as well see and love their grandkids while they can. .
This is what I worry about. That many elderly parents may die of old age related issues, vs Coronavirus, having not seen their children or grandchildren in months.
I've been struggling really badly today with my mental state and this dark thought kept assaulting me that what if I die in the next few weeks for some random reason like a car accident or a stroke or whatever and this is how I spent my last few weeks on earth. Locked in the 4 walls of my house, seeing nobody, doing nothing, every day the same as the next. No vacation, no family get togethers, just weeks upon weeks of imprisonment with a sentence that keeps getting longer and longer. hiding from a virus that probably wouldn't have killed me even if I got it.
It's really starting to wear on me mentally and nobody seems to get it
I keep having this thought too, and it's totally freaking me out.
Me, too. I keep worrying I’ll be dead in my apartment and no one will know I’m dead. Or someone in my family will die and I won’t be able to go over there and see them (I’ve already kind of accepted this and it sucks).
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Re: How long are you willing to adhere to social distancing rules?
Posted by klingklang77
Posted by oldtimerocknroll
Posted by NervousNell
Posted by TooSoontoTell
Posted by SecretlyTTC14
We aren't willing to do it much longer. No way for 18 months. My in-laws are old. There is a great possibility they won't be around in 18 months (even if they don't catch the virus). They already expose themselves by going shopping every day. They might as well see and love their grandkids while they can. .
This is what I worry about. That many elderly parents may die of old age related issues, vs Coronavirus, having not seen their children or grandchildren in months.
I've been struggling really badly today with my mental state and this dark thought kept assaulting me that what if I die in the next few weeks for some random reason like a car accident or a stroke or whatever and this is how I spent my last few weeks on earth. Locked in the 4 walls of my house, seeing nobody, doing nothing, every day the same as the next. No vacation, no family get togethers, just weeks upon weeks of imprisonment with a sentence that keeps getting longer and longer. hiding from a virus that probably wouldn't have killed me even if I got it.
It's really starting to wear on me mentally and nobody seems to get it
I keep having this thought too, and it's totally freaking me out.
Me, too. I keep worrying I’ll be dead in my apartment and no one will know I’m dead. Or someone in my family will die and I won’t be able to go over there and see them (I’ve already kind of accepted this and it sucks).
I think about this too because one of my husband's closest friends has stage 4 cancer with a very low survival rate and his time might be very limited. You can't go out because you are at risk but to live what could be what limited time you have left this way is not so great either.
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Re: How long are you willing to adhere to social distancing rules?
Posted by lululu
Posted by klingklang77
Posted by oldtimerocknroll
Posted by NervousNell
Posted by TooSoontoTell
Posted by SecretlyTTC14
We aren't willing to do it much longer. No way for 18 months. My in-laws are old. There is a great possibility they won't be around in 18 months (even if they don't catch the virus). They already expose themselves by going shopping every day. They might as well see and love their grandkids while they can. .
This is what I worry about. That many elderly parents may die of old age related issues, vs Coronavirus, having not seen their children or grandchildren in months.
I've been struggling really badly today with my mental state and this dark thought kept assaulting me that what if I die in the next few weeks for some random reason like a car accident or a stroke or whatever and this is how I spent my last few weeks on earth. Locked in the 4 walls of my house, seeing nobody, doing nothing, every day the same as the next. No vacation, no family get togethers, just weeks upon weeks of imprisonment with a sentence that keeps getting longer and longer. hiding from a virus that probably wouldn't have killed me even if I got it.
It's really starting to wear on me mentally and nobody seems to get it
I keep having this thought too, and it's totally freaking me out.
Me, too. I keep worrying I’ll be dead in my apartment and no one will know I’m dead. Or someone in my family will die and I won’t be able to go over there and see them (I’ve already kind of accepted this and it sucks).
I think about this too because one of my husband's closest friends has stage 4 cancer with a very low survival rate and his time might be very limited. You can't go out because you are at risk but to live what could be what limited time you have left this way is not so great either.
Yes. How awful.
This is terribly dark thoughts, I know but my mental state has been steadily declining since Monday. It probably doesn't help that the weather has been nothing but dark, freezing. dreary and awful all week.
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Naturalmama
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Re: How long are you willing to adhere to social distancing rules?
Posted by NervousNell
Posted by lululu
Posted by klingklang77
Posted by oldtimerocknroll
Posted by NervousNell
Posted by TooSoontoTell
Posted by SecretlyTTC14
We aren't willing to do it much longer. No way for 18 months. My in-laws are old. There is a great possibility they won't be around in 18 months (even if they don't catch the virus). They already expose themselves by going shopping every day. They might as well see and love their grandkids while they can. .
This is what I worry about. That many elderly parents may die of old age related issues, vs Coronavirus, having not seen their children or grandchildren in months.
I've been struggling really badly today with my mental state and this dark thought kept assaulting me that what if I die in the next few weeks for some random reason like a car accident or a stroke or whatever and this is how I spent my last few weeks on earth. Locked in the 4 walls of my house, seeing nobody, doing nothing, every day the same as the next. No vacation, no family get togethers, just weeks upon weeks of imprisonment with a sentence that keeps getting longer and longer. hiding from a virus that probably wouldn't have killed me even if I got it.
It's really starting to wear on me mentally and nobody seems to get it
I keep having this thought too, and it's totally freaking me out.
Me, too. I keep worrying I’ll be dead in my apartment and no one will know I’m dead. Or someone in my family will die and I won’t be able to go over there and see them (I’ve already kind of accepted this and it sucks).
I think about this too because one of my husband's closest friends has stage 4 cancer with a very low survival rate and his time might be very limited. You can't go out because you are at risk but to live what could be what limited time you have left this way is not so great either.
Yes. How awful.
This is terribly dark thoughts, I know but my mental state has been steadily declining since Monday. It probably doesn't help that the weather has been nothing but dark, freezing. dreary and awful all week.
 I am so sorry for all of you that you are feeling this way. This just stinks. Just know that you are not alone. I am in such a dark place. One of my co workers, who also happens to be a very good friend of mine, called me earlier. She is newly married, no kids yet, her DH is NYPD. She is home alone all the time, and I worry for her. She seems so depressed and so ready to give up, and today she was venting to another friend and they told her "well maybe if you worked in a hospital and saw real suffering, being safe in your home would seem like a blessing instead of a curse." If one more person throws that in someone's face...how about we all just support each other. Everyone is having a rough time, whether you are ok with this lock down or not. It is scary, tragic, and depressing. Let's all lift each other up instead of tearing each other down.
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| Posted 4/23/20 5:27 PM |
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Mrs213
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Re: How long are you willing to adhere to social distancing rules?
Posted by NervousNell
Posted by lululu
Posted by klingklang77
Posted by oldtimerocknroll
Posted by NervousNell
Posted by TooSoontoTell
Posted by SecretlyTTC14
We aren't willing to do it much longer. No way for 18 months. My in-laws are old. There is a great possibility they won't be around in 18 months (even if they don't catch the virus). They already expose themselves by going shopping every day. They might as well see and love their grandkids while they can. .
This is what I worry about. That many elderly parents may die of old age related issues, vs Coronavirus, having not seen their children or grandchildren in months.
I've been struggling really badly today with my mental state and this dark thought kept assaulting me that what if I die in the next few weeks for some random reason like a car accident or a stroke or whatever and this is how I spent my last few weeks on earth. Locked in the 4 walls of my house, seeing nobody, doing nothing, every day the same as the next. No vacation, no family get togethers, just weeks upon weeks of imprisonment with a sentence that keeps getting longer and longer. hiding from a virus that probably wouldn't have killed me even if I got it.
It's really starting to wear on me mentally and nobody seems to get it
I keep having this thought too, and it's totally freaking me out.
Me, too. I keep worrying I’ll be dead in my apartment and no one will know I’m dead. Or someone in my family will die and I won’t be able to go over there and see them (I’ve already kind of accepted this and it sucks).
I think about this too because one of my husband's closest friends has stage 4 cancer with a very low survival rate and his time might be very limited. You can't go out because you are at risk but to live what could be what limited time you have left this way is not so great either.
Yes. How awful.
This is terribly dark thoughts, I know but my mental state has been steadily declining since Monday. It probably doesn't help that the weather has been nothing but dark, freezing. dreary and awful all week.
I am with you. I am just trying to push through as hard as I can. My best advice is if you are feeling down don’t be too hard on yourself. Life is up and down and this is a down point. I think we all need to cut ourselves a little slack during this
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| Posted 4/23/20 5:36 PM |
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Mrs213
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Re: How long are you willing to adhere to social distancing rules?
Posted by Katareen
Those who have parents in the at-risk age groups (I assume almost all of us)...will you feel comfortable seeing them?
I don’t mind returning to necessary “normal” life (school, groceries, dental appts, etc.) but I think I’d be terrified to see my parents inside my home or their home. I know they miss their kids and grandkids, but if one of them got gravely sick after a visit from my family I couldn’t handle it.
I do because my parents are generally healthy. No underlying issues, they eat right, work out, and take care of themselves. I would probably be in worse shape if I got it since I am overweight and smoke (stupid, yes I’m aware)
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| Posted 4/23/20 5:39 PM |
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How long are you willing to adhere to social distancing rules?
It’s so depressing - and it’s not easy being home - I feel like all I do is work. School work and work work. I now work 7 days a week because I have to balance everything and there is no balance. And on the weekends I feel like school work is replaced with housework... My kids brains are going to be mush with all of their electronic usage since I don’t have the bandwidth to do all of those fun Pinteresty things 24-7. We go outside and play board games and stuff but they are getting slighted. We have to limit when we go outside too because our neighbors are letting their kid play with multiple kids - at first we let DS play with just the neighbor but as the pack expanded....
Yes I know there are people who have it worse but it is still not easy to stay home, work full time, parent full time and teach your kids.
I joke with my friend - I finally got a job 2 miles from home and now I am only allowed to work from home.
I was talking to my neighbor the other day - she feels the same way - stressed and sad but feels she shouldn’t because we are home... and aren’t seeing this first hand.
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| Posted 4/23/20 6:28 PM |
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Re: How long are you willing to adhere to social distancing rules?
Posted by ali120206
It’s so depressing - and it’s not easy being home - I feel like all I do is work. School work and work work. I now work 7 days a week because I have to balance everything and there is no balance. And on the weekends I feel like school work is replaced with housework... My kids brains are going to be mush with all of their electronic usage since I don’t have the bandwidth to do all of those fun Pinteresty things 24-7. We go outside and play board games and stuff but they are getting slighted. We have to limit when we go outside too because our neighbors are letting their kid play with multiple kids - at first we let DS play with just the neighbor but as the pack expanded....
Yes I know there are people who have it worse but it is still not easy to stay home, work full time, parent full time and teach your kids.
I joke with my friend - I finally got a job 2 miles from home and now I am only allowed to work from home.
I was talking to my neighbor the other day - she feels the same way - stressed and sad but feels she shouldn’t because we are home... and aren’t seeing this first hand.
It takes me about 45 min to an hour to get to work depending on traffic so I like being able to work remotely (I actually had asked my boss if I could do it a few days a week prior to the pandemic, and she wasn't really open to it) but the tough part is having the kids out of school while doing it- I can't keep up with all the google classroom assignments and the google meets, plus teletherapy for my son. This causes more stress for me.
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