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Redhead
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Jennifer
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Re: anybody else? SIL/BIL ques
Posted by kbeana24
I think my SIL still doesnt like me bc i "took her brother away"
Ive tried to get to know her, include her in things, (she was a BM) but I still feel that we havent bonded.
How long is this going to last??
I want to have some kind of relationship with her, but am I wasting my time?
ed: Ive been married 2 months - is it still too early for her to accept me? (we were engaged 2 years)
I think you should just give it time to work itself out. Maybe the idea of her brother being married is just a lot for her and eventually she will get over it.
BUT i really wouldn't let it bother you. I would just do the things you normally do. I like my SIL but i wouldn't say we have "bonded". And i am fine with that. Enjoy this time getting used to your new family...all the kinks will be ironed out eventually! 
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| Posted 8/1/05 6:41 AM |
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Tany
Becoming a different woman
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Re: anybody else? SIL/BIL ques
definitely give it time, it took me some time to have a good relationship with sil, we are not the best of friends but we get along.
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| Posted 8/1/05 7:48 AM |
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Boobobunny
Live in the Present
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Dannielle
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Re: anybody else? SIL/BIL ques
i thought that my fsil felt this way when FH and I 1st bought a house....but I just went out of my way to include her in things and ask her how things are going in her life. Im not sure why things were strange at 1st....but now she tells me that she is happy that she finally has a sister that she can count on....even if its just to chat on the phone for hours.
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| Posted 8/1/05 3:06 PM |
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azoodie
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Team SEXY BACK
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Re: anybody else? SIL/BIL ques
i can't stand dh's brother! he is just so quiet and cold. i don't understand how ray can love his brother!
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| Posted 8/3/05 3:53 PM |
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JenniferEver
The Disney Lady
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Jennifer
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Re: anybody else? SIL/BIL ques
I think it'll take more time, it takes a lot of adjusting for some people.
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| Posted 8/3/05 4:48 PM |
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NoochieP
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Re: anybody else? SIL/BIL ques
I would keep reaching out to her. IMHO, when you agree to marry someone, you are entering their (already existing) family, and so, you have a responsibility to at least try to have a relationship with your ILs, especially if your spouse does. I just lost my BIL (I can't believe I am writing that - it still doesn't seem real),  and I am so grateful that he considered me a "sister" before he was taken from us. Not to hijack your post, but I would just go for it - and keep trying. It can't hurt. 
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| Posted 8/4/05 11:39 PM |
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dooodles
When you wish upon a star
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Re: anybody else? SIL/BIL ques
I don't think you need to go out of your way to force the relationship. Just let things progress over time.
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| Posted 8/7/05 9:27 AM |
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bklyngirl
COULD THIS BE MY YEAR??
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Re: anybody else? SIL/BIL ques
in the beginning of our relationship fh would try to get together with his brother and wife. they would always have an excuse. i hardly know them. oh well, what can u do. hopefully when kids comes into the picture, things will be different.
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| Posted 8/7/05 9:42 AM |
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