Friend vent...real long

Remember that friend I was telling you guys about- the one whose preg. and I was helping out... Well- I had written her that email...and she wrote me back saying she needed me right now...and just to ignore her bf... he even called an apologized for being such a jerk! (prob because she made him..not cuz he was sorry)

Anyways-her BF is or was one of DH really good friends... I hooked them up (even though I strongly dont agree with hooking friends up with friends)

Well- DH and I were apart of this group of friends... (mostly DH friends) there GF's were on the much younger than me side (which is pretty damn young) and nice to socialize with...Of course after we had Ryan we lost touch with ALL of them...

They dont understand why we dont wanna go out to dinner at midnight....or why we dont wanna go out drinking and such...

Actually shortly after Ryan was born...I got into a erbal fight with the one gf... (I overheard her talking some cr@p about me to the other guys gf...yes in MY HOUSE...) Make a long story short...I asked her to leave..and the roads have been sooo rocky since...

We dont get invited ANYWHERE anymore...no one calls us...and to be honest I dont care... But what sux is my Best friends boyfriend is still really good friends with that group... They do everything together...

Again my overly sensitive feelings are hurt...I try to make plans or invite my best friend and her bf over all the time...and well shes always out with this other group...I know its not her completly...but I miss her!!!!!

I had all of these people at my house for NYE... I paid all the money for everything to be catered and no one even said thank-you... They ate, drank, watched the ball drop and left... Ooo and somewhere in there spilled blue jello shot all over my white walls

Wow Im really blabbering now... Then tonight..I call best friends bf (who dont 4get is/was a friend of mine...) trying to get in touch with her...I aked what there doing tonight...he says going to the movies... She never called me back all night... I finally get her on the comp. now..and it turns out she was out with all of them... no one invited us... I spoke to her BF today he told me what they were doing and never even said... do you wanna come????

SHe is totally avoiding me...cuz she knows what she or they are doing is f'd up...Again.. I dont care about all of them... Icant stand them...but it sux, im never seeing my BF cuz of that..

Again...I try to do the right thing...and i get sh!t on!

I am one big porta potty!

Re: Friend vent...real long

i would call her and ask her to come over (just her) and be upfront and honest about how you feel. tell her that you are upset that the two of you drifted apart and not really sure why. just because you have a child doesn't mean you still can't socialize.

curious as to why you invited all these "friends" for NYE knowing the current relationship you have w/ all of them?

Re: Friend vent...real long

Re: Friend vent...real long

Whatever happened with the baby issue??

If she's going to have it, their lives are going to change drastically and she'll be beggin to have you in her life.

Re: Friend vent...real long

Re: Friend vent...real long

Relationships with friends can get really rocky sometimes, especially with you with a new baby...maybe she feels that you don't want to go out now that you have a baby.
I would have a sit down with her, either in person or on the phone, and let her know how you feel and that you are upset about your friendship falling apart.
Good luck!

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If she is pg, when baby is born, she wont be going out @ midnight anymore either.
Like someone said, she;'s going to be "looking" for you at that time, because, her life is going to change..big time!

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Sounds like shes just and all of them are at different stages of their lives. They havent moved past the partying stage and they will but you cant get mad that they havent if their situations are different then yours.

If yourr BF truly cares , then like others said I would talk to her and try and make some plans like once a month to do something and stick to it.

Me and two of my friends were always backing out of plans, and not showing up places. We all were upset with each other and didnt know it. We made a plan to go out just us every 3-4 weeks for dinner, we always do it, we make no excuses and we sooo look forward to it, without any dissapointment.

Good luck...

Re: Friend vent...real long

Re: Friend vent...real long

Ok-

I invited them all to try and have everyone together...and make everyone happy...but not so much!

She isnt planning on keeping the baby...but right now, they're trying to determine if shes too far a long...

I agree with should make time to go out just us...but she always wants to be with him