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Gift basket for someone who passed?

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TwinMommyToBoys
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Gift basket for someone who passed?

We moved about 6 months ago, my old neighbor across the street texted me to let me know about a month ago my neighbor next door had passed from covid. They bought the house the year prior and we lived next to them about a year or so. He had a wife and daughter. I’m so upset by this. They were THE MOST careful people you could imagine. I feel so devastated for them. They came from Haiti to America about 5 years ago and worked so hard for that house.
He was the most loving, compassionate, down to earth guy I knew and LOVED his wife and daughter with everything he had and it showed day in and day out.
I want to send his wife and daughter something but I hate to say I know very little what is culturally acceptable for a passing. Do I send flowers? Money? Card? I want to be respectful. Anyone have any insight?

Message edited 4/28/2021 4:31:16 PM.

Posted 4/28/21 4:27 PM
 
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LSP2005
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Re: Gift basket for someone who passed?

Food from Ben’s.

Posted 4/28/21 4:45 PM
 

LuckyStar
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Gift basket for someone who passed?

I’m so sorry, how awful. I don’t know Haitian customs either, so I would err on the side of caution and send a fruit basket of some sort with a card.

Posted 4/28/21 6:33 PM
 

Katareen
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Gift basket for someone who passed?

Maybe a GC to the local grocery store? Money might be tight and that way they can buy exactly what they’ll use.

ETA: And definitely a heartfelt card. I’m sure they would be touched that you’re still thinking of them.

Message edited 4/28/2021 6:38:18 PM.

Posted 4/28/21 6:37 PM
 

LuckyStar
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Re: Gift basket for someone who passed?

Posted by LSP2005

Food from Ben’s.



I mean no disrespect, but outside of the context of shiva, it would be odd for a non Jewish family to receive an unexpected delivery of hot food for near immediate consumption. It’s a lovely gesture for sure, but I’m not sure it’s universal sympathy procedure from a cultural standpoint.

Posted 4/28/21 6:44 PM
 

nycbuslady
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Gift basket for someone who passed?

I think Haiti is a pretty Catholic country, so maybe a Mass Card. But, I would think a sympathy card with a gift card to a local deli or something like that might be best.

Posted 4/28/21 7:24 PM
 

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Gift basket for someone who passed?

I tend to never send money to someone or family if a loved one died. I dont get that concept, nor do I send fruit either because my experience is the fruit always taste horrible, when sent to us.

IMO nothing beats a visit, and a sympathy card, either store bought, self written or Mass card if catholic. I would not send food either unless I know what they eat. Unless you buy from a Haitian deli. OR something from a bakery

Very kind of you to want to send something

Message edited 4/28/2021 9:15:49 PM.

Posted 4/28/21 8:57 PM
 

Mushesgirl
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Re: Gift basket for someone who passed?

i always order from them; i'd go with a non wine basket

wine country gift baskets

Posted 4/28/21 9:49 PM
 

lima19
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Gift basket for someone who passed?

For me, a heartfelt sympathy card is the best gift you can send. But if you want to send something, I would do a local supermarket gift card like someone mentioned.

Posted 4/29/21 12:17 PM
 

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Re: Gift basket for someone who passed?

A sympathy card with a check or one without out. You can send the usual flowers to the service or edible arrange but I am sure the first one is the best.

Posted 4/29/21 2:30 AM
 

TwinMommyToBoys
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Gift basket for someone who passed?

I’m going to get a Mass card and a general gift card so they can use it for anything they need. I’m just so sad over this and really hope it will help

Posted 4/29/21 3:22 AM
 
 

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