Kind of wedding related, but not really . . .

I have a co-worker that came to my wedding but gave me a card and explained that she owed me a gift because money was tight for her at the time. This is normal for her, since she always struddles with money. I kind of blew it off, but then she wrote the same message in the card. Still no biggie except now I am writing out thank you's and don't know if I should send the picture thank you now and just thank her for sharing in my day or if I should wait a few weeks until we go back to work to see what happens before I send it. I could always send a reg. thank you card if she gives a gift later on I suppose . . . I know stupid question . . . . just wanted to see what I should do . . .

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I would send the picture thank you. Later on when she gives you the gift, I would just say thanks. Believe me, get all the thank yous done and out of the way. To keep one out and lingering would drive me crazy

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I think if it was me, I would send her a picture thank you now, and if and when she gives you a gift, send a nice thank you card to her.

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I had 2 guests that could not give gifts at the time of the wedding. One mailed their gift within 2 or 3 weeks. The others never did so I just wrote their thank you to say thanks for sharing our special day

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I had a co-worker who did the same thing to me 2 years ago said they owe me a gift when i come back from my honeymoon Dh said dont worry about it because they also are very tight with money so i never said anything to him. well he is the one after all who set Dh and i up and his wife on a blind date so thats why we didn't ask.

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I'm a teacher like you. It's hard to juggle finances during the summer if one didn't save all year long and even worse if an unexpected expense came up. I've known many a teacher checking the cushions of the sofa for change in late August just to get groceries.

If she is always struggling with money I'd assume I wasn't getting a gift and would just send the thank you now. If it was uncharacteristic of the person then maybe I'd wait a bit more.

Message edited 8/24/2005 6:31:56 PM.

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I agree with everyone. I would send the TY now, and re-send another. Did you invite more than one co-worker? If so, they may comment on how nice the pic was on the card in front of her and she may feel bad.

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It seems to me that you are understanding of her situation,so why not send a pic?I mean she did come after all to see the celebration of two lives becoming one,and helped in celebrating the marriage!I think she means well & will come through

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I sent a photo thank you to everyone who came to the wedding. If we got a gift later (and we did get a few later....) I sent a regular boxed card thank you note for the gift.