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RGEC47
Feeling blessed!
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Rosa
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1st time BD felt forced
It was 12am and we were both exhausted, but knew we HAD to  , so we did. Don't tell my DH, but it was bad. Just felt like work, not intimacy, no foreplay, nada. Oh well, you have to do what you have to do. 
Just wanted to share, no one else would understand. 
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Posted 12/30/10 9:22 AM  |
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VeeJay
Love baby feet
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Re: 1st time BD felt forced
That happened to us my last TI cycle. At one point DH said Let's get this over with. . . not exactly a cooment to get you in the mood.
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| Posted 12/30/10 9:31 AM |
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beanie571
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Re: 1st time BD felt forced
I'm sorry. I know exactly how you feel.  It really s ucks. DH and I try to make jokes about it and then try to be really spontaneous and have fun during "non-fertile" times. Hang in there!
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| Posted 12/30/10 9:38 AM |
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nicknmb
SISTERS!
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MaryBeth
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Re: 1st time BD felt forced
I feel like that a lot. Many times I am just so focused on the "goal" and I don't even enjoy myself....I guess it's par for the course!
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| Posted 12/30/10 10:01 AM |
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RGEC47
Feeling blessed!
Member since 11/09 3039 total posts
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Rosa
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Re: 1st time BD felt forced
Thanks for the responses ladies. See I knew you would know what I am talking about.
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| Posted 12/30/10 10:14 AM |
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SweetestThing
So excited!
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Re: 1st time BD felt forced
Been there. At least your dh could finish. We had times that it was so forced and not exciting, that we kind of gave up about 45 minutes in. 
Hang in there, and good luck! 
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| Posted 12/30/10 12:06 PM |
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Otherme
Square head cutie pants
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Re: 1st time BD felt forced
unfortunately, it happens! 
when all you want to do is go to sleep, but you know you have to or lose your optimum window of time
thankfully dh is a good sport about it most of the time, but it definitely wears on us both sometimes.
just try to make up for it with good during the other times of the month! 
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| Posted 12/30/10 12:08 PM |
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angel333
Sigh.....
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AKS
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Re: 1st time BD felt forced
Yup, unfortunately been there many times like this for us a s well..... And sometimes my DH was not able to finish there would also be some fights It was so frustrating. He only had a problem on my fertile days. I think that I used to stress him out to much.... For the past 9 months he only needs to donate into a cup (IUI and IVF) which he finds a lot easier because this b!tch is not around anymore to stress him out!  This whole IF thing puts a huge toll on your relationship as well. Like the rest of the stress wasn't enough....
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| Posted 12/30/10 12:17 PM |
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Irishgrl1017
It happened :)
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Colleen
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Re: 1st time BD felt forced
I hear what you are saying. I try and not tell DH when the time is here b/c I feel like he feels the pressure.
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| Posted 12/30/10 12:27 PM |
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