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suvenR
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janet
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Re: venting about my MIL and money...
You are not! She is wrong in this! She offered! Yeah is birthday is not till Nov. But like you said you need to get those airline tix too! If she does not give it to you by Friday I would try saying something like if you can't help then I am gonna have to cancel on one of them! Reverse phycology(sp) works wonders! well at least most of the time! good luck!
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Disneygirl
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Re: venting about my MIL and money...
OH don't get me started on MIL's and money. First off I feel your pain. I made the mistake of letting my MIL pay for our photo & video for our wedding. She insisted she wanted to give this to us as our gift but needless to say she didn't have the money for it. She fell behind on her payments and had to hit up my own mother for a loan! We'll be married a year in July and we're still waiting for our album & video. I'll never make the mistake of allowing my MIL to pay for anything again! Sorry you are going through this too.
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dooodles
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Re: venting about my MIL and money...
Ah, MIL's and money. I don't think those words go together!
She shouldn't be making you feel guilty over needing the money she offered to you to pay for things. I like Janet's idea of reverse psychology. Tell her things will be cancelled since they need the money now, NOT in Nov!
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dm24angel
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Re: venting about my MIL and money...
If you cant afford the party alone...Simply tell her you need X amount or anything to start putting away, if she cant then you have to cancel the party .
You have no another choice really?
She shouldnt make you feel bad. Did you express in the begining that you would need the money before Nov? Maybe she doesnt have it? If so you need to ask so you can scale down the party or cancel if you cant do it alone.
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dm24angel
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Re: venting about my MIL and money...
Well if you would be wiped out...you CANT do it.
You have to think in terms of no grey, black and white. TELL her you can do it if she gives you this and this amount and when. If not, then you need to scale things down or cancel and better you know now.
The bottom line is not how shes treating you , but whether you can have the party. How shes acted will not change now...
GOOD LUCK!
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