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Posted 10/1/05 9:42 AM
 
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Redhead
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Re: How do I politely ask my MIL to stop calling us EVERY SATURDAY MORNING at 9:30 am

I would never pick up at that time and maybe she will get the hint

Posted 10/1/05 9:43 AM
 

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Posted 10/1/05 9:44 AM
 

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Re: How do I politely ask my MIL to stop calling us EVERY SATURDAY MORNING at 9:30 am

Your MIL never ceases to amaze me. Does DH truly realize how bizarre she is?

Calling every 30 minutes? That's insane!! I feel so sorry for you. I think the only thing you can do is silence the phone.

Posted 10/1/05 9:47 AM
 

Redhead
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Re: How do I politely ask my MIL to stop calling us EVERY SATURDAY MORNING at 9:30 am

Tell you DH to speak to him mom about the times he gets up on the weekendsChat Icon

Posted 10/1/05 9:48 AM
 

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Re: How do I politely ask my MIL to stop calling us EVERY SATURDAY MORNING at 9:30 am

Sue, at this point I wouldn't even bother trying to be polite. I would not answer her calls until it is convenient for you. Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon

Posted 10/1/05 9:49 AM
 

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Posted 10/1/05 9:51 AM
 

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Re: How do I politely ask my MIL to stop calling us EVERY SATURDAY MORNING at 9:30 am

You should leave a message on the answering machine...

"I'm sorry, we can't get to the phone right now, please leave you message and we'll get back to you. If this is (your MIL's name) please stop calling us so early and let us sleep.
Thank you!"

Chat Icon Just Kidding...

Message edited 10/1/2005 9:52:46 AM.

Posted 10/1/05 9:52 AM
 

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Re: How do I politely ask my MIL to stop calling us EVERY SATURDAY MORNING at 9:30 am

I would unplug the house phone and turn off the cell phones until I am ready to answer them. My family knows I won't answer the phone if it is too early or too late to talk, so I usually don't get calls. You need to start training her - it is your house and you can decide what is an appropriate time for people to call.

If she says anything, I would just say that "we don't answer the phone before 10 on the weekends.." or whatever time you choose.

Message edited 10/1/2005 10:39:35 AM.

Posted 10/1/05 10:38 AM
 

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Re: How do I politely ask my MIL to stop calling us EVERY SATURDAY MORNING at 9:30 am

Find out what time she wakes up each day and start calling about 1.5 hours before that...when she starts to complain tell her that you were taking your cues from the shiat she pulls on Saturday. Chat Icon

Message edited 10/1/2005 10:47:27 AM.

Posted 10/1/05 10:40 AM
 

DebG
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Re: How do I politely ask my MIL to stop calling us EVERY SATURDAY MORNING at 9:30 am

PS doesn't she know just in general that its bad etiquette to call someone before 11a on a weekend.
I thought that was a given??

Posted 10/1/05 10:40 AM
 

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Re: How do I politely ask my MIL to stop calling us EVERY SATURDAY MORNING at 9:30 am

Keep the phone silenced, and dont return the calls. If she calls tonight, have dh explain to her that the 2 OF YOU had something to do today..You were busy!

Posted 10/1/05 10:41 AM
 

Lichi
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Re: How do I politely ask my MIL to stop calling us EVERY SATURDAY MORNING at 9:30 am

My mom has done this... MANY times. And I just tell her that we don't wake up until noon, so she's learning to call after then, unless there's an emergency.

And to answer her to-do list... just keep making yourself unavailable... like you have plans for the rest of the year, or something.

Message edited 10/1/2005 11:21:25 AM.

Posted 10/1/05 11:19 AM
 

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Re: How do I politely ask my MIL to stop calling us EVERY SATURDAY MORNING at 9:30 am

answer the phone out of breath and start moaning Chat Icon

Posted 10/1/05 11:52 AM
 

AJsMommy122
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Re: How do I politely ask my MIL to stop calling us EVERY SATURDAY MORNING at 9:30 am

At 9 take off all the phones off the hook and shut all cell phones off or silence them.

OR call her on Friday and say you have alot of things to do in the morning and you will CALL HER when you are done and ready to take her wherever she has to go.

Posted 10/1/05 1:26 PM
 

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Re: How do I politely ask my MIL to stop calling us EVERY SATURDAY MORNING at 9:30 am

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answer the phone out of breath and start moaning Chat Icon



Kristen, you are awesome!!!!!!!!Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon

Posted 10/1/05 2:21 PM
 

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Re: How do I politely ask my MIL to stop calling us EVERY SATURDAY MORNING at 9:30 am

I guess there is no polite way to ask her to stop calling since she won't it when you've asked her to stop.

When I was in college, my mother called me at 7:30am on a Saturday morning. She said "I hadn't heard from you all week, so I thought I'd try you when I knew you were in." I told her I was sleeping & I'd call her back. So when I called her back, she said "It's after midnight!" I said "Well I thought I'd try you when I knew you were in." We made a deal not to call before 10am or after 10pm from then on.

Can you start thinking of things you want her to do for you on the weekend? Call her at 8:30am and discuss them? It sounds more like she desperately wants her son's attention & feels she needs to make a point of getting in her time. You can prep her beforehand with "we're going to be too busy this weekend, but we'd love to help you out during the week." She can actually do the things she's asking for help on? It's not that she's asking him to cut down a tree or anything, is she?

Posted 10/1/05 2:43 PM
 

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Re: How do I politely ask my MIL to stop calling us EVERY SATURDAY MORNING at 9:30 am

Call HER at 6:30am Saturday morning and tell her that you just wanted to let her know that you'll be BUSY ALL DAY.

Boy, your MIL is something else, I'm sorry to say.

Posted 10/1/05 3:38 PM
 

dooodles
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Re: How do I politely ask my MIL to stop calling us EVERY SATURDAY MORNING at 9:30 am

Posted by june262004

answer the phone out of breath and start moaning Chat Icon





I would love to know her reaction if you did this!!!

I think you're doing the only thing that will get through to her. If her sisters are the same way, then this is a part of their lives. Silencing phones and not answering are ways to let her know you're not there and/or busy

Posted 10/1/05 3:52 PM
 

luvsbob4603
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Re: How do I politely ask my MIL to stop calling us EVERY SATURDAY MORNING at 9:30 am


I would tell you Mil that please do NOT call at 9 am that You will call her when your ready too call her. and that you and dh had a busy week and that you both would like to sleep late on saturday NOT to be woken up in the early am and if she still does it tell her you are going to shut the phone off till 12pm. i guess if you didn't answer the phone that early she would stop by the house!Chat Icon

Posted 10/1/05 4:33 PM
 

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Re: How do I politely ask my MIL to stop calling us EVERY SATURDAY MORNING at 9:30 am

silenxe the phones and tell her you were out.

Posted 10/1/05 7:35 PM
 

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Re: How do I politely ask my MIL to stop calling us EVERY SATURDAY MORNING at 9:30 am

Posted by dpli

I would unplug the house phone and turn off the cell phones until I am ready to answer them. My family knows I won't answer the phone if it is too early or too late to talk, so I usually don't get calls. You need to start training her - it is your house and you can decide what is an appropriate time for people to call.

If she says anything, I would just say that "we don't answer the phone before 10 on the weekends.." or whatever time you choose.



EXACTLY get into the habit friday night before you go to sleep of pulling the phone out of the wall. then she can call forever and will only get ring ring ring

Posted 10/2/05 5:23 AM
 
 

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