Married ladies....

When did you know he was the one? and how did you know that?

I'm just asking because lately there have been a lot of people around me getting divorced. Recently my bf friends who recently got married in May are getting an annulment.

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Everything in my mind, body and soul showed me that I did not want to live without him. He was and is my best friend, so it was kind of just the natural next step.

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I knew on our second date!! I told him I was going to marry him and he didn't believe me. 5 yrs later, he proposed, and we're going on 8 yrs of being together and our 1 yr wedding anniversary!!!! From the moment I laid eyes on my hubby, I knew he was the one!!! Talk about butterflies in the tummy, knee-knockin love at first sight!!!!!

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I have to say 9/11 happened (unfortunately) and DH is a NYPD cop and he was forced to go down there, THAT did it for me I knew I could never live without him

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I cant pinpoint it. I know at first it was NOT love, but he grew on me. Then I remember feeling like "he KNOWS me, he understands me, and he likes me for all of that" and I had never felt that before. That feeling of being with someone I never had to impress, or change for, and then I realized I felt the same about him. After a while longer, I couldnt imagine anyone being more perfect for me.

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I also have to say that it wasn't love at first sight- in fact the only reason I went out with him in the first place was to get him to stop asking me out. After a while, I came to the realization that he was sort of like an extension of me. As the above poster said, he just knows me for me- there was no acting or putting on heirs. He just became a part of me without me knowing it and I realized that I couldn't be without him.

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I could tell him anything and he still thought I was amazing! Plus, there were all these little synchronicities that, and to quote Sleepless in Seattle, when you put them together, they all added up and felt right.

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It took a while for me to be sure too. I am a very cautious person by nature and never had that immediate head over heels feeling for anyone - I don't think it is my nature. I think it took about 10 months - I went away on a trip for 2 weeks. He met me there for the second week of the vacation. When I met him at the airport, I realized how much I had missed him in only a week and that was when I knew this was the guy I waited for.

I knew when he became the first person I wanted to tell all of my good news, or the first one I turned to when I was upset, and the last person I wanted to talk to before I went to bed at night. I knew when I realized he thinks I am beautiful and makes me feel that way about myself everyday - that he loves my body with all of its imperfections. I knew when I realized that he puts me ahead of every other person in his life and I knew when I realized I trust him more than anyone else I know

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I oddly knew the night I met him. I know it sounds like a crock of sh-t to some people, but I really did know. AND I even told my aunt the next day that I thought he was the one. I'll never know why I thought that, but I did. About a week later, he told me he knew he was going to be with me forever.

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After our Second Date, I came home and wrote it on my journal.

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I dont know how or why but it was the first day i met him and he touched my arm (he was a medical assistant at the time and he was taking my blood.. i was the patient.. )

I just got this "feeling". He doesnt believe me when i tell him that but whatever MEN!

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I knew on the first date.. I had this feeling come over me during dinner (just a thought, I am going to marry him).
I told my friend as soon as I got home and at our wedding she told the story on our wedding video.. it was very sweet.

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We worked so well together right from the start and we were both in denial because we had come out of bad relationships.
Needless to say after a few months we realized this was it and the rest is history.
I am still amazed at how well we get along and how easy this relationship is compared to any other's I was in. I now know this is how it should be.