OK, this may sound really bad, but...

do you ever just not LIKE your DH? I'm going through this "thing", where I just don't like him. We are going through a stressful time, financial issues, whether to move out of state or not, our house is way too small for the 4 of us and we need to do renovations, etc. and it's really wearing on me (and him too).

We are very different, too. We handle things very differently and so how he thinks doesn't make sense to me. It's frustrating. It's affecting so many areas of our relationship. Does anyone ever go through this? And if so, how do you get out of it?

Re: OK, this may sound really bad, but...

Yes, I felt like this about about year ago. I had gotten tired of a lot of little things and I was stressed out. I knew that I loved him and I didn't want to end our relationship, so we started seeing our pastor and he would counsel us. It helped me to hear my thoughts and get constructive criticism from an outside source. We did get through it with a lot of patience & putting 110% on both ends.

I'm sorry you are going through this. Have you told him how you are feeling? That my BIG issue. I never told him till I had had enough.

Re: OK, this may sound really bad, but...

Of course!! I think it's normal that you sometimes don't like someone you spend SOOO much time with.

Mostly when I am having those moments I try to distance myself from him a little just so I won't snap at him and make things worse.

And I try to remember the things I do love about him and the good times.

Do you journal? Sometimes if I'm feeling negative about something I spend 10-15 minutes at the end of the night writing down all the things I love about it.

So if it's DH, I'll try to write down all the good times we've had together, even if it's something really small. I censor all the bad things and then re-read the list to give myself some perspective.

Just know that your feelings are totally normal and do your best not to let them get the best of you.

I hope things get better!!

Re: OK, this may sound really bad, but...

Do you journal? Sometimes if I'm feeling negative about something I spend 10-15 minutes at the end of the night writing down all the things I love about it.

So if it's DH, I'll try to write down all the good times we've had together, even if it's something really small. I censor all the bad things and then re-read the list to give myself some perspective.

Just know that your feelings are totally normal and do your best not to let them get the best of you.

I hope things get better!!



Great idea Lauren!

Re: OK, this may sound really bad, but...

I went through that with my DH when we were renovating the house... and I was pregnant at the time... and every once in a while we go through a "stage", I think it's totally normal, it's not that I don't Love him, I always do, always will, we're just different and we get on each others nerves sometimes, we just get through it in time though.