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Kinda morbid ques, for the jewish families

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JenniferEver
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Kinda morbid ques, for the jewish families

We just came back from visiting FH's grandparents in FL, neither is doing well and they just recommended hospice care for grandma.

I know this is really morbid, but we're already thinking ahead to going down there for the funeral and shiva.

Doug feels guilty that we ay not be able to be there for all 7 days as we have been for local relatives. What is customary for attending shiva for out of state relatives.

Posted 8/7/06 2:08 PM
 
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Re: Kinda morbid ques, for the jewish families

The rabbi usually talks to the family about the length of shiva. Your FH as a grandson may not have the same rules as his dad. I don't believe he is required to sit shiva for 7 days. I've all my grandparents and never sat shiva. My mom and dad did, but an abbreviated shiva for 3 days.

You can go be with them for a few days, but I don't believe 7 days is required.

Posted 8/7/06 2:21 PM
 

JenniferEver
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Re: Kinda morbid ques, for the jewish families

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The rabbi usually talks to the family about the length of shiva. Your FH as a grandson may not have the same rules as his dad. I don't believe he is required to sit shiva for 7 days. I've all my grandparents and never sat shiva. My mom and dad did, but an abbreviated shiva for 3 days.

You can go be with them for a few days, but I don't believe 7 days is required.



I don't think grandchildren are one of the 7 relatives required to sit shiva at all. I'm just wondering culturally...

I figured you usually get off 3 days for mourning, so maybe we could take off an extra day to be there for 3-4 days.

Posted 8/7/06 2:23 PM
 

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Re: Kinda morbid ques, for the jewish families

Posted by JenniferEver

Posted by Blu-ize

The rabbi usually talks to the family about the length of shiva. Your FH as a grandson may not have the same rules as his dad. I don't believe he is required to sit shiva for 7 days. I've all my grandparents and never sat shiva. My mom and dad did, but an abbreviated shiva for 3 days.

You can go be with them for a few days, but I don't believe 7 days is required.



I don't think grandchildren are one of the 7 relatives required to sit shiva at all. I'm just wondering culturally...

I figured you usually get off 3 days for mourning, so maybe we could take off an extra day to be there for 3-4 days.



I would go with what you feel comfortable. You are not required to sit, but being there for the family is important if you guys can swing it.

Posted 8/7/06 2:24 PM
 

JenniferEver
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Re: Kinda morbid ques, for the jewish families

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Posted by JenniferEver

Posted by Blu-ize

The rabbi usually talks to the family about the length of shiva. Your FH as a grandson may not have the same rules as his dad. I don't believe he is required to sit shiva for 7 days. I've all my grandparents and never sat shiva. My mom and dad did, but an abbreviated shiva for 3 days.

You can go be with them for a few days, but I don't believe 7 days is required.



I don't think grandchildren are one of the 7 relatives required to sit shiva at all. I'm just wondering culturally...

I figured you usually get off 3 days for mourning, so maybe we could take off an extra day to be there for 3-4 days.



I would go with what you feel comfortable. You are not required to sit, but being there for the family is important if you guys can swing it.



I know we definitely need to go, but I want FH to know he's not "bad" if we can't make it for 7 days

Posted 8/7/06 2:25 PM
 

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Re: Kinda morbid ques, for the jewish families

Sorry Jenn. No advice, just Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon

Posted 8/7/06 2:27 PM
 

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Re: Kinda morbid ques, for the jewish families

Posted by JenniferEver

Posted by Blu-ize

Posted by JenniferEver

Posted by Blu-ize

The rabbi usually talks to the family about the length of shiva. Your FH as a grandson may not have the same rules as his dad. I don't believe he is required to sit shiva for 7 days. I've all my grandparents and never sat shiva. My mom and dad did, but an abbreviated shiva for 3 days.

You can go be with them for a few days, but I don't believe 7 days is required.



I don't think grandchildren are one of the 7 relatives required to sit shiva at all. I'm just wondering culturally...

I figured you usually get off 3 days for mourning, so maybe we could take off an extra day to be there for 3-4 days.



I would go with what you feel comfortable. You are not required to sit, but being there for the family is important if you guys can swing it.



I know we definitely need to go, but I want FH to know he's not "bad" if we can't make it for 7 days



Not at all..let him do what makes him comfortable, but he is certainly not bad..Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon

Posted 8/7/06 2:46 PM
 

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Re: Kinda morbid ques, for the jewish families

if it is out of state and his grandparents, i would say 2 days.

Posted 8/7/06 2:52 PM
 
 

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