21.5 month old in a wedding party?

DS was asked to be a ring bearer - he will be 21.5 months at the time of the wedding. The wedding ceremony will be a catholic mass and judging by his weekly behavior now (almost 18 mos) at church i cannot imagine how i will keep him quiet and in his seat. Anyone have any tips or should i tell the bride its a lost cause?

Message edited 2/24/2009 10:20:47 PM.

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Sorry to crash....i had a big wedding party and wanted my niece and nephews in it. They were 5,4,3 and the little guy had just turned 2. I had a Catholic ceremony. Shockingly my nephew walked down the aisle. To control his behavior (of course he was going to get restless) my sister in laws parents were at the mass (they were invited to the wedding because we're close but even so it would have been fine for them to come) and took him in the back when he got restless--my church has a soundproof area. It worked out absolutely fine. If you are not in the wedding then you can take him out if he gets restless or cranky. Just tell the couple that a 21 month old's behavior is unpredictable and you cant guarantee that he will do what they want him to. GL

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My niece was our flowergirl at 20 months; she was carried down the aisle by her mom (my MOH) & then the nanny took her & her little sis to the back of the church for the entire mass. She was fine though & didn't cry or fuss.

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We had my 2 nephews in our wedding party. The 4 1/2yo was an angel. The 23 month old did not want to walk down the aisle so my sister carried him. It was so cute! She was only worried that I would be upset. During the ceremony, he started to act up so my sister's MIL took him out of the room. You can hear in my video him screaming! I turned around and whispered to my sister that it was OK. He was my nephew, I wouldn't have done it differently.
As long as the bride understands that he might be a little unpredictable at that age, go for it

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I would say the bride will need to understand that they are unpredictable at that age. We take DD to church now and she loves it - yes sometimes she walks around but I bring books and other things to distract her.

I would say as long as she understands he might not be willing to walk down the aisle and she is OKAY with the fact that he might need to be carried OR might not make it down the aisle at all, then I think it is perfectly fine. Just be prepared to walk him around the church during the service and if it comes down to it - go to the churches children's room if they have one or take him outside.

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My nephew was 19 months at the time of my wedding and a ring bearer as well. He flipped and refused to walk down the aisle (which I expected) and when he got bored, we had a family member take him out of the room.

I loved having him be part of my special day and would not change anything. (And, he was amazing during the pictures which is really what matters anyway).

Message edited 2/25/2009 8:38:53 AM.

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Posted by FelAndJon


As long as the bride understands that he might be a little unpredictable at that age, go for it

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I think the bride wont mind and if she asked then she should know what is in store.

perhaps your DC will walk down the aisle but he may not sit thru the entire mass. you may have to take him in the back and occupy him

i would have him do it

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DD will be a flower girl July 1st...she will be 18 months.

Im thinking my MIL has high expectations of her walking down the isle herself and what not, but im trying to prepare MIL for DD being very attatched to myself or DH in front of that many ppl.

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my DD is going to my the flower girl for my cousin's wedding in July. she will be 16 months old. I am hoping it wont be too much for her but I am going to try it.

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DD was a flower girl at 25 months. She is usually outgoing but when she saw all of the people, she didn't want to walk down the aisle so I carried her. I warned the bride beforehand though and she was totally fine with it.

Then I had my brother's girlfriend who was attending take her out of the ceremony area as soon as she walked down. She would have been too rowdy if not and would have disrupted the ceremony.

For my wedding, I had my cousin's son who was about 2 be the ring bearer. He was fine walking down but then started to scream. And neither of my cousins' did anything about it until I had to turn around and give my guy cousin a look, and then he finally removed him!