I am SO hurt and upset...

When I told my parents that we were having a baby (I was 6 weeks) I asked them to not tell anyone until 12 weeks or until I told them I felt comfortable telling people. My mom PROMISED me she wouldn't and even kept telling me as the weeks went on how she is so proud of herself for NOT telling anyone! I was also proud of her b/c I know how her and her friends are- telling eachother EVERYTHING (and I don't mean just a couple of friends- there's about 15 of them!) I told her specifically NOT to tell ANYONE b/c her friend's daughter had gotten preggo and the mother told everyone (my mom told me) and then she went through a horrible m/c a week later and was devistated. I'm sure I don't have to tell you why I wanted to avoid a situation like this.

Well, today was her 60th b/d party- a surprise I painstakingly put together through all of my morning sickness and tiredness. I paid attention to every detail as I know my mom is critical and would want everything to be just so. I am currently 10 weeks now and had asked her a few days ago to still keep it a secret for another 2 weeks. Well I bet you can see where this is going!

My mom's friend "N" was the first to arrive. As soon as she walked through my door, she congratulated me on the baby! I said to her that no one is supposed to know and she just shrugged. I now knew that my mom betrayed my trust and blabbed!

When my mom got here, she asked me in private if she could tell people. I said to her, I think they already know and she started looking like she did something wrong.

Well, the party went on and I decided to let it go for the day and talk to her another time. Why ruin HER day? I told her to go ahead and tell people and she made a "big" announcement. Other people started to come up to me and tell me that they already knew and that my mom told them weeks ago at a lunch they all went to!

At the end of the night when everyone left, my mother began to swear to me that it was only her one friend that she told . I told her that the others told me and that I was hurt and very upset about this. She admitted NOTHING and turned it around on my dad and me! I am so p!ssed at her and that she lied to me when her friends told me what happened! I have also come to learn that our financial planner (my parents and I have the same one) came over my parent's house the other day to discuss finances and she told him too

I feel so betrayed and upset! HOW could my own mother do something like this????? I am her only child and it doesn't seem like she cares for me or respects my wishes!

The best part of this is that she had my dad call me when they got home to tell me that I OWE HER AN APOLOGY W T F????????

Sorry so long- I really needed to vent!

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My mother told everybody- my Grandmother, uncles, aunts, even my brother- all before I got a chance to. I was angry at first, but I realized that she was just so excited that she had to tell everyone. I can't stay angry at her for being so happy. But I still feel like she stole MY moment to tell people.

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Sorry you have to go through that.....

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Ohhh, I'm so sorry - you must be so hurt

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Oh I'm sorry!!!

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I am so sorry. You have every right to feel hurt. I go through so many things with my mom and somehow it's always my fault.

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I'm so sorry, I would feel the same way. I have to tell my mom everyday not to tell people, she almost gave it away last night at dinner with my bro and sis in law.
I understand her excitement but at the same time, it's frustrating.

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I totally understand....I was only 7 weeks when my inlaws told everyone at my father in law's retirement party. I know they were just excited but I think it was too early to tell and I was slightly upset.

I think mom's and dad's just get excited when they become grandparents they dont think that they are hurting you.

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this is exactly why i will insist that we do not tell my in-laws until i'm ready for everyone to know. they have big mouths too!

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Wow...I'm sorry your Mom upset you like this. You are not the one who owes her the apology.

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I am so sorry. I know my mom would do the same thing too. Just try to remember, she wasnt doing it to hurt you, she's just very excited.

She definitely owes you a BIG apology

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i asked my mother not to tell for the same reasons and she called my brothers and told them with in 5 minutes of telling her i got an email from my brother congratulating. i was so ****** and told her not to tell anyone else well she told half the family and all her friends. i have to understand this is her first grandchild but got for bid i had a misscarriage i would be uncomfortable. im at 16 weeks now but its just the point.