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Charly
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Who "hosts" the baby shower?
Is it generally the parents of the mommy to be or do the parents of the mommy and daddy to be both chip in?
I'm just curious why my MIL doesn't ever have to help with any of my showers? Is it just tradition or should she be offering?
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Posted 7/20/06 10:28 PM  |
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dawnygirl25
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Re: Who "hosts" the baby shower?
she should offer...its the "right" thing to do. although - mine never did
my mom and sister planned mine...
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| Posted 7/20/06 10:43 PM |
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LisaI
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Re: Who "hosts" the baby shower?
I think it's a free for all and whoever wants to do it. For me it was my mother inlaw and sister that did my shower. My mother helped in her way as well. that was my NY shower. I live in GA. so my GA shower was given by 3 of my dear friends.
I have been to showers mainly given by friends or moms.
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| Posted 7/20/06 10:43 PM |
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Charly
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Re: Who "hosts" the baby shower?
I just feel bad - my mom doesn't really have the means and my MIL knows that and she actually put her friends that I don't know on the invite list. How rude!! I told my DH that wasn't appropriate if she wasn't helping to pay for it. My mom has called her asking about dates that work, etc and she never offered to do anything!
I asked my DH to ask her if she'd like to split it and he got mad at me. Why should my mom bear all the cost!
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| Posted 7/20/06 10:52 PM |
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tray831
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Re: Who "hosts" the baby shower?
My friend just had her baby shower and her husband paid for the place.
Us (her friends) just did everything else, invitations, decorations, diaper cake, favors, etc.
You can do your own list and have ONLY those people on that list be invited, and your MIL's friends can see you another time.
However, we all threw her bridal shower and split the costs between all of us.
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| Posted 7/20/06 11:07 PM |
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michele31
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Re: Who "hosts" the baby shower?
My MIL never offers but she also never asks for anything either..she just attends.
I would not allow your MIL to put anyone on the list. Your mother should be the one who calls and tells her "I am sorry that I cannot accomdate your invite list but the shower is being kept small and on a limited budget"..there is nothing wrong with that. i woud not ask her to split the costs. I would just not allow her to add to them.
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| Posted 7/20/06 11:10 PM |
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SuzyQ
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Re: Who "hosts" the baby shower?
My whole family is throwing the shower, but my brother & SIL are "hosting" it at their house. DH's parents both passed away. He has 3 siblings and I'm hoping that they will offer to help at some point. So far they haven't, which is surprising because that's not like them. On the invitation it says "Given by Susan & Wayne's Families."
Your MIL really should be offering to help out (IMO.) Especially if she's inviting her friends. That's just not right.
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| Posted 7/21/06 7:55 AM |
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Dragonfly75
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Re: Who "hosts" the baby shower?
My MIL will be hosting mine since my family lives out of state. I really think your MIL should offer to help, especially if she's inviting her friends. It's her grand-child, too.
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| Posted 7/21/06 8:48 AM |
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maybebaby
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Re: Who "hosts" the baby shower?
Posted by Charly
Is it generally the parents of the mommy to be or do the parents of the mommy and daddy to be both chip in?
I'm just curious why my MIL doesn't ever have to help with any of my showers? Is it just tradition or should she be offering?
I am going through this too!! My MIL is a great person...very generous usually...however, she hasn't offered to help monetarily for my baby shower and my mother is a single mom of 6 with not too much extra $$ while the inlaws are very well off. It surprises me to say the least that she hasn't offered $$ to my mom...she isn't even attending as she lives in Phoenix now. Its kind of upsetting to me. Her friends and family are all going as well. I haven't told my DH how i feel, i didn't want to upset him but i think its really odd. Its her grandchild too!
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| Posted 7/21/06 9:01 AM |
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CookiePuss
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Re: Who "hosts" the baby shower?
It depends. At first it was DH who was planning but my SIL and MIL stepped up and did most of it with the help of my sister. My mother DID NOTHING!
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| Posted 7/21/06 9:02 AM |
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RobeyMuse
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Re: Who "hosts" the baby shower?
My sister and my cousins are hosting the NY one, my sister in laws are hosting the MO one.
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| Posted 7/21/06 10:14 AM |
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LI2VA
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Re: Who "hosts" the baby shower?
my mom did mine... with the help of DH cause she lives in VA. My MIL came to help set up, but thats about it. You can be sure that when the bill came she was no where to be found. 
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| Posted 7/21/06 10:17 AM |
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Tanaholic
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Re: Who "hosts" the baby shower?
My mom is giving me mine.
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| Posted 7/21/06 10:24 AM |
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Stacey1403
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Re: Who "hosts" the baby shower?
My sister did mine.
My MIL didn't offer at all either. She did give us a very generous gift at least
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| Posted 7/21/06 10:37 AM |
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bethsiar
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Re: Who "hosts" the baby shower?
Posted by Charly
I just feel bad - my mom doesn't really have the means and my MIL knows that and she actually put her friends that I don't know on the invite list. How rude!! I told my DH that wasn't appropriate if she wasn't helping to pay for it. My mom has called her asking about dates that work, etc and she never offered to do anything!
I asked my DH to ask her if she'd like to split it and he got mad at me. Why should my mom bear all the cost!
I agree that she should be offering something- ANYTHING. People sometimes feel their overstepping the boundaries though...
My MIL isnt helping paying for the shower, but I know my sister asked her to do c-pieces and wishing well.
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| Posted 7/21/06 11:10 AM |
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mommysboy
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Re: Who "hosts" the baby shower?
my mom gave me mine with help from my grandma and aunt my MIL didnt even want to come she doesnt like baby showers so she clames
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| Posted 7/21/06 11:26 AM |
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CkGm
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Re: Who "hosts" the baby shower?
My SIL (Bro's wife) was planning to have mine here in LA with just some close friends.
But then we found out we are going to be in NY for a gala weekend for DH job in October so now we mom is throwing a second one in NY for me too.
I am so blessed to have a nice family to do all this.
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| Posted 7/21/06 11:27 AM |
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aidamarie
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Re: Who "hosts" the baby shower?
My Mom and sister threw my bridal shower, so my MIL and SIL threw my baby shower. They never asked each other for help on either shower.
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| Posted 7/21/06 11:50 AM |
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