I just wanted to come on here quick to say hello to everyone - I know I don't get on much anymore these days.
Tomorrow was supposed to be an announcement that Victoria was to be a big sister. We tried getting a nice memory to add to today (our son passed away 3 years ago today) but unfortunately today is just going to be the su ck iest day for us ever. When we went to see my OB today - there was no heartbeat
Just so you all know - my OB did check for the baby's heartbeat 3 different ways. No sound on the doppler so we tried an external sonogram. My OB knows me well enough to not let me go home with nothing else. When he did the external sono - I immediately noticed no fetal movement but my doc kept on checking. He then did an internal sonogram but at this pont would not let Chris or I see the monitor. After a few minutes he confirmed what I had already silently motioned to Chris - there is no movement or heartbeat I would have officially been 16 weeks Tuesday (tomorrow).
Wed I am going to LIJ to have bloodwork done and then to antepartum to have Lamineria (sp?) inserted. It's supposed to assist in opening my cervix I believe. Thursday I am booked for the OR since I have to have a D&E. We will be getting genetic testing done on the baby.
We had done IVF back in January and still have 6 fertilized eggs ready for when we get the okay again. Depending on the results of the genetic testing, we may do the genetic testing on the remaining fertilized eggs before doing another transfer.
My OB also feels that my back is in serious spasm and I need at least 3 days of bedrest WITHOUT getting up to clean, shower or take care of Victoria. So I guess my body just needs time to heal from all the pains I've been dealing with along with recovering from the D&E.
So it may be a few more days before I am back on here.
Re: An announcement that should have been tomorrow
There are no words...just tremendous love for you and your family. We are here for you and will do anything that you need us to...Rich has already volunteered himself for anything.
Re: An announcement that should have been tomorrow
Donna - I am so sorry - this has me in tears for all that you have been through. Just heartbreaking. Please take the time to heal and get the rest that the doctor recommends. We are here for you.
