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Invites, when not to anymore
Spin off of the thread about the mom who wants to keep getting together and constantly asking.
Question of how many times do you invite someone to a party or to hang out before you stop asking?
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Posted 2/5/22 2:49 PM  |
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Invites, when not to anymore
I’d say a few times. Things happen especially when u have kids but if the parent keeps saying no continuously (let’s say 3, 4 times), I’d stop reaching out.
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| Posted 2/5/22 3:13 PM |
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klingklang77
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Re: Invites, when not to anymore
It really depends on the situation. Generally, 2-3 times. It also depends if they suggest something else. It also depends on the person.
My time is valuable. I don’t have time for flaky people.
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| Posted 2/5/22 3:41 PM |
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Re: Invites, when not to anymore
I also have ones that just ignore an invite and when you ask if they are coming it is like oh yeah no or yes I will be there like wouldn’t you know even though I never answered you. Why you can’t say that when asked from an invite is beyond me.
I am thinking 3 strikes and you are out if you don’t respond and I have to run after you asking.
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| Posted 2/5/22 4:04 PM |
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Pomegranate5
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Re: Invites, when not to anymore
I’d say 3 times, and then I take the hint and pretty much give up.
Unless they make an effort to get together with me/my family in the meantime.
Then I’ll usually keep trying, but not as hard.
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| Posted 2/6/22 8:07 AM |
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Re: Invites, when not to anymore
Posted by Pomegranate5
I’d say 3 times, and then I take the hint and pretty much give up.
Unless they make an effort to get together with me/my family in the meantime.
Then I’ll usually keep trying, but not as hard.
Think so and I am going to hold out posting too as if you don’t answer, then I assume you are not coming. As rude as people are, I just have to accept that everyone is not like me who could never ignore an invite to someone’s home. I know how much people put into having a get together and it’s rude not to allow them to know how much food and drinks to buy to be prepared and not waste money.
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| Posted 2/6/22 8:29 AM |
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Re: Invites, when not to anymore
I would say it depends on different factors and how much they are contributing to the conversations about getting together...but likely 2 or 3 times.
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| Posted 2/7/22 9:05 AM |
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Re: Invites, when not to anymore
Posted by oldtimerocknroll
I would say it depends on different factors and how much they are contributing to the conversations about getting together...but likely 2 or 3 times.
I have about 16 people who never even contributed to one conversation yet. The problem is I have had people who say, well, I didn't respond because I am not coming and figured you would know that or, I didn't respond as I know you knew I would be there.
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| Posted 2/7/22 9:19 AM |
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Re: Invites, when not to anymore
Posted by windyweather21
Posted by oldtimerocknroll
I would say it depends on different factors and how much they are contributing to the conversations about getting together...but likely 2 or 3 times.
I have about 16 people who never even contributed to one conversation yet. The problem is I have had people who say, well, I didn't respond because I am not coming and figured you would know that or, I didn't respond as I know you knew I would be there.
The non-rsvping is maddening to me, and I haven't figured out a good way to deal with it. It's caused me to reduce the amount of gatherings I host because it's impossible to plan properly when people don't answer.
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| Posted 2/7/22 9:34 AM |
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Re: Invites, when not to anymore
Maybe 3 times max.
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| Posted 2/7/22 9:37 AM |
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Re: Invites, when not to anymore
Posted by oldtimerocknroll
Posted by windyweather21
Posted by oldtimerocknroll
I would say it depends on different factors and how much they are contributing to the conversations about getting together...but likely 2 or 3 times.
I have about 16 people who never even contributed to one conversation yet. The problem is I have had people who say, well, I didn't respond because I am not coming and figured you would know that or, I didn't respond as I know you knew I would be there.
The non-rsvping is maddening to me, and I haven't figured out a good way to deal with it. It's caused me to reduce the amount of gatherings I host because it's impossible to plan properly when people don't answer.
It really is and it is for everything. I usually only have 1 big party a year and then just same get togethers because it is a pain. This is my third party this year AND the same people and I have backed off but it is like, why can't you just answer or at least say, hey, I might not be able to let you know until last minute.
I have actually had people say well it is "only" 1 or 2 people so what's the big deal? Well 1 here, 1 there, turns into 10 and that is A LOT of extra food and drinks to prepare for.
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| Posted 2/7/22 9:49 AM |
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MarathonKnitter
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Re: Invites, when not to anymore
it depends on who it is and what our relationship is like.
like others, i would say around 3 times.
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| Posted 2/7/22 1:40 PM |
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Re: Invites, when not to anymore
Posted by MarathonKnitter
it depends on who it is and what our relationship is like.
like others, i would say around 3 times.
Yeah, I guess it should go by situation to situation. This one person is getting 3 strikes. This one situation is just a SMH one
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| Posted 2/7/22 1:53 PM |
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Re: Invites, when not to anymore
Posted by windyweather21
Posted by MarathonKnitter
it depends on who it is and what our relationship is like.
like others, i would say around 3 times.
Yeah, I guess it should go by situation to situation. This one person is getting 3 strikes. This one situation is just a SMH one
yes, sometimes you just have to cut people off.
i've had to do that with some close relatives.
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| Posted 2/7/22 1:58 PM |
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